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RogueHD
| Male Switch, 51, Portland, Oregon
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REVISED -
I am a Switch, but it is largely dependent upon the attitude and demeanor of the Woman in the relationship. If She is a strong, confident, assertive woman with everyone, all the time I easily fall into a submissive stature with Her. If there are some breaks in that personality, then I would attempt a shared leadership role, but that role could be 30-70, 50-50, etc.
I feel like there is more probability for me to exhibit a dominant side if there was an Asian woman involved, but that is NOT the case for all of those relationships, agauin, it is the approach and attitude of the woman that dictates this.
I take my lead from the woman, so sub in that side of things, and it is up to Her if I were able to participate more on the D side.
Ideally, I consider myself looking for a confident and assertive Domme to assert herself and take control. I would like Her to take control both mentally and physically. I have dependents and cannot manage a findom. But I can provide intelligent, good conversation, obedience, trustworthiness, and a strong desire to serve a strong, confident woman who has use of a man ready to be molded into her boy. I will always do as told and will tell Maam when I am successful or failed, and why I failed. Ready for use in real time or online,phone.
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Sub thoughts for a Domme;
What pleasure means to me ... as a submissive man, pleasure, to me, is knowing that i am making Her happy, providing a service to or for Her, filling the role that She wishes me to fill, for Her and Her pleasure.
I can do or perform acts that bring me pleasure, but it is empty if She doesn't derive pleasure, happiness, amusement or satisfaction from it. I am always hoping to make Her happy or to provide something useful to or for Her. A disagreement about what type of food to eat, what movie to see, what we are doing for the day .. the bottom line is She will have the final say, the Control to determine those things and to exercise that power when and how She sees fit.
I am happiest knowing that She is happy. To make Her smile or see the approving look in Her face is all the pleasure I need and anything further beyond that is simply icing on the cake.
I think what it means to the exchange between a Domme and Her sub/slave is mentioned in the above, but essentially it means that my pleasure only exists and should only be possible if i am pleasing Her .. it is Her desires and wants that need to be met, and my ability to assist or aid in that brings me great joy and happiness, and is the only thing that really pleases me.
Self-gratification is nice, but hollow and empty as i am not fulfilling the desire and yearning i have to know that i am pleasing Her. I exist for Her pleasure and that is fulfilling.
I look forward to submitting my ego and desires to Her, for Her to guide, shape, influence and control.
== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ ==
92% Switch
88% Submissive
79% Experimentalist
77% Dominant
75% Master/Mistress
74% Degradation receiver
72% Bondage receiver
71% Slave
69% Bondage giver
67% Vanilla
65% Owner
59% Brat tamer
56% Voyeur
55% Sadist
55% Masochist
55% Primal (Hunter)
54% girl/boy
53% Degradation giver
52% Primal (Prey)
50% Daddy/Mommy
48% Brat
44% Ageplayer
41% Pet
40% All-Rounder
35% Non-monogamist
32% Exhibitionist
See my results online at http://bdsmtest.org/result.php?id=491352
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