NOT LOOKING.   03.11.16

Surrey Sussex Kent border.

 I am assured that I am good looking, and I am self aware enough to know I am a calm, centred, highly intelligent, easy going, non-arrogant, alpha dominant, with experience of D/s that is spread unevenly over the last 30 plus years.

My informal filters:-

Always happy for you to make contact first.

I will not be interested if.....

• you give not the slightest geographical clue about where you are - you clearly have no interest in actually meeting.
  
• you invite people to "Tell me what you want to do to me" - you are a man masquerading as a woman or a fantacist.
  
• you are early twenties, a "slave" and willing to relocate - you need a passport or you are a man.
  
• you still believe that your submission is a gift. It isn't. There should be a balanced understanding with neither of us getting more or less than the other. Two equals but opposites - yin and yang, dark and shade.
  

I suppose I had better mention that underneath the pillar-of-society veneer (yup, no photos!), I am a dirty, kinky, lascivious, libidinous, sadistic, caring, warm human, who has a penchant for being a Daddy-Dom, and delights in embracing depravity, the taboo and perverted.

I don't "play".  I have kinky,  D/s,  sm  type relationships and I  have significant others – if not vital others!

 I would like to meet someone over the next few months for something meaningful and on-going.  And local!

 It might be that you already have another relationship and want/need to explore shades of poly, or an open relationship etc. But I am not interested in play for it’s own sake.

 I live right on the Surrey/Sussex/Kent borders.

Was on IC for 12 years as GentlemanMaster, Sussex Dom, and then Richard Sussex.

 Sadist                                     100%

 Dominant                                 89%

 Experimental                           79%

 Exhibitionist / Voyeur             71%

 Bondage                                   29%

 Switch                                     29%

 Degradation                             29%

 Masochist                                29%

 Vanilla                                      11%

 Submissive                               7%

 So here I am in the meat market, here's my slab, and I'd better make a reasonable fist of arranging myself on it!

Let's start at the top and work down, eh?

Head - (Brains, mind, personality, psyche, hair, teeth....):-

Hair and teeth:- Yup, and home grown. The hair is short and dark/fair, the face is clean-shaven and on occasion can vaguely remind people of Roger Moore. Or not. Maybe it's just vague people.

 Brain:- Too clever by half sometimes. Privately over-educated, intelligent, cultured, well informed, with wide and disparate interests and clear views on many subjects. Well spoken and careful with words. Non judgemental where it matters and loath snobbery. My head is most decidedly ruled by my heart. If I'm not careful, which I am, I can easily end up being a twat. And I have. I fully own that I am capable of making mistakes – in fact I'm quite good at that.

 Personality:- Alpha. By which I mean calm, controlled, centred, comfortable with myself and others in any situation in which I might find myself. I do not mean pushy, arrogant, loud, life and soul attention seeker – that's called being a 'twat'.

Dominant, by which I mean I naturally take quiet unassuming control with a warm smile whenever it seems appropriate. I like carrots as well as sticks. I don't mean domineering, bullying, or control freak - this is known as being a 'twat'.

 Torso:- Not athlete, that's for sure, and I'm carrying at least ½ a stone too much, but not obese, corpulent nor even that fat! Got both kidneys and my liver function is top notch, I'm told. Lungs are hearty from decades working in the performing Arts, and in spite of enjoying a drink and being an ex-smoker.

Heart:- Ah now there's a thing. Tricky little organ this one. It has caused me awful pain at times, and it rules the roost. I am in one of the caring professions these days – no, I'm not a male nurse, nor a flight attendant! I care, I cherish, and empathise, even if I don't really want to. It gets me into far more bother than my prick ever did. Up to a point.

 Tackle and arse:- All complete, average to good in mass, fully functional, and I'm capable of holding complete conversations through my arse – after all, I'm also engaged in politics where it's a prerequisite. I'm told my bum ain't bad, but I can't readily see it, so honestly I can't tell you.

 Arms & legs:- These are GREAT! They play a big part in enabling me to enjoy stuff like motorcycling, flying, eating out, cooking, drinking, and all those fab kinky dirty perverted activities we all love and hate!

Conclusion:- Make no mistake whatever - I am abso-pigging-lutely real. If we arrange to meet I will be there. I do not play games. What I say I will do, is exactly what happens.

This is very important to me as well as a lot of fun. I am a safe, non-extreme, totally genuine, caring, filthy, slightly sadistic bastard, disguised as a substantial and highly respected gent in my fish bowl.

I'm not looking for NSA. I am looking for a close, personal, emotionally charged D/s LTR, between two equals. Someone who might become friend and lover, sharing vanilla as well as kink and consensual moral turpitude.

 I do not switch.

I am also pragmatic and will not engage with lovely folk who happen to live in Aberdeen, Nova Scotia or even most of Greater London.