British-born, Canadian-raised, Black LESBIAN. I live in downtown Toronto, but work for a UK company. Gotta love that 'trans-atlantic commute'.

I'm a relationship dominant. And kinky but also monogamous. I'm not really into BDSM as a ' fun lifestyle thing' (munches, pagentry, 'play parties', that sort of thing) although I have attended in events in the past, and may do so again. Still, to be clear, yes, definitely I am into BDSM on a day-to-day basis within a relationship.

I'm looking for a smart, sexy, lesbian who is interesting in and out of the bedroom. I'm not looking for someone who is into 'topping from the bottom'. That just won't work with me. Since I'm not a switch (each to their own), I'm not flexible on this point. Those who have tried it with me aren't with me. I'm strictly real-time/real-world, and I don't do cyber, so don't ask.

My profile is detailed about the activities I enjoy indulging in as a top, and experience now leads me to not really bother with people who don't fill out their profiles because detailed profiles save time, and cut to the chase.

Physically: I'm not too tall. Really should get back to working out a bit more seriously. These days, I'm playing "pickleball" quite a bit. I've got great teeth, and a little dimple in my right cheek. Skin's got dark patches, but hey that's what makeup's for, right?

I definitely received more than my fair share when it comes to certain, um, physical endowments and they're still 'holding up' well. I have used to have long hair (extensions), but now I have these cool thin dreads that are growing wicked fast.

I'm a journalist and filmmaker. I also write hard-core woman-to-woman BDSM stuff. I Love to play both Backgammon and Scrabble. And I'm learning to play Go, and still trying to figure out how to juggle.

Your age, race and looks are not important, but your personal habits are. I'm a non-smoker, and looking for same (or someone willing to quit). I'm not into drugs of any kind, or those who are. Social drinking is fine.

Clarification: Lesbian means definitely no men of any kind should contact me asking me to be their domme (or their submissive). This is a concept some guys on this site can't grasp because they read this declaration and still write, which I find ridiculous, and disrespectful. And to be even more clear: I don't hate men at all, on the contrary, but I have enough male friends, and I'm just not here to meet guys "that way".

Personal limits: sexually, I'm not into poop, pets, or kids - that's just plain nasty stuff as far as I'm concerned.

As for my philosophy on a slave's limits: mine are hers.  Someone's inexperience is not a problem for me. I especially enjoy exploring limits and then working to expand them. For example, if she's never done anal, fine, but it's something that I will initiate her into.