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Gauis
Male Dominant, 51, Zhengzhou, China 
Gauis

My purpose being here is to continue to learn and grow. My original profile and journal entries remain intact to help reveal 'who' I am.

The best single word deion of me would be - complicated.

I am 'different', 'peculiar', and 'cut from a different cloth'.  I do not fit within a tidy box.

 I am prone to over-analyze virtually everything.  I generally function several moves ahead of other people. 

I have an affinity for carefully considered and well constructed thoughts, words, and actions.  This often causes frustration for me because I function at a different level from the general populace and all of my effort is lost on them.

I am friendly but reserved.

I have extremely high moral standards.

I can be distant.

I think I have a superb sense of humor ( but I might have difficulty providing references.)  (Just ask me and I will tell you!)

When in a particularly good mood, I will sing inappropriate songs from musicals while in the shower, but never with my outback hat on, although now that I have thought of this .......................

My favorite place on this planet is the bottom of the ocean !

There is a special place in my heart for turtles ?

My true name means 'comfort'.

My favorite 'album' (see I am dated) is Tea for The Tillerman by Cat Stevens, although I am very much pleased and comforted by Nora Jones and Dianna Krall.  The single song which has touched me most is Sammy's Song by David Bromberg.  (I have never searched for it but good luck finding it!)  I played my copy once, recording it for my use.

I have achieved True friendship four times in my life so far!  Two have died.  All four were men.

I am always in control of myself.  I am definitely 'dominant'.

There is no room in my heart to share dominance in a relationship - internally or externally.

I do not seek 'experiences', 'practice', or 'playing' - Real Life Only!

I have no interest in satisfying someone's Curiosity or Fantasy - Real Life Only!

I am compassionate.

I am generous.

I enjoy 'shoe shopping'  with a Lady!

I go out of my way to show kindness and consideration to others.

My life ambition is to be known as a good person.

I also want to: Find Myself, Share my World, and Experience Peace.

I AM A POSITIVE INFLUENCE ON THIS WORLD  !!!

I could never knowingly harm another person (I am not talking about discipline, limit exploration, or playing.)

I do not think I am capable of humiliation either - I have too much respect and empathy for others to even pretend convincingly.

Drugs have no place in my world.

I was a long term smoker and enjoy the smell of a freshly lit cigarette, but I do not think I would be happy around a heavy smoker.  In all of my years of smoking, I never smoked in my house (even when it was 10 degrees below zero.)

Lastly, I do not think it is inconsistent for someone Dominant to be vulnerable, or to privately cry, or to have trembling hands.  I am certainly no expert, but I do not think of Dominance and Submission as separate things, merely facets of a single thing shared.  Separate sides of the same coin!  I also think that if a relationship does not have such a thing shared, it will not last, or in the very least, it will not be satisfying for both people ;-)

I regard M/s and Dom/sub as a partnership with each member having equal importance.  Each contributes to the whole.

I am looking for a Lady who knows herself well and refuses to settle for less than she deserves.

I also do not choose to Settle
For Me it is All or Nothing

I am no fanatic and I am no scholar, but I am of the Jewish faith. If you cannot tolerate a decent and moral person of another faith, we will have no future.

My Lady will also need to have the capacity to mentally connect specifically with me and she must have the capacity to forgive.  I will evolve and improve, but I will also make mistakes along the way.

Maybe it is just a selfish perspective ........
 
But it seems to me that my outlook, beliefs, and philosophy may be the best possible ones for the right person .......
 
I really don't care what every other Dom is like, my objective is to find myself, share my world, and experience Peace and Happiness.
 
If my outlook and philosophy appeals to you, please contact me.

I am Gauis here but Gauis21 when I aim to talk to other people or use the singing cowboy.

Each of us is Distinguished by our Capacity for Self Deception.

Everyone knows the saying that the cover of a book can be deceiving.  Usually this bit of conventional wisdom is used to imply that the quality of the contents exceeds that suggested by the cover.  But it also applies to very attractive covers and seemingly intriguing books. So in deciding whether to invest a significant amount of time with a new book, it needs to be examined externally and opened to see what is inside.  Perhaps clever marketing was employed to attract interest with the cover but the book is found lacking inside.  Perhaps the title is clever but upon beginning the first chapter, the contents simply fail to sustain interest.  Or perhaps it turns out that the topic is really of no interest, no matter how well written it is.  Some books can surprise and captivate me while others generate no interest from me.  Bad Book?  Certainly not.  Just not the right book at this point in time.

COIN COLLECTION ~Pick up any coin. Examine one side carefully. Then scrutinize the other side of the coin. Each side of the coin is unique. Each side has its own identity. Yet they complement each other. They go with each other. They cannot be separated.Is one side more valuable than the other? Most would agree that each side has equal value. Each side is unique and different from the other side of the same coin, yet both are equal in worth. That is one message I try to convey in my profile. I believe each member of a Dominant/submissive relationship has equal value.    It should not be a radical position. 'I do not think of dominance and submission as separate things, merely facets of a single thing shared. Separate sides of the same coin!' It should not be a controversial or divisive position among Dominants. It should be a fundamental aspect of the relationship. The submissive one is not worth less than the Dominant one. Equality does not detract from the 'value' of the Dominant side. In fact, you cannot have have a Dominant without a submissive, because each identity is relative to the other. Can you have a 'Heads' without a 'Tails'? Not unless you are cheating.    To me, this seems obvious. To many submissives, it seems obvious. Why bring it up, then? Because some Dominants do not realize or acknowledge this equality in value. And some do not make sure their submissive knows and feels her value.  So from my viewpoint this community is like a large coin collection. Many different sizes and denominations. Different shapes and metals. But each side of every coin has an equal value to its matching side.

Tolerance - A Hard Limit      I recently was engaged in a theological debate. There was no resolution to the conflict in my case, but I did attempt to relate the story of the blind men and the elephant. I had heard the story many years ago in the poem format I provide later here. The debate I was engaged in lasted hours and I used all of the persuasive logic and reason I could summon, to no avail. Tolerance is important to me, and in this instance the lack of it was a hard limit... The story of the blind men and an elephant appears to have originated in South Asia. It has been attributed to the Muslims, Jainists, Buddhists, and Hindus, and has been used by all those groups. The best-known version attributed to an individual in the modern day is the 19th Century poem by John Godfrey Saxe. In various versions of the tale, a group of blind men (or men in the dark) touch an elephant to learn what it is like. Each one touches a different part, but only one part, such as the side or the tusk. They then compare notes on what they felt, and learn they are in complete disagreement. The story is used to indicate that reality may be viewed differently depending upon one's perspective, showing how absolute truths may be relative; the deceptive world of half-truths. A Jain version of the story says that six blind men were asked to determine what an elephant looked like by feeling different parts of the elephant's body. The blind man who feels a leg says the elephant is like a pillar; the one who feels the tail says the elephant is like a rope; the one who feels the trunk says the elephant is like a tree branch; the one who feels the ear says the elephant is like a hand fan; the one who feels the belly says the elephant is like a wall; and the one who feels the tusk says the elephant is like a solid pipe. A wise man explains that all of the men are right. The reason every one of you is telling it differently is because each one touched a different part of the elephant. So, actually the elephant has all the features mentioned. This is used to illustrate the principle of living in harmony with people who have different belief systems, and that truth can be stated in different ways. In a Buddhist version of the Blind Men and the Elephant, Buddha tells the story of a raja who had six blind men gathered together to examine the elephant. 'When the blind men had felt the elephant, the raja went to each of them and said to each, 'Well, blind man, have you seen the elephant? Tell me, what sort of thing is an elephant?' They assert the elephant is like a pot (head), winnowing basket (ear), ploughshare (tusk), plough (trunk), granary (body), pillar (foot), mortar (back), pestle (tail), or brush (tip of the tail). The men come to blows, which delights the raja. The raja says:O how they cling and wrangle, some who claim For preacher and monk the honored name! For, quarreling, each to his view they cling. Such folk see only one side of a thing. One of the most famous versions of the 19th Century was the poem 'The Blind Men and the Elephant' by John Godfrey Saxe (1816-1887).The poem beginsIt was six men of Indostan To learning much inclined, Who went to see the Elephant (Though all of them were blind), That each by observation Might satisfy his mindThey conclude that the elephant is like a wall, snake, spear, tree, fan, or rope, depending upon where they touch. They have a heated debate that does not come to physical violence. But in Saxe's version, the conflict is never resolved.Moral: So oft in theologic wars, The disputants, I ween, Rail on in utter ignorance Of what each other mean, And prate about an Elephant Not one of them has seen! I personally do not claim to see and fully understand what the Elephant is. My belief system is true in my mind, but I allow others to have a belief system which may differ from mine which I understand to be true to them. I happen to believe different personal truths can co-exist if they are not exclusive, especially with respect to religion. I realize telling the Story of the Blind Men and the Elephant will not enlighten anyone who cannot think beyond the leg, or ear, or tusk that they 'know' or have been taught encompasses the entirety of the 'truth'. As I said, I failed to teach, guide, mentally expand or enlighten my debate partner although I tried my best. My position was not that I was right and she was wrong, rather that we could both allow others to have different personal truths. What I did prove was that I could not lead or guide her and that she could not follow me, a valuable lesson. And yes, I thought she was well worth the effort. I wish her well in her search for happiness.

And sometimes you just have to smile and be thankful that their true character became evident so quickly to you.  As you watch the games continue and the carnage unfold...

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