Ive been in the lifestyle for 10 years on and off. Over that time my wants and needs have evolved as I have learned about myself and grown into the person I am. I have learned that I thrive on the mental aspects of BDSM, the control and exchange of power that comes with a Ds relationship I am seeking just such a relationship with a submissive woman who is also intelligent, well read enjoys moveies , books and museums along with their kinks and fetishes. I am seeking a long-term relationship where we share both our vanilla and kink selves. Also, im not here to send endless messages. If we havent decided to meet after 2-3 messages then it probably isnt meant to be.