I want to obey you because it feels entirely natural to do so ... because you’re so effortless in your confidence and leadership that I can’t help but follow, because you're so charming and charismatic that I fall under your spell, and because your whisper is more ominous than another man’s roar.

I have always been submissive, but it’s only in the past few years that I’ve had a context within which to understand what that truly means, and that it’s much more for me than role-playing ... that it just ‘is’.

I feel that each relationship is unique, and the dynamic develops naturally. In the simplest terms, I long for the right balance I want to give myself completely, for there to be expectations of me and consequences for failing to meet those expectations; but still to be cared for and treated with respect. I want to quiver at your feet, and yet feel completely safe in your arms. I would eventually like a committed, long term relationship, but I see it as similar to vanilla relationships in that it has to happen naturally, as we get to know one another. 

I am willing to relocate, but I’ve been finding it difficult to get to know people beyond a certain point online, if they're not close enough to meet. Once Dominance has been established, I can submit completely - and want nothing more - but I will not submit by default, and I’m finding that too many self-proclaimed Doms/Masters expect subs to perform a variety of tasks to prove we’re ‘submissive enough‘ before ever having met, or even having shown themselves to be who they claim. Perhaps this makes me too difficult or demanding (which upsets me because it’s a very uncomfortable necessity), but I don’t feel that my respect for you will have much value if I can’t find a way to do this without losing respect for myself.

* non-smoker
* liberal feminist AND submissive