AFAB (Assigned Female At Birth) Non-Binary who uses It and They/Them Pronouns.

Those around me call me Communal Property, Oblate, and a Submissive to the World. Ultimately, I am very grounded during my day as a submissive and it brings me to a place of peace to move through a structured day with expectations, protocols, routine, and control.

I currently live on the East Coast and, while I’m open to the idea of relocating in the future, I need to remain in Vermont for now to achieve my professional goals. I have a preference for people within a short plane or train ride, ideally across the continental U.S. or Canada. However, while I’m open to meeting someone in Canada, it’s unlikely I’d consider moving there.

I crave protools and rituals and at the same time able to confidently handle certain aspects of my life on my own. I am a strong, intense, opinionated, and somewhat stubborn individual. I am both powerful and playful, which envelops my polished sarcasm skills. I have been described as a Smart Ass Masochist or SAM. One may note a hint of brat, but it is not malicious. I would fail as a brat at the end of the day because I absolutely hate disappointing someone, and when I know someone is expecting something, my goal is to please them.

The term Submissive to the World has so many different aspects that require me to move through my day with self-discipline and hold myself to obedience.  I am a loner, never running in one pack or another, and a boss in my own right. Given the chance, when the Owner allows me, the rest of the World perceives me as in control of every aspect of my life. Yet, with one look, I will drop to my knees, devoting my life to my Owner for love and control.

I’ve had to become a sharp, intellectual problem solver, often standing solo as those around me hold me to high standards and accountability.

Since early 2024, I’ve been dedicating myself to growth in submission, kink, and leather. I’m also working on an ongoing writing project that has been instrumental in helping me envision and understand the person I am becoming.

I am a psychological, emotional, and physical masochist. I am an edge player who enjoys certain taboos and is careful about what I do with whom. I love humiliation, objectification, and degradation. 

I am in search of someone who can look me straight in the eye and know, without a doubt, that I am both scared shit about what will happen next and willing to step over that edge when the moment is right. 

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