Had to create a new and updated profile. Locked out of the old one. :)

When asked about my interests and what I look for in a submissive, I come back to the Equalitarian Dominant. It was nearly 30 years ago, that I was given this summary, by its author. It's still very true to this day. There are always new kinks that emerge over time, but the foundation? It's here

Read between the lines, there's always more.

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The Equalitarian Dominant is one who controls by teaching, mentoring and leading. This Dominant feels and knows that when they find a comparable submissive that things will happen as a progression of the interaction.  It is not the activities but the surrender as the result of the Domination that is the objective and enjoyment. Creativity is an important part of this situation. These are the more intellectual, into the philosophy/psychology mechanism of this lifestyle. They understand the concepts and resultant interactions and can put it into real life. They do not need many "rules" like the Democratic type, nor do they like the heavy S&M activities; preferring submission to occur as a result of an instilled desire in the submissive to surrender. She "wants" to as a result of the Dominant's knowledge and skill at Dominating. Sensuousness is the rule and pain is given as a form of sensuous stimulation. Light pain as opposed to severe. Sensuous torture is a popular activity in this area.  These are the ones who claim to be born this way, have always been this way. They fully understand the concept of D/s - it comes to them naturally and easily. They attract a submissive who truly and naturally wants to please, and who will observe and sense what the Dominant is communicating; and be able to translate that into the right thing to do.  They understand the concept of respect and surrender and can make it happen after initial learning. There is not much downside to these relationships, because they not only grasp the concepts, but can make it happen too; and their attraction is based on strong mutual respect. Their strong relationship is not readily apparent to the unobservant, but they are always subtly in the 24-7 mode.