Just want to make a few things clear about n my profile: I am at a point in life where I can relocate.  In fact, I am getting eager to bail on California, much as others have. S eeking only a heterosexual, monogamously-minded male. Mild feminization is a great tool to humiliate a male sub.  But I am seeking a male, not a man seeking to be a girl or woman. (Nothing wrong with that, just not for me.)   You also don't have to be a 'manly man' for me to find you appealing. 😉  If you require a lot of online messaging before you feel safe talking by phone, I don't want to waste your time or mine because I would rather hear the inflections in your voice than see your words on a flat screen.  Be both should be cautious because there are scammers on both sides.  But I want to voice verify that you are not a minor or in another country before we discuss details of out proclivities. I am absolutely NOT interested in a man who is married or in a serious relationship, no matter what your situation.  Please close your doors before knocking on mine .  Time is precious.  Let's NOT waste even a second of it if there isn't a chance from the get go because we aren't a match. 

My new pholosophy:   Scare off a man with my (sometimes over-) enthusiasm, put up a new pic and move on. But men, please remember that sometimes over-enthusiasm is not desperation.   Is it really so hard to believe you are likeable?   Is it also difficult to know that you might be wanted but not needed? I am  Pisces...we love the idea of love.    But don't worry:  Once the new and shiney has worn off from you we WILL see through the decorative wrapping that held such promise.  Let's just hope the return window has not expired.

I had someone message me about their interest at 5:50PM.    After I wrote a response and pressed SEND 40 minutes later at 6:30PM, I found out he had blocked me. If you list yourself as a submissive and you do this to a Domme, I think you probably have more control issues than a room of Dominants. Just because someone shows as being online here, it doesn't mean that full attention is on this website.   As a matter of fact, there are times when I just do not log out. So many subs claim that they have been looking for Domme a long time.    If that is true, can't you wait another few hours...a few days???     If your feelings get hurt so easily that you need to block someone for not responding on YOUR timeline, perhaps you need to rethink about how this is working for you.

When I am speaking with a new potential submissive male, one of the simplest tasks I assign is that the sub will text me a brief 'Good morning, Ma'am' upon waking and a 'Good night, Ma'am' upon going to bed each day.  It is a simple protocol that I use to gauge actual interest and the ability to follow instructions.   I make it very clear to submissives that I am seeking a serious long term relationship and daily contact is part of that. I have seen very few submissives who seem to be able (or willing) to follow through with this.  Since so few subs can manage this task, am I being unreasonable?   If a sub had a legitimate reason for missing one of these check-ins, I would accept a legitimate excuse so long as it is not a frequent occurrence.  Is the inability to perform this task a measure of the quality of subs on this website or just the ones that I attract?    :) Ms. A

After much searching, am all set to relocate to the Bakersfield area in the next few weeks for a new job.  Still seeking a submissive male within a reasonable driving distance.