I am a Mistress/Domme currently without a full-time sub. I do have a nesting partner that is a switch/sub-leaning/vanilla/bi cis male and yes, he knows I'm seeking a sub and is VERY supportive. He is just not into BDSM as much as I am and understands this and the fact that I am poly. I may like the option of incorporating him into play, perhaps someday, but that is not my primary focus. My primary focus is a true D/s relationship with a sub who wants that too! I want a sub who understands that every relationship takes work, is a learning process and doesn't run away like a scared child when there are issues. I want an adult who is willing to have a conversation about problems, and if we decide they aren't fixable, work together to part ways. Just because I am the dominant in the relationship, that doesn't mean I don't require and value your input! This is a dance for me. Yes, I lead, but we both need to be doing the same dance! If you only know the Renegade and I'm doing the Jerk, we may have some problems. 😉 So effective communication is imperative! Trust me, if you don't know the right steps, I'll guide you...</>

I would be most interested in a bi/poly sub (any gender/non binary or identity), transgender mtf or ftm, a loving, verbal, sexual middle/older little with a playful bratty side, a slutty sissy boi or gurl/cross dresser, very versatile subs with interesting kinks (cbt, chastity, impact, bondage, medical, pet, fisting etc.) or a true slave (rarer than a unicorn). The more attributes you have and the more open minded you are, the better. (If you lean a little different and feminine, chances are I will enjoy you, although a very submissive, masculine  true slave would be interesting too. 😏)

 I like to play 100% emmersive play, within your boundaries, to create a D/s environment that includes all the senses. My voice, the room set up, the under-track music/sound, the equipment, my touch, my eyes, a whisper, caress, a slap, a tug on your leash, the scent in the room, my intoxicating perfume strategically applied so you catch my scent as I instruct you to worship me, my hand cupping your chin to find your eyes...are mine loving blue? Wild green? Or steel gray?? Want to find out?? Hmmmmm?...

I believe in a healthy vetting period before accepting and playing with a new sub; so, be prepared to be vetted if you are interested in becoming my sub. That does NOT entail YOU TELLING me everything YOU want done to YOU and then in the same sentence, TELLING me you are a sub 🤣. (Silly child, tricks are for kids...hmeep hmeep) You will need to be prepared to get to know me as a human first, and you will need to open up to me totally as well. However, that doesn't mean I ask YOU a bazillion questions; I want a conversation. I am very complicated and complex and yes, probably a little crazy...who isn't right?? My vanilla side is VERY different from my kinky side, yet we are one in the same nonetheless. My vanilla side is very laid back, silly at times, very playful, extremely sarcastic, loves loud music, dark humor, history, science, anything outdoors, can be quiet and reflective and also a social butterfly...I'm a "read the room" and adapt to the situation kind of person and always underestimated. 😁

As a Mistress, can be very seductive, strict, and at times vicious; however, I also listen and believe I am very fair and caring, but if you try to feed me bullshit, you will not care for my response. Trust me, I know bullshit when I see it, and I will call you on it. Just be honest, don't shut me out...TALK TO ME and we will get along great. 😉 I am exceptionally creative and can come up with very exciting and interesting scenarios...far beyond porn 🥱. I also believe it is my responsibility to be very in tune with my sub’s needs as I assimilate my interests with my sub’s. I am extremely open minded, and because of that have a lot of fetishes, interests and kinks, but I do NOT expect my subs to like or be into everything on my fetish list! I understand that subs are very different, with different desires, motivations, interests and boundaries. I recognize their differences and respect and see them as individuals. I very much believe in the following hierarchy:

sub’s needs

Domme’s needs

Domme’s desires/sub’s desires

(I believe our desires become one with my guidance and under my control. )

My ideal sub would be intelligent (educated or well-read), energetic, eager but not pushy, challenging but never disrespectful (I do appreciate a clever brat. 😉) , loyal, with high morals and willing to serve. You must also respect my other relationships. I take my responsibility seriously, and want a sub that takes their submission seriously as well. As I said, I do enjoy a brat, but not a whiny baby! I want a thinking, independent sub, who needs and wants discipline, (Unless you are a true slave, then your limitations would be throughly discussed prior to contract.) and a strong Mistress in their life. I am very much into mind-fucking and total domination, you allowing me to take total control to put you deep into subspace and that complete power exchange. I would say TPE is my number 1 desire. (I will definitely get in your head…😏)

 I am considering a 2nd, kink-based household to have a live-in, D/s relationship, play spaces, community-based entertaining, discipline, protocol, mixed with, fun, culture, travel, kink events...

If this sounds like you, and are interested in a true Domme/sub relationship, send me a respectful message introducing yourself. (Please include your name!) A well-written. well-thought-out message will definitely capture my attention.