I've had a dominant personality my entire life, but it is subtle in nature. I will listen to everyone's input, weigh it, potentially use it, and make sure that everyone feels like they are part of the solution, while I guide the ship.

Have you ever been around someone that makes you feel completely comfortable and safe, even during trying times?

Have you ever had such deep trust in a person that you can drop all of your armor and be exactly who you are and live how you feel?

I love being that rock for my partner. I love it when I walk up behind her, place my hands on her hips, lean in to whisper in her ear and I can feel her lean back into me and melt into my chest. I like that a glance or whisper can carry more weight than a raised voice.

I'm confident in the way that I carry myself, but not cocky. I have a gentle soul that puts people at ease and the laughs that I bring, fills them with smiles. Seeing the good in the world rather than focusing on the bad is how I live my life. I'm almost always positive with a kind word and I find the reciprocal in a partner extremely important. People that focus on complaining or negativity will not fit with me.

I was asked what it meant to me to be in a d/s relationship, and here is my answer. For me, it brings a depth that I have not found in a vanilla relationship. The verbal and non verbal communication creates an amazing space. It is not about me barking orders or looking down upon someone. It is the exact opposite.

Yes, we probably have kinkier minds and better sex than the rest of the people out there, but we are also connected more intimately than most others will ever know. When I connect with an attentive person that seeks to build joy in my life, I become driven towards her and seeing her needs fulfilled.

This type of relationship is about both people finding a match that brings out their best while allowing their nature to thrive. I want to hear my partner's needs, goals, fantasies and desires so that I can help to create that or make room for it. And, I need the same from my partner.