Time for that awful part where you have to write an article attempting to sell yourself to complet strangers. I guess I'll start with the kink stuff, since we at least have that in common, right? 

I've been non-vanilla for as long as I can remember being interested in the oppoiste sex. Possibly earlier. Watching interrogation/torture scenes with people tied up in movies always felt dirty or awkward growing up, in the same way as watching a sex scene with your family is a bit weird. I also seceretly fantasised about being punished by my female teachers during my time at school.

Given all that, it's probably quite odd that I only discovered BDSM relatively late on (in my mid 20s) and took even longer to actually experiment with it. Something which primarily took the of bedroom play using restraints and such with exes. Call me sheltered, I guess haha. I have also switched in this sense, and am not averse to doing so again. But I lean much more towards the submissive and probably always have done. 

To be up front, I am NOT a submissive person in every day life. Quite the opposite, I have an active social life, train/compete in martial arts, run my own company, and have a real aversion to authority and being told what to do. And yet in my private life, I have always had this urge to submit and be controlled, by just one person. I guess you'd call it Alpha in public, submissive bitch behind closed doors. Work that one out, because I haven't been able to!

As far as my fetish interests go, I first and foremost have a desire to please, which means I am very openminded and willing to try most things at least once in order to make my Domme happy. As an example, I am not particularly masochistic and don't enjoy the sensation of pain, but if she enjoys sadism and inflicting pain then I would want to endure it to make her happy, even if the experience is physically unpleasant for me. 

Likewise, if it was her wish for me to spend an extended period in chastity, I would be happy for her to cuckold me in order to satisfy her desires instead, since I would want to please her by remaining locked up but would not want her to have to go without sex as a consequence either. Even if that meant having to serve her male partners or clean up after them. Once upon a time, being cuckolded like this would have been a hard limit for me, and I've included it here as an example of how my limits have evolved over time in order to embrace things my younger self would have considered taboo and make my partner happy.

The above are just intended as examples, rather than a 'wishlist' or whatever, but I'm very much open to most things and like to have boundaries pushed. My own personal likes are chastity, oral/body worship, bondage, leashes giving massages, pampering etc. But that's by no means an exhaustive list.

I will say up front that the sexual element of BDSM is important to me. I know that the lifestyle extends far beyond the bedroom for many people and that is certainly something I'm very open to as well, but the physical is a big thing too. I have a high sex drive. Or to clarify, a high intimacy drive. I crave physical touch and sexual contact, but that does not necessarily have to involve sex, sexual pelasure or orgasms for myself. If that makes sense. 

I don't really have any expectations from this site, I'm just happy to chat to likeminded people and see where things go. Ultimately though, I am looking for something serious/long term with someone who shares similar interests both in kink and generally in life. A girlfriend/partner who wants all the other good non-fetish stuff that comes with a relationship, with a healthy dose of kink on top! I'm also flexile as to the amount of power exchange, all the way up to something approaching a TPE. With a preference for a FLR.

Age is unimportant, I'd rather be in a committed FLR with someone 20+ years older who is completely compatible, than someone my age just because of a number. Chemistry is absolutely number one, whether you're youger or older than me.   

I'm also realistic enough to know that we kinky people have a much smaller pool of potential partners, and so I'm also happy to meet friends, couples or play partners on a more casual basis too. 

Away from kink? I recently founded a tech startup, study a Masters and train martial arts in my spare time. My work can all be done from a laptop and internet connection and I can travel pretty easily with a bit of notice, so distance and eventual potential relocation is not a concern (certainly within the UK, but further afield too if we click. The world is a small place these days!). 

Want to chat? Drop me a line! I only bite when I'm told to :)