I've always been dominant and all my relationships have been long term because I take th e time to know my partner and fullfill her desires by leading her to know that her dedication to focusing on my pleasure is returned to her. I've always looked at my partner as my equal that wants to enjoy the freedom of surrendering to a partner she can trust. If you are into being brutalized, I am not what you are looking for. Discipline should only be when one partner strays from their role and the pleasure of a couple and then only enough as a reminder, never enough to harm. any "discomfort" should be a contrast to titillate, not harm and brutalize. A nipple clamp followed by a caress with a tongue, an ice cube before a drip of wax, a sting then a gentle tongue. There is nothing more exciting than a woman in rapture and keeping her focused on her role will bring her that. I