I get it, it's hard to find someone in the vanilla world; it's not easier in this one. Everything is too sexual. There's little care for the person you are, the dreams you have, the goals you want to achieve. It's impersonal. Men can easily ask about the size of your nipples, but are incapable of first asking your name. So much ego in one place. I wonder how we don't suffocate.

I'm still going to try. Even if most men here behave predictably and disappointingly. It's not different than dating in the vanilla world. I'm not perfect either, and everything, it's, in the end, a learning experience. I might be looking for something almost impossible and too specific, but maybe he's looking for me too.

With that, I welcome you to a deeper look into my brain, better known as my profile.

What am I looking for?

More than just a D/s dynamic, I like Domestic Discipline. A combination of both, it's the dream. I'm definitely a member of the A house with a white picket fence and a dungeon in the basement club. I know I have masochist tendencies, non-consent fantasies and little girl desires. The experience I have is irrelevant, if we can't connect as man and woman, we won't connect as Dom and sub. If you don't have a need for deep, meaningful communication, I suggest you buy a blow-up doll.

It seems like a lot of people in here are looking for a maid more than a partner. I can't imagine a life of just household shores. I understand that domestic service can be a turn on, but I see cleaning as a chore for two. I want to build a lasting relationship, so if your dream is having someone waiting for you at home all the time so she can suck your dick, we probably won't click. That might be fun once in a while, or during the weekends, but my mind needs stimuli and that'll grow old pretty quick. However, I do respect those people that want to just stay home. I even admire them. You need guts to deal with laundry and mopping everyday. I hope to see the day when houses clean themselves.

I do consider myself in the vanilla world as an independent woman. It's been hard finding a balance between the submissive and the feminist, the need for domination and the need for equity. It's a struggle to balance what you crave with what you're supposed to fight for as a woman. It's even harder to have a submissive mentality and act like you don't, hoping no one can use it against you. Building fences. Protecting yourself. But at the same time dreaming of someone tearing them down.

I am a library mouse, so I've read several books about BDSM, but I love reading from a variety of subjects. Do drop a message if you have any bibliography you'll like to recommend.

If you are still with me after such a long diatribe, here's some conventional ination: I am single, no kids. I like dogs, but I'm deeply afraid of cats. I can be a smartass, but if you pet my intellect just right, I can be very sweet. I'll try to write more journal entries, especially for the questions I get often. I never thought it was that interesting knowing since when I'm a sub, but it's quite a frequent question. It might just be easier to do a post about it.

WARNING

I'm looking for single, LTR and monogamous (this doesn't mean I don't have certain fantasies that involve another dom and his sub); someone around my age or maximum 7 years my senior would be best. I'm not into switching, either. Let's save each other's time; you won't change my mind. If you still want to connect as friends, that's fine. I love talking to new people. Just beware, there'll never be any more.

The next kind of messages will be ignored:

- Messages with less than ten words. Unless, you manage to tell a enthralling story with that amount of words. (Yes, there's an obscure reference here.) That's just to see if people actually took the time to read my profile. I always try to do the same.

- And, talking about profiles, if you have nothing or next to nothing in yours, I won't answer either. I hate the guessing game with strangers. I don't think it's fun to try to guess basic ination like age or nationality or at least some preferences.

- Of course, rude ones. That's a not brainer.

- People that clearly didn't read my profile or decided to ignore the warnings here.

I always try to answer sooner or later, if I didn't it's because I think you fall into one of the previous categories. I'm not a big fan of ghosting, however tempting it sometimes is. If we are not interested, we can find an assertive, kind way to tell the other person. We are supposed to be in a community that's always stressing the importance of communication. We should be able to do such a simple interaction.

Updated: November 2022