Collarspace

Seasoned Male Dom looking for Submissive women for LTR in upstate Pennsylvania.
More aligned with Bondage and TPE and maintaining a controlled environment rather than impacting pain. A light colorful flogging when warranted for my Sub with a ever more stimulating finish that does not always mean she gets to bite the apple. Lots of tease and denial play with combination play that keeps her guessing.
BreastNipple play is a favorite as well.

I have been a Dominant in the lifestyle, for 20 years. My goal has always been a long term mongamous relationship with a Submissive, which encompasses all aspects of our daily lives - vanilla and bdsm. Living in the same household.

20 years later, i still have not achieved that goal. But 20 years has given me many experiences, and i have learned much.

Recently received from a potential SUB - and it does make one think! Surely this is a huge paradigm with online connections!

She writes I have learned that the vast majority of dominants, do not want a long term relationship. They want someone to play with, intermittently. Someone to give them a break from the mundane, every day tediousness of our vanilla lives. Someone to amuse them, and satiate their basic needs. They do not want a true partner - only a playmate, or a session partner. Temporary. Fleeting. Intermittent. Casual. Submissives who agree to those arrangements, are setting themselves up to be taken for granted. Birthdays and holidays to be ignored, and usually spent without the company of their Dominant.

A long term relationship requires more work. Commitment to each other- emotionally, financially, sexually, and every other aspect you can think of. It is like a marriage, in that respect. It means sharing everything, good AND bad, and supporting each other in every possible way. That is a true partnership. That, is a true relationship.

Well said!!

Honesty is in short supply.