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WarTorn
Hetero Male Dominant, 35, Texas US 
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WarTorn
There will come a time when the only thing that you can count on is the one who counts on you the most. When all else fails, they will be the only one there, the only one that matters.



In that line of thinking, that means I will accept only the best. Not for myself. But for you. You deserve to be the one who gets to count on me. You deserve to be the one to live by my smile, enjoy the heel of my boot and the lash of my whip, and die by my unhappiness.



Punishment can only mean deprivation. Paddles, whips, plugs, gags... those are rewards. Mostly to myself for something Ive done, or just for being me. Silence, avoidance, deprivation. Those are in store for when you are insolent. If the thought of disappointment on my face doesnt send you into a spiral of self-hatred, then you are not the one for me.



I have done this for 20 years. Ive had many whove lied and tried, and few who meant it. Its time to find the one who deserves it.



Since I cant update my journal for some reason
Ten Things A Dom Needs

Written by a friend of a friend whom shall remain nameless

1) Do what youre told. Not just when you want to, not just when its easy, but every single time. If youve suddenly decided youre a free agent thats a conversation for negotiation in whatever at that takes in your dynamic. Until then, less talking, more obeying.

2) Keep your commitments. If meyouwe have decided on a certain protocol youre expected to follow through. Nothing sucks the magic out of a Ds interaction faster than when BOTH people let protocols lapse and drift by the wayside. If you act like a part-time sub expect to be treated like one.

3) Try to be just a little less self-centered. The journey of submission is all about YOU, I get it. Truthfully all of us Doms get it, but there is an illusion here that needs to be maintained, and when every check-in boils down to how things are going for you and you dont bother to ask, How are you, are you satisfied, are you getting what you need out of me, how can I improve our shared experience? It makes you look kinda shallow.

4) Dont compare yourself to other people. Whether youre poly or monogamous, every time you look at another person and say Ill bet he likes them more than me. Youre essentially saying I dont trust you, I dont trust us, I dont really believe that you want me like you say you do. We are with you for a reason. Not receiving the desire we feel for you is deeply insulting.

5) Sacrifice. This is the deeper side of Ds, its where the givers separate themselves from the users. There is nothing that builds a connection faster than doing something unpleasant, when you dont want to, without being asked, without seeking praise. Its also very easy to take for granted, which is why you should take your time and dont give yourself to a Dom whos a shithead.

6) Own your tantrums. You have feelings, deep intense feelings, if you didnt you probably wouldnt be a sub. I encourage you to learn to track when the kettle is about to boil so together we can point the steam in a safe direction. When you fuck up though, and I get a face full of hot water, and you say bad things, you need to accept that in the morning youll be held accountable for the things you said even if you didnt really mean them. This can be a tough pill to swallow, which brings us to our next point

7) Take it with grace. Ritual and submission are amazing tools to refocus the mind and de-escalate emotions, but the collar is not a magic ring, YOU make the magic. You make it by catching yourself, by breathing into your rituals, by transing frustration and stress into submission and present moment awareness. Each repetition is a of emotional alchemy much in the same way that CBT thought-stopping is, (thats Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, not Cock and Ball Torture, you perverts).

8) Help us to evolve. Im talking about recognizing that every human being is a little bit lost in their own way, and the difference is that Doms dont have someone constantly fixating on how to guide us into being better versions of ourselves. Deftly guiding power figures in the directions they need to go is the forte of the masterful submissive, and the difference between that and manipulation is that you always have the persons own interests at heart, even when they conflict with your own. Its easy to love a Dom as an archetype or a caricature, but to evaluate a whole human being, and desire to kneel for them anyways is the deepest expression of love. You and I may have different toolboxes, but we are building the same house.

9) Stick around. Fact is, most subs vanish as soon as the honeymoon wears off. This phenomenon of women who beg for submission then pull the ripcord at 3-7 months once its no longer all about them makes Doms cynical, hard, and reluctant to engage, and further shrinks the pool of the few decent guys who can do this stuff well. I think a lot of this stems from the idea that Dominance is something thats being done to you, and not with you. If you empower yourself as a co-creator of the dynamic, youll be able to make it last longer. I think it might also stem from the fact that a good chunk of lifestylers (both Dom and sub) are emotionally broken jackasses. Sorry, Im a dick.

10) Cut us some effin slack for god sakes. Being a Dom is a LOT of work, it requires time, focus, and a wide open emotional bandwidth. It takes discipline to hold your ground when things are difficult, knowing that if you repair them with vanilla bargaining tactics you will also dissolve the dynamic in the process. As a sub starts to see you as more human, it gets harder. When shehe gets to the resistance stage of the relationship, it gets harder. As real life starts to throw you curve balls, it gets harder. Aside from the emotional aspect of things, what it takes to keep things fresh and interesting is an aspect that is hard to appreciate until youre the one in charge. The thing they dont tell you about being a Dom is that even if you have the gravitas to make a girl melt, if you dont have the creativity to constantly invent and reinvent new twists on a very old theme, youre just a tall dark stranger standing there with your dick in your hand. Sometimes I think this is why geeks end up being better Doms than their smokey eyed, jack-booted, true dom counterparts.

The point here is that the big D takes more than you think and there are going to be days, even weeks when were not going to be able to pull it off. I can tell you from experience that nothing means more to a Dom than when you still keep your rituals even through the thin times. Holding that space shows your strength, and you can take tremendous pride in serving with poise where your vanilla counterpart might be nagging and whining. With your devotion you pull us back like a compass, beckoning towards what is truly important, this secret journey of trust and growth that we are both on together.


4/17/2018 8:09:58 AM: As I peer into the woods and see two paths diverged before me, I choose... The path I choose. It is not less or more traveled. It has not been walked before, nor will it ever again. My path is mine, and there is nothing you can ever say or do to deviate me from it. I will not run, and I will not crawl. I will but forge my way through in the way I have chosen. No path is set, righteously or otherwise, before me but the path I choose to travel. The only thing I know for certain is that I will see you again... On this side.... Or the other...
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