Be Available! Here is why I stress that potential online submissive men be single--meaning you should not be married or partnered or attached in any way:    I am not interested in competing for attention with this partner or spouse, nor am I interested in being their stand-in for a sexless relationship or otherwise help you sneak around behind their back. I do not intend to be held responsible should you be caught. And anyway, how can you truly be made mine if you belong to someone else?    Here is also why I make clear that you should be living alone--meaning you are the only one who resides in the house with no roommates or tenants (or partner or spouse):    If you feel the need to hide because you believe they would not understand, how can you freely behave in service to me? It would also mean never-ending waiting on my end until you were alone. Sure, you may have a job or may have an errand come up but at least when at home, you are able to freely behave according to your true nature (and my instructions).    Finally, here is why you being constantly busy or engaged will not work in my favor: Like the above two examples, it would hinder your availability and performance. I understand if you had a job that lasted from nine to five, but if the work (or any other activities) keeps you away for entire days, that does not make for satisfying service or effective communication (my tutelage and control). And I have done enough waiting.    At the end of the day, this is taking place between Me and you; the nature of the dynamic requires you to be at my beck and call as well as your undivided attention.    How can you make yourself useful to me if you are always hurting for time?    How can constant supervision be possible if you are hardly even there?    How would this respect my own time and energy?    I may have patience but only up to a certain point, especially if you’re screwing around and wasting time.

Attitude Counts!Service is most certainly important, but I strongly believe that a submissive man's attitude is just as essential. For instance, I feel that a submissive man should never communicate with The One In Charge in a way that could be deemed disrespectful--you can be damn sure that the submissive man will be notified of such instances. If all they can offer are excuses rather than remorse for their behavior, as well as actively demonstrating correction, that is not pleasurable to me.That is why I strongly believe in behavioral adjustment training.

It Doesn't MatterSeveral years back, I remember posing the question, 'Does this turn you on?' to the submissive man who was performing for me over Skype.The inquiry was in regards to a certain, specific activity I was having him do for me. It was implied that while the activity itself didn't turn him on, it was the fact that he was doing it to please me that brought about his arousal. It was recent that I realized something that could be of use to submissive men:It shouldn't, nor doesn't matter if the Dominant Man's fetishes or fantasies do not sexually resonate with you, you are there to serve Him and His Desires. Thus, if it is your desire to serve and obey, there is no excuse not to partake in His fetishes. Should you keep resisting when it comes to new activities, especially if no harm comes from it, you are only hindering your own growth. To add, you are also, in a way, controlling the session when it should be the other way around. If anything, you should be proud to help Him indulge in His Desires.

That Sort of Control IImagine, if you will, standing before me in your Service Outfit (a suit and tie). Of course, I would be on your computer screen as I closely watch you.Now, you're being made to ball up a piece of paper. I instruct you to drop it, which you immediately do. I give you the command to pick it up again. You immediately bend down and pick it up.The order to drop the wadded up paper once again comes through your speakers and you let the ball drop heavily to the floor. Upon hearing the instruction to pick it up, you dutifully do so.Drop it.Pick it up.Drop it.Pick it up.To some who didn't understand, this may be a pointless task. To me and you, this is but a way to assert my control.Pick up the ball of paper slowly.Pick it up fast.Drop it while standing on one leg.Drop it while saying 'Thank you, Sir.'This is but part of the kind of Control I love.