(Regretfully, it's seems necessary to post this preamble to my profile.  My profile is intended as a candid and honest  reflection of myself and is open for all to read or ignore as they choose.  As we all have different perspectives, if you choose to read it, all reactions are acceptable, including indifference, standing ovation, utter revulsion, hysterical laughter, spiritual or sexual epiphany or tattooing it on your ass in whole or part!  If after reading it you contemplate contacting me, PLEASE DO NOT DO SO IF ANY OF THE FOLLOWING CIRCUMSTANCES APPLY TO YOU! 1) You are a scammer or fake anticipating a new source of schmuck generated revenue flowing your way.  Just NOT going to happen!  You'll be wasting your time & more importantly, mine! 2) You are a potential sub/slave expecting any type of precontract financial assistance.  Again, not happening! 3) You are a single male of any orientation seeking anything more than Platonic discourse. 4) You are a couple of 16 year old girls in your parents basement with a copy of 50 Shades and internet access w/o proper adult supervision. 5) Anyone claiming to reside anywhere on the African Continent. 6) You are so superficial and presumtive as to address me as Master in the first email. You will be Deleted Unread & Blocked!  7) Finally, before this list starts to exceed the length of the damn profile itself, CAM GIRLS; Pro or otherwise!  We both know that "free to join service" you use "because it will make you feel safe" does nothing verify my background, criminal or otherwise, but simply debits my account.)

 

"To be on the Wire is Life! The Rest is Waiting!/ "It's Showtime Folks!" *  Greetings to you who venture here.  I am Alan, and am capable of the many roles we all play out in life depending on the individuals we engage at the time,  but always true to my essential self.  I am friend to many in and out of this lifestyle, relentless pain in the ass to the deserving, mentor and pilgrim, idealist and naysayer, to some Sir, to select few Master!  This profile was constructed for those who might wish to know me better and not predicated on presumption of purpose, theirs or mine. In disclosure, I often opt for comprehensive over brevity.  If curious, you are invited to read on as you will.  If serious about exploring relationship potential at some mutually agreed upon level, you are encouraged to read on until it's conclusion as the time you save both of us may prove worth the effort.  While all are welcome to peruse, this is also intended for the edification of potential subs/slaves exploring said relationship potential.  While negotiated limits are respected  with all individuals, be it casual playmates or submissives I tend to identify as a Master seeking LTR/TPE with either self professed slaves or a submissives who remain open to exploring potential slavery.  As such, often I express within that context which is hopefully evident at those junctures.  New lifestyle friends of any self identification who wish to comment, exchange ideas, etc are always welcome. 


At the most basic level of encounter, I am generally open to assorted, and sordid, kinky fuckery with couples and singles. Granting kinky fuckery (or as I like to call it FWKB-Friends W/Kinky Benefits), albeit is often an important component of, it is not a true BDSM/Ds relationship.  Still, it' a damn pleasant diversion until the true BDSM/Ds relationship I seek materializes.  While always amicable to finding new friends of a similar ilk, my ultimate agenda is seeking a true, healthy, loving BDSM/Ds/ Ms relationship in the proverbial nutshell!

To that objective, I seek compatible HWP submissive/slave 18-40ish females looking to establish initial contact with a potential Dom/Master for mutual vetting of possible compatibility and similar lifestyle objectives; potentially resulting in a suitable, consenting sub/slave surrendering herself to my Domination, control, discipline, training, affection, care ,sexual requirements with trust, confidence and devotion.  She will earn her collar and value it has the symbol of the greatest gift she has been given and the greatest give she is capable of.   In a slightly different bent on this, unexpectedly, I also find myself drawn to many aspects of the Daddy Dom dynamic, opening myself to young ladies who crave and need the loving guidance, protection, affection and discipline inherent an experienced older man can provide to a young woman

Trying to describe myself accurately always proves problematic as tempering ego with honest self awareness is not easy when you possess both in abundance!  Perhaps the most reflective portrait of me is that of a progressive relic of this and a bygone era. The Dominant/Master is a person first and foremost; a stable, well rounded person in general, who appreciates life, beauty, diversity, in awe of humanity in all it's tragedy and glory and who is also rather humility challenged, a dark and cynical asshat whose humor ranges from dry wit to slapstick!   I consider myself bilingual, being fluent in English and Acerbic.  Potential subs/slaves will find the person and the Master multifaceted-engaging, literate, passionate and compassionate, ethical, honorable, a fierce protector and advocate of my sub/slave,  respectful to those around me, at least until that respect is not reciprocated, and almost viscerally raw, candid and honest valuing those qualities in others.  Everyone who engages me will know what to expect of me and what is expected of them. 


In conjunction with the previous mentioned qualities, above all I'm sane and safe!  Willing and able to discipline as merited, able to accommodate all my little maso friends, but sorry ladies meat hook centric foreplay is off the table. There is a difference between corporal punishment or consenting masochism and what is simply brutal assault!  Limits may be pushed but are always ultimately respected.   Boundaries are expanded, the ultimate goal being that the relationship evolves to a point where enough trust and confidence is developed that all but the most basic common sense limits are no longer needed or desired on the part of the sub/slave.

For what I seek, is not a weak willed sub/slave with no sense of self or self esteem beyond her submission but just the opposite.  I am attracted to strong, secure, intelligent women with their own sense of self and worth but with an inherent, almost primal need to serve, to belong to, to submit to something greater than themselves, to cede control to one who will take it.  However, I will never allow you to lose that which makes you special and unique but may take you to a place where you offer it to me, freely,  eagerly, without hesitation.  I may take you outside yourself, but I'll always bring you back. 

Self deion becomes problematic, as I may appear a cluster of paradox and the in incongruent as an old world romantic and a new world pragmatist maintaining balance in the realities of life and what I believe, feel and know to be true, at least for myself.  I am a Dominant by primal nature and by choice, by passion and by DNA. I cannot, would not change it any more than I can my eye color, dominant hand, or any of other of the traits inherent in me. It's as much a part of my identity as my humor, politics, ethics, sexual preferences or other inclinations/inherent traits that make me, well me!  I believe if one cannot control one's own life and destiny, then someone else will try to do it for them or at least take advantage of perceived weakness.  Years ago, after reconciling how much I sucked at traditional "vanilla" relationships, I came to understand that in my personal, intimate relationships I function best as the sole Dominant partner!

Seemingly in contrast with all those previously mentioned warm and fuzzy qualities of decency, ethics and openness is the Dominant driven to control, mold, use, test,  demand and extract the best from his sub/slave.  To that end, I require absolute respect, trust, confidence, unquestioning devotion, obedience, and submission from my sub/slave.  All of which I realize are not easily given without the necessary mutual vetting of Master/slv-Dom/sub and often must be earned as much as given in faith.  Expect a strict, demanding, high protocol Master with no tolerance for insolence, disrespect, or disobedience, all of which will be dealt with appropriate discipline as I see fit based on the merits of the offense but always fairly without anger. Expect your commitment, dedication and sincerity to tested and your perspectives and concepts of yourself and your function to be challenged.  Most of all, expect to grow, evolve as a person, as a well as a sub/slave with a Dom/Master also capable of patience and understanding.

In return, I offer my sub/slave respect for finding the necessary inner strength  to be the kind of  sub/slave I will ultimately be proud to call my own.  You will never feel more alive or needed, you will have purpose and structure, belonging, achieve unfulfilled potential and self awareness as
to your true self, experience pain and pleasure as necessary to growth, find dignity in humiliation, cartharsis and liberation in submission and obedience. .  Regardless of the path necessary to get there, you will experience affection, sometimes severe affection, and even love! You in turn will find fulfillment and pride in having earned your collar!  I believe the Master is the best part of the slave and the slave the best part of the Master, they each need other in that symbiosis to function properly. You will also know security, you will be safe and protected with nothing to fear but incurring my displeasure. Even occasionally incurring said displeasure, you'll never be diminished in my eyes as I will always value you for your submission and the fierce strength that often requires.

It's vital to note and realize I am not by any means a "traditional" Master/Dom.  While I may utilize or incorporate many of those traditional rituals, protocols and elements, the end result is more important than adhering to someone else's definition of what a Master is or is not!   I see the sub/slave to be played like an instrument of the flesh, mind and soul hoping to produce the desired melody the Master wishes to hear.  Only the Master and slave can and should decide if they are in harmony.  Each Master is different and uses what works best for them, I being not the exception. 

Be it speech/eye/movement restrictions, dictating posture, physical distance relative to me, or whatever other directive, I can employ all the protocol/rituals known in the history of this lifestyle and if the recipient does so only out of rote obedience without finding purpose, meaning, fulfillment, joy in doing so, I merely have a good, well trained submissive and not an eager, devoted, loving slave which is my ultimate objective.  The body is easy to take sexually and use otherwise as a expression of primal domination.  Finding my way into, taking and owning the freely given heart, mind and soul as well as the body is the most satisfying experience for a Master. Helping a woman make the transition from consenting submissive to grateful slave is the culmination for all the time, energy and self put into the effort.  A submissive freely offers her body and obedience to you, a true slave freely offers all that she is to you with confidence, love and trust!  When she reaches the point when mere self subjugation is not enough for her as she comes to need and desire to eagerly serve, obey and offer all she is to a Master, that is when she finds her true slave self.  Then she discovers the inherent peace, purpose, pride and satisfaction, liberation as my will supersedes the need and desire for her own. Then, I am truly Master and she is truly slave, bonded together, each necessary to the well being and happiness of the other!

Insistence on absolute devotion, obedience, respect and submission is unfaltering.  The crucible transforming from submissive to slave is a physically, mentally and emotionally exhausting one, often taking it's toll in a variety of ways.  However,in order to remain true to myself as a decent, ethical human being, I am always aware that I am dealing with another human being at their core self.  Within that human being, are all the associated inherent strengths, weakness, nobility, wretchedness, tragedy, glory, fears, hopes, basic rights common to all of us. No manner how submissive or willingly indentured to me a sub/slave might be, I never lose sight of that.  Here is where I may veer from other Master's in belief that a slave may be a slave by only consent and therefore is still a human being, not property in the traditional sense of the word regardless  to the extent of their obedience.  I understand subs/slaves are as such to me by their own consent as much as the force of my will.  As such, even more critical is the constant awareness that regardless how much I may use, control, mold, degrade, humiliate, objectify, punish, reward, or whatever else necessary to produce the sub/slave I require; I am dealing with a human being who has entrusted me with their safety and well being.  They have consented to embark on a journey with me, the destination ending where they become the sub/slave I need them to be and they desire to be. Getting them there without destroying them is my responsibility in the journey.   As some do whether one believes submission is a gift or not, accepting a sub/slave into your care is a responsibility.  Part of such responsibility is to leave no lasting scars, be they emotional, physical, or psychological.  That is not just being a worthy Master, but a worthy human being!

All that said, potential slaves would be well advised not to confuse decency, ethics, sense of responsibility with weakness, indecisiveness, ambiguity of purpose, timidity, insecurity about my ability to define, maintain or understand who I am as a Master and the ability to assert and execute my will.  Do so at your own risk!  Whatever the duration of the negotiated circumstance, be simply a kinky "scene" or up to a 24/7 365 contract, Master is Master, slave is slave and there is no blurring of those roles as never shall the two be confused.  Trying to Top me from the bottom is not tolerated and ranks up there with one of the most ill advised endeavors a  sub/slave may have the misfortune to attempt.......once!  My kinky altruism has it's limits!  My purpose here is not to rescue Damsels in Distress, but rather create them!

So maybe not such a paradox after all: the compassionate Humanist and the sadistic, disciplinarian Master coexisting, each necessary to the essential self, integral to the whole being. Basic human decency and trait/choice driven Domination need not be incongruent!

What I'm NOT looking for:

First and foremost, $$$ Scammers or as I like to call you, Cyber Parasitism  Stop wasting your time, or more importantly MY time! Cynical and suspicious by nature, I've been doing this long enough and I will see you for who you are.  Your transparency borders on the absurd!  If your profile pic looks like it's been hijacked from a porn site, if your profile message or other communication with me looks like it has been written by a simian given a Blackberry or an 80 year old woman staffing a phone bank in Sri Lanka, if you are incapable of the syntax necessary to form a complete and lucid sentence, if the excuses you give for the discrepancies I will no doubt notice would only be accepted by Forrest Fucking Gump, then DON'T CONTACT ME!  If you do, I'm going to fuck with you until you get bored and go away or report your ass!  I sure as hell am not going to send you $$$ for bus fare/airline to relocate you to me to begin your wonderful new life of slavery and sexual servitude at my feet as you probably professed as your one burning desire after merely reading my profile. If you, as one DFC recently did, request my personal bank account/routing numbers, as soon as I recover myself from hysterical laughter, I will have some choice expletives for you!   Fakes and game players, you are not invited to the party either!  Take your pathetic selves elsewhere or better yet, find some constructive purpose for your existence!  My purpose here is to make viable connections with serious people, not decode lies and sift through garbage!