I am not traditional when it comes to gender roles. It can be fun for a woman to live in support of a man. But it isn't real.  

I can enjoy it if it is healthy for her.  To have a woman offer comfort, support, and touch.  To tame the dangerous beast that is man.  A man as head of household, the provider and protector.  The woman keeping stable that which he creates. 

It isn't real, but it is allowed.  

Whether 24/7 power exchange or short roleplaying, whenever I have done these things before, they crumble under the weight of reality.  Which is that everyone is an autonomous being and nobody is a slave or pet or .  

But sexually I like s and submission.  I really love caring for the women who have been in my life well.  I love trusting them, supporting them, giving them sensations and feelings, and getting pleasure from them.  I try to remain calm in all things I do.  

I remember a moment when my sub, who I was in a deep relationship with and who was always honest with me, came home after being out with friends.  We were monogamous and she had smeared lipstick and was giggling incessantly, her clothing was disheveled, and she was having a hard time looking at me.  I smiled a bit and let her settle herself and then I brought her a glass of water and an aspirin.  I sat next to her rubbed her back a bit and put a blanket on and let her fall asleep.  The next morning, she stirred and looked immediately guilty when she saw me making food in the kitchen.  I looked over at her and she asked if everything was ok.  I looked at her and said, "you have never lied to me and so I will believe anything you tell me about last night.  Our relationship requires only honesty to be able to work.  If you cannot submit your truth to me then you can't submit your body.  You have to trust me to do the right thing with the ination."  She broke down, told me everything and cried as she did so.  Our relationship was stronger after that.

I was at a friend’s house when his girlfriend came home later than expected.  I saw him tense immediately when she walked in.  She went over to kiss him, and he turned his head away, angry and stared forward.  He ignored her, so she played cool and went into the kitchen.  He mumbled under his breath that she was probably out with a guy.  I was really shocked at how he was handling things.  She came back again and said, "need anything babe" and he snapped at her, "for you to leave us alone maybe?"  She left, upset.  It was extremely awkward.  I can't say what I would have done because I would never have gotten to a point of seething jealousy.  I certainly would not have done that.  Long before that I would have made her feel calm, comforted and loved.  Found a time when I could rub her shoulders and kiss her neck and then tell her very directly what my boundaries are around her seeing someone else.  And if the boundaries were not going to be kept, I would have shown her the door.  But she wouldn't leave, cheating occurs when needs are not being met, or in moment of bad choices.  Although some people are insatiable most respond to a gentle hand on their neck, a firm and decisive mind and careful application of sensation and emotional release.  

And open and honest communication.

I don't want to find someone who wants one thing.  I want to find someone who can submit, who can be honest, and who can do whatever I want in bed.   

I am not going to play any kind of game of dominating you before we talk.  I don’t dominate people I don’t know and frankly have checked to make sure I would be able to be responsible for them.  I am truly in control of my environment and if you would like to be part of my world....

Relationships need to be fun and playful, last story…

We had just flown in the small plane to stay in a cabin and do some boating.  I was out on the boat with my girlfriend at the time.  She was submissive but exploring being dominant, so her personality was shifting all the time depending on who she was around.  As we were alone on the boat she started calling me sir again and right then got a call from a play partner who she was practicing being dominant around.  I got a devilish thought as she started taking on a dominant tone with this woman.  I moved behind he and placed my hand on her hips and kissed her neck, then I slid my hand around to her front and up her body to her neck.  Her voice quivered a bit as my other hand rested just above her pelvic mound which I pushed towards me to force her ass onto my erection.  I grabbed her throat, not so hard that she couldn't talk but hard enough for her to feel like submitting.  She stopped and said, "sir, should I get off the phone?"  Her potential sub said, "sir?"  and I laughed.  She said, "Oh, sorry I gotta go" and turned around to kiss me.