2/27/2017 4:21:36 PM: I get asked a lot 'What are you into?' This isn't an easy question to answer. It's not the same from partner to partner. There are some things I might want to do with one woman, and then there are certain things I might want to do with someone else. I'm not saying that because I like playing the field, but I realized a long time ago that the woman brings out the Dom in you in different ways. Her personality, confidence, smugness, rationality, gentleness --all bring out different ideas when it comes to what I intend to do with her. I think this is because you have to adapt to the woman who is your partner. I mean adapt. You have to listen to that inner voice, watch her reactions, get to know what makes her tick before you randomly start throwing out activities. Part of what happens is a beguiling..Here you are, taking a perfectly rational functional, human being, and you are breaking her down into her basest, most animalistic passions. How that occurs doesn't work the same way because people have different experiences and get into this for different reasons. If you observe carefully, they will unfold them all in their own good time, and you can develop a deeper connection if you're listening and acting on what you learn from them.

11/3/2016 7:27:37 AM: To the ladies:This is a mild rant and a bit of cautionary advice to all those seekers out there. Stop complaining on your profiles. You do that and when we read it, the first thing we think is that you are going to have to suffer for what every dominant before us --even if you are on the level, you're going to be constantly defending yourself because of what some other idiot did. Any sane person would look at that as a definite sign this person is to be avoided. When we read profiles -those of us who do read want to know about you. We want to know what you like and don't like, what you're looking for or your thoughts. Your profile is the one shot you have to catch the attention of someone --don't waste it complaining.If you've been hurt before. If you have trust issues because of something in your past, you should take the time to emotionally resolve it before trying to start up with someone else. When you're like that you are not all there and it's not fair to the other person to make them shoulder the burden for your mistakes. We do it to, but I see it more and more and I hope that people will see this and put the breaks on.Stop posting pictures of things that are not you. I don't care if you think it's clever. I don't care if you don't want to show your face. If that's the case --fine. We didn't come to a site like this to find porn. We can find way more quality porn for free than we could ever hope to sift through online. Putting it on your profile picture is a big turn off. It immediately makes people wonder.Stop quoting other people.It's okay to do it once in a while, but when you do it as the centerpiece of your profile it says something about you. It says that you're a minimum effort kind of person because you couldn't be bothered to write something about you. If you're wondering why you aren't getting any quality responses and you are doing any of this on your profile, now you know why...

12/18/2015 8:56:22 PM: I'm going to be the first, I think to say this --but I find nude photos on a woman's profile to be a complete turn off. I know, I know... I've gone off the deep end, right? No, I don't think so. Before you write me off, just hear me out.I've been reading profiles for a very long time, and talking to people online for even longer. One thing I have noticed is that there's a certain desperation in women who see fit to show themselves off like that. The same goes for guys as well. It's like they're convinced the only way they will gain attention is to expose themselves like they're expecting to get a blue ribbon from somewhere. It's like you're saying that aside from your physical form, there's nothing else worth noting about you. That's what I mean when I say it sounds kind of desperate.Look at it another way --if we met each other in a supermarket, or a coffee shop, I daresay that you would more than likely not be wearing nothing. You'd even be less likely to be wearing some of the outfits that grace oh so many profiles these days. If we were to spend an hour or two having lunch, I daresay that the things I might or might not find interesting about you have very little to do with what I think is underneath your clothing. I for one, would prefer to put in a little effort and earn the privilege --it's kind of like telling someone what you want from Christmas. It sucks all the joy out of gift giving. Nude photos on your dating profile suck all of the fun out of getting to know someone in much the same way. By the time you get to that first time, all of the cats are out of the bag and there's no surprise or shock. It's downright disappointing. It's just a thought. 

10/27/2015 1:12:54 PM: Okay, this is something that I have for the submissives and slaves who find themselves here. Those of you who may be having problems finding someone, or getting others to talk to you. I would like to point out some things that might help you. I'll start with a phrase from my childhood. 'Put your best foot forward...' I'm not pointing to anyone in particular or any incident in particular. I observe that some of the women that I have corresponded with in the past or recently seem to not take that to heart. I could be talking about photos, but I'm honestly not. What I'm referring to is effort. Nothing says minimal effort more than the overuse of 'Yes sir'. What I am speaking of is the effort that you put in, equals the quality of relationship that you get out of it. To someone who is dominant, seeing someone put forth the bare minimum effort when it comes to communication is deeply disappointing. Communication has to go in both directions and when I see those two word sentences, it quite frankly irritates me because I know that you're not that vacuous. I would rather you speak and share your opinions and make and effort to speak rather than fall back to saying 'yes sir' or 'no sir'. Anyone who's made half an effort to talk to you is going to get discouraged and stop talking after a time or two chatting like this. I'm not saying that you have to be flowery or poetic, but you have thoughts and feelings and opinions and you need to stop thinking that submission means that you're not allowed to express them and stay away from Dominants who espouse that point of view because there's something very wrong with that kind of thinking. This is supposed to be an exciting alternative lifestyle, but it will quickly sour if you don't communicate with one another, or you leave him to do the talking all the time. My best advice is to say what's on your mind and not count on anyone to understand it or say it for you. I feel that a Dominant that's worth paying attention to is worth the effort. It's easy to get down on folks because it seems there are more failures in communication than there are successes, but if you don't give an honest effort, you can't possibly expect a favorable result. Any Dominant that's making an effort to get to know you is worthy of having that effort rewarded with frank and earnest communication.

10/26/2015 12:59:08 PM: In continuing my expedition into not ranting about things, I thought I would talk a little more about the lifestyle related things that interest me. Playfully sadistic would not be out of sorts to call me, but I feel I should qualify that statement. I don't take pleasure in hurting anyone. Never have. With that being said, I do enjoy the pleasure of control. Placing someone within a predicament and then having my way with them is a rare treat that I enjoy immensely. I like to see that helpless look in their eyes, knowing that their suffering has only just begun. Beyond that, I enjoy the other looks, moans grunts and other exhortations of a woman who's tied up with no place to go. Who wouldn't? But I draw a very distinct line between playful and torment. I don't need or desire to dehumanize someone in order to make myself feel superior. I don't care for bruising --I don't find it the least bit attractive. I also don't enjoy needles or bloodletting of any form or fashion. I also do not share --ever. I'm not inclined to favor a dungeon. Pardon me for saying it, but it's rather cliche'd. I tend to think that it's better to find something to your own tastes and stick with that rather than trying to emulate anyone else. When it comes right down to it, trying to be like everyone else isn't my goal. So if you find yourself tied down to a coffee table in the living room, kick back and enjoy it and just go with it. My tastes in activities include an interest in shibari, suspensions and hogties. I have an interest in electrical pay, but it's not a deal breaker --I've seen it but never gotten to take someone through it. It makes me intellectually curious about the matter. I am also keen to experiment with remote control toys -I understand they've advanced quite a bit over the years. If it can be done safely, I would like to do something out of doors, but I prefer to approach that later rather than sooner. I do have preferences in style of dress, but I am also realistic. I will say up front that I'm not overly fond of fetish wear. It has it's place, but as a matter of every day wear, I think it's kind of tacky. I also am not fond of any sort of play involving anyone other than my significant other. That includes Munches and BDSM groups. While if I have a mind to acquire specific knowledge, I might attend a seminar, but that is to learn and not to show off. I have absolutely no interest in toilet play of any kind. I really can't say it enough.