My ideal woman would be very intelligent. Maybe a feminist who believes strongly in equality and justice on the societal level, but for her self craves submission and loss of dignity. Maybe a minister who is loved and respected in her congregation. Someone who is financially independent and isn't needing food and shelter from a man. If she is past thirty she should have a profession and a career. If she is younger she should be in school and have a career in mind. There should be a huge gap between the ideals of equality and dignity that she professes in her vanilla world and what she is willing to surrender behind closed doors.
Of course, that may be a lofty ideal. I can meet people where they're at if there is mutual trust and respect.
