IT IS ABOUT THE JOURNEY I am looking for that natural fit that occurs between two D/s minded lifestyle individuals who understand each other without having it feel forced, phoney, and frustrating. When you find that fit, the flow between the two involved can be quite wonderful. Not only is there the fusion of body, but also of mind and soul. I am seeking a sensual woman, any age/race/looks, a submissive female who bends more towards learning the decadence of the lifestyle, but full submission to Me, her dominant counterpart. Not equal, but balanced; the other half of the coin, where I start and where you begin, there is not separation, both of U/us will need to work in unison. As a Dom, in times of trouble I will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that O/ours is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals. I am quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. It is very difficult to balance judging someone's intent, philosophy, approach through written word...especially when so many people have begun to use BDSM sites as a means of meeting people, rather than being involved in real time BDSM and trying to meet like minds. I seek a real/time BDSM minded woman to be My complimentary devoted counterpart through life; and, I seek her now....….you must love the loss of control. The gist of being a sub is not to know what is going to happen and being made to do whatever is required of you. Too many “subs” seek their own pleasure when the denial of a sub's pleasure and the satisfaction of the Dom is the essence of submission. It is all about the Dom.... It is not about Me satisfying your desires.....it is about you satisfying My desires. Surprise a sub, control her to do My bidding by discipline and conditioning and training in deprivation where she is taught to love what her Dom wants to do with her mind, body and soul. My standards in a D/s relationship are high but they are required to bring Me the sub that I desire in my life. I like harmony with a little spice. I enjoy a sub with common sense, intelligence and a sense of humor. My rules are always clear and upon accepting your position I am the only one that will change them. My sub will serve her Dom in all possible ways; she will always be loved and cherished as I believe that a Dom's most important asset is His sub. To watch His sub, is to see the Dom. Many Doms can talk about their experience, and great accomplishments, and their abilities with their various toys, but have no ability to teach their subs anything but pain, and fear. I have lived as a Dom for many years. I have witnessed people getting in the Lifestyle, and watched them leave. Some like it for the pain, and some like it for the restrictiveness. The ones that feel as if they have found their home, or calling in life, seem to do well, and eventually settle in. Some people use alcohol, drugs, or gambling to transcend their ordinary lives, but these activities generally prove to be destructive and unsatisfying. But the escape provided by being controlled can be constructive and extraordinary fulfilling. Instead of holding back the needs of your true self, being controlled allows you to express and realize your deepest needs...and in the process, being controlled brings forth a new, stronger reality. The female that I am looking for must be a natural sub who yearns to relinquish complete control while I train her and she learns strict discipline, stern obedience and devoted submission from a honest Dom; she must hunger for the structure, guidance and commands of her Dom, Teacher, Trainer, Role Model and Mentor; she must want to submit to a good, caring Dom, and would truly find joy and pleasure in surrendering to a Dom and respond with satisfaction, gratitude and submissive fulfillment when her good, honest, caring Dom takes her firmly in hand and commands her to be obedient and in total subjugation to His strict demands, stern desires and controlling nature.