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Her freedom was worse than any chains....

There are two types of submissive women.

The woman who stumbles upon this lifestyle thinking, this sounds like something thatd be perfect for me. I could really enjoy this kind of life.

Then theres the woman who stumble upon this lifestyle thinking, oh....wow....now I understand why I am how I am and why Ive always done and thought differently. Then the other women that I know. Im not some abnormal freak, Im just a submissive (or slave) and theres actually other women out there that are like me, Im not alone!

Neither woman is better than the other, they simply have different mindsets.

You are actively seeking....

If I could put them in order of importance.....

1. Friends THEN

2. submissive women.

3. Online Romance (because --with the right person-- sometimes its just fun xD)

As for IRL, I have no interest in being in a relationship with someone if we dont like each other. Therefore friendship MUST come first. This lifestyle isnt just about kinky sex.

So many have given such warm accolades about My balloon analogy (thank you all for the kind words!). So Ive decided to put it at the bottom of My profile thus saving you the time to scroll through My journal entries to find it. Enjoy)

Welcome! Enjoy your time and please read my whole profile before contacting me (yes, I know youre a subslave but its ok to contact me first).

Please dont take offense if you see Im online and not responding to you. I often just minimize the browser instead of logging off.

The proclivity questions give insight, but dont really define Me.

What I am

A natural Dom. I dont play at being a Dom, its just the way I was born. My words and actions are neither forced nor contrived and Im very comfortable, confident and relaxed with myself. (A note to other Doms, its ok to laugh at yourself. Self deprecating humor doesnt make you look weak or ignorant, however excessive bragging does.
Very healthconscious. Sure I enjoy junk food sometimes, but thats the point sometimes. I average about 2 hours a day at the gym, 6 days a week and usually eat high protein meals.

What Im not

Im not a physical sadist (however I do enjoy a measure of mental sadism as it pertains to mental bondage) Dont confuse a good spanking with sadism, I dont spank to inflict maximum pain, I spank for other reasons, (feel free to ask what they are).
Not a sex toy aficionado. Indeed, they can be fun at times -- I find using sex toys on my partner to be superfluous. (i.e. Toys dont make the Dom, theyre just a pleasurable option.)

I dont take control of a sub, she honors me by giving her control to me. New subs often require discipline in order to give up control however their desire for this is alwaysclearly stated beforehand.

Whats important

Hygiene and smell.
DD free
Be in reasonable shape (this is only if you desire more than friendship)

Hard limits

scat
fire
needles
clowns

(No, not clowns just seeing if youre paying attention. )

Please be respectful dont call me Master as you havent yet earned the right, you may simply call me Sage.

Balloon metaphor

Ive explained the Ds lifestyle so many times and often see the other person struggling to fully grasp the concept. So I came up with the following metaphor. Picture a helium balloon. The balloon wants to float along but not float away. It yearns for a strong, confident, stern hand to hold its string and keep it in line and from floating away. When the balloon finds a hand that it can trust will hold its string firmly, a hand that will control the string without crushing it, only then can the balloon happily float along through life. The balloon will flit this way and that knowing its string is being held tightly. At any point in time the hand may move one direction or the other causing the balloon to quickly snap to the direction the hand is moving -- and then it happily floats along in that direction. Notice that the hand isnt holding the balloon. The hand is holding the string. The hand is not pushing the balloon down and keeping it from floating or suffocating the balloon. The balloon derives its satisfaction from knowing its able to float and flit, yet knowing its under the control of the hand and any direction the hand turns it quickly lines up. Theres a variety of ways a hand can hold the string attached to a balloon. It can hold it pinched between two fingers, the hand can be wrapped loosely around the string, the hand can have a death grip on the string, or, the hand can have the string in its closed yet relaxed palm. The balloon doesnt want to look down and see its precious string being precariously held by two fingers or in a loose grip for then itll never be able to relax and float along because its always afraid the hand is going to lose its grip on the string or the balloon will be afraid that itll deal with a sudden gust of wind (brattiness) and the string will slip out of the hand before the hand even realizes its happened. The balloon doesnt want to look down and see its string being held in a death grip either, for then when the hand moves one direction or the other the balloon is snapped in that same direction with such force that its string could snap. In these situations the balloon is always fearful of what the hand might do and is therefore never able to relax under the control of the hand. The balloon wants to...desires to....desperately needs to, look down and see the hand with a good firm grip on its string, yet the muscles in the hand are relaxed -- while firmly grasping the string. The balloon sees this hand and knows that any direction the hand moves its going to quickly jump in that direction yet the balloon can see the relaxed confident manor in which the hand is holding the string and the balloon never fears that a sudden gust of wind will cause the hand to lose the string or when the hand goes one direction or the other that its string will snap, because its obvious to the balloon that the hand knows just how to pull the string to get the desired effect and that its not necessary to yank the balloon out of the sky just to prove that it (the hand) is in control. Its the relaxed, confident grasp of a hand that the subslaves of the world are looking for to hold their string and keep them in line.*** ***There is an exception to the rule. There are some out there who seek not a sadist but one who can do them permanent harm. I fear for their lives for they want a hand with a death grip on their string.