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46 year old single, bisexual, Dominant female who has been a part of the Detroit BDSM community since I returned here for grad school in 1999. I havent been to much lately because of a family member being ill and moving. Im hoping to start going to things again soon.

For those of you who have looked at my profile before, Im now happily single. Please make sure you read my entire profile before writing to me though because I have some very specific requirements. If you do not meet those, I will not reply. Illiteracy isnt attractive.

If you are married or in a committed relationship, are younger than 36, or are older than 56, please do not bother contacting me. I will not reply. Im 46 years old and Im not looking for a daddy or to become a mommy. Thanks for your interest but cmon... Be realistic! Also, if you have a criminal record, drink more than once in a blue moon, use drugs (including marijuana), or smoke, you are definitely not what I want. And you must be employed, have your own transportation, and not live in your parents basement. Its amazing that I even have to type that.

Im looking for a long term type of relationship - not casual play. I can go to a party if all I want is to be a free one time play partner. And casual sex gets boring pretty darn quickly.

Personality and intelligence mean a lot more to me than whether or not youre super hot. I would rather find someone who can carry on a conversation about politics while he or she fixes my car and shines my shoes than someone who looks awesome in a thong. Though a great ass would certainly be a bonus. Im also very service oriented. You better have plans to pay a maid to take care of my house or do it yourself. Same with my car, my lawn, the leaves, any snow we get, and heavy gardening. If you physically cant do these things, then this wouldnt be a good match.

Im looking for someone whos equally at home at a theater (and I mean a real one, not the screen version) as they are at a play party. Who can either fix my car or take it to be fixed so I never have to think about it. Who enjoys both staying home or vacationing in a 4 star hotel. Who loves dogs (and not in a sick way) and can lug 40 pound bags of dirt to where I want them for gardening. And yes, my dog is an indoor spoiled brat who sleeps in the bed with me. I love him. I dont even know you yet.

Specific fetishes arent really important to me. Yes, I like causing pain but I dont believe in breaking my toys. Im pretty flexible on the rest. I think it would be a shame to let my floggers and paddles continue to collect dust but I can always beat someone at a party if I have the urge. It doesnt mean Id want to talk to them after. And no, Im not going to wear leather or latex or a certain outfit every time I see you. Im just as dominant in my running shoes as I am in 4 inch spike heels. Heck... I dont think I even own 4 inch heels anymore. Harley Davidson boots, yes... Thigh high anything, nope! Definitely not my style.

And I get really bored with just putting someone in bondage. If all you want to do is lay there in ropes, Id end up falling asleep. To me, bondage is fun once in a blue moon if I want to do things to someone and not let them move. The rest of the time, what use is a tied up person to me? You cant even give me a backrub.

And sex of course... Im 46 and female which means sexual prime over here. If your penis needs a blue pill to work, then youd better not have a problem using a dildo. And if you dont have a built in penis, then youd better enjoy being a hand warmer. My fingers are feeling a bit chilly. And yes, Im definitely in charge and creative in the bedroom. And Im truly bisexual. I dont care if youre male or female but I like men to look like men and women to look like women. Youd think boobs with a penis would be a bonus for me but it just ends up being a turn off.

Im a very liberal, feminist, vegetarian, tree hugging, Buddhist, democrat. Yes, I wear leather and eat Jello so Im not a rabid vegetarian but Im pretty close. If you kill Bambi while cheering that Trump is president, were not going to have a damn thing in common. Good luck with your search. And Im completely serious about that. No Trump supporters and no hunters or fishers. Im not living with deer jerky in my freezer and no one is gutting a fish anywhere that I live.

Before you ask, no, Im not sending out a picture. I look like your average 46 year old professional. Short blondish hair right now, green eyes, I wear my glasses, no tattoos, and my only piercings are in my ears. I could lose weight but the DD chest balances that well.

Im not always in the mood for dealing with this site. There are times I take my profile down because I really dont want to meet anyone from here. This normally has something to do with my regular vanilla life. If it offends you that I have a real life and friends that know nothing about my interests with this, then we would not be a good match. If it annoys you that I put all of them before some man or woman that Ive never even met, then youre an idiot. Five emails back and forth do not equal a long term relationship where you have any claim over my time. I dont owe you any explanation for why I change my mind about a particular date or say Im not interested. Dont expect one.

Im also not a swinger. I expect to meet you at least three times before I share much personal ination about myself. And no, I dont fuck on first dates. Get real.

Im very interested in moving again. I can go anywhere in Michigan and find a job easily but, with the type of work I do, I would need to check if other states require licensing in my field. With some of them, it might take me a bit longer to find employment. I dont have family left in this area and Im truly sick of Detroit. I need a change. I would obviously expect to be working wherever I am because Im not the type to sit home and do nothing. Plus, I like vacations too much and it normally takes two incomes to have a few fun ones each year. My 55 pound dog and my equally large tortoise would obviously be coming with me so moving to a different country would be pretty much impossible. Moving someplace warm with a nice big yard would be a bonus for my tortoise. She would be much happier outside.

Have a fabulous day!