i have been on this site for a week now and need to say something about myself. Can only hide behind a cloak of anonymity for so long.

i guess the 2 main things I should tell you is that I am middle aged....well thats assuming I live to 120. Have no problems about reaching this age. Still fit physically, mentally and emotionally. And secondly I have a Ds interest that for a whole variety of reasons has been hidden for too long. It was always just below the surface but now is definitely gasping for air. One of the reasons it was kept in a box is that the world tends to see me as a fairly confident and assertive guy. And I quite like that image of myself..I enjoy being in control and the more control given the the more caring I become B ut I also know that with the correct Domme I would be compliant, obedient, respectful and malleable.

So the question with which I struggle now is can those 2 sides co- exist peacefully. I hope that they can. I know how to behave in public and have been told that I am presentable. So I would like to find a partner friend that I can take to dinner, to the theatre, a pub and provide a facade that we were a vanilla couple. I would be charming, flirtatious, complimentary, caring.But we would always know that when alone our relationship is characterised by a power disparity.Q

So with that mission statement, I now plunge head first into the waters if CM....with just the hint of trepidation!