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Hetero Male Dominant, 56, Birmingham, United Kingdom 






love is an amazing fetish best served between two people who are the center of each others world :)

Sending me a picture of your smile
Will get more of a response then sending me a pic of your breasts

I'm NOT looking for a one night stand, 0ne week stand,one month stand
Not even one year stand
But i am looking for one life stand :)

Well first thank you for looking at my profile Shock horror yes I'm real and yes I'm romantic


And yes I'm in the UK And yes I'm looking for my "one" not a stable full


I would like the thank those that helped me when I wasn't 100% The only way is up :)


I'm looking for a "normal" sub/slave, not into extreme Or beating the out of you or tying someone's Breasts until they go purple :(


I love most things from TiH downwards :) Love doing normal vanilla things If you have any questions then feel free to ask :) And I'm single and looking for L/T


Ps if you want to play or you smoke then I'm not for You but I do wish you luck :)


Ps yes I may relocate And no I'm not in Nigeria or Egypt I'm in Birmingham UK for my sins lol




Well after 10 very happy years together 

My slave and I had to part due to her returning to her homeland 

To look after her dad

That was 2 years ago

Now it's the right time to look on here for my one

Fingers crossed lol



I've accidentally swallowed some Scrabble tiles. My next crap could spell disaster.:)

Angela Merkel arrives at Passport Control in Athens airport. "Nationality?" asks the immigration officer. "German," she replies. "Occupation? "No, just here for a few days."

Got caught having a piss in the local swimming pool today. The lifeguard shouted at me so loud I nearly fell in.:)

Two cannibals eating their dinner One cannibal said to the other I don't like my mother in law ! The other cannibal said then leave her and eat your vegetables :)
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  I Am a Submissive Woman. I find pleasure, joy, and fulfillment from being submissive to another in a loving relationship. I am not weak, or stupid. I am a strong woman, with firm views and a clear concept of what I want out of my life. I do not serve out of shame or weakness, but out of pride and strength. I look to my loving Master for guidance and protection, for never am I more complete than when he is with me. I know that he will protect my body, my mind, and my soul with his strength and wisdom. He is everything to me, as I am everything to him. His touch awakens me and his thoughts free me. Only in serving him do I find complete freedom and joy. His punishments are harsh, but I accept them thankfully, knowing that he has my best interests always foremost in his mind. If he desires my body for pleasure, I shall joyfully give it to him, and take pleasure myself from knowing that I have brought him happiness. However, the pleasure of the flesh is but one facet of any relationship. The love, the trust and sharing, the words spoken and felt, those are all parts of this relationship. My body is his, and if he says I am beautiful, then I am. No matter what I look like to others, I am beautiful in his eyes, and because of that I hold my head high… …for who can tell me that my Master is wrong in seeing the beauty in me? If he says I am his princess, then I am that…regal and graceful. And if I see laughter at me in the eyes of others, I do not recognize it, for who are they to call my Master wrong? If he says I am his toy, his slut, his tramp, then I am that…as wanton and dirty as he wants me to be, and if others do not see this, then it is they who are blind, not my Master. My mind is his, to expand, to explore, to know as only he can. I haveno secrets from him…for secrets are a thing that would keep me from being more perfectly his. Secrets would put a wall up between my Master and myself&hel…
× Name × LU. × Age × 1,003 YEARS OLD. × Height × 6 FEET EVEN. × Weight × 900 POUNDS. × Relationship Status × SINGLE; NOT LOOKING. I RECENTLY BECAME SINGLE. I DIDN'T *WANT* TO BE SINGLE BUT LIFE HAPPENS AS IT DOES. YOU KNOW? 😑😑😑😑😑 × Emotional Status × NUMB. GODDAMN NUMB MORE & MORE OVER TIME, SEEMSLIKE. 😑😑😑😑😑 × Vital Status × YOU MEAN PHYSICALLY? I'M OKAY. I STRETCH 24-7-365, YEAH. I EAT ONCE A DAY.  × Male or Female × MALE. × Romantic Preference × UM...NON-ALCOHOLIC, VEGETARIAN, FIT, MATURE, PROTOSCIENTIFIC GIRLS WITH NO TEMPER PROBLEM. × Have You Lost Your Virginity? × YEARS AGO. IN MY THEN VEHICLE. I WAS ACTUALLY DAMN LUCKY THAT I WAS DEFLOWERED BY A PSYCHO-CRAZY, PORNSTAR-WILD, DEMONICALLY-HORNY, DAMN SEXY EX-GIRLFRIEND. HA. WE EVEN HAD SEX 15 TIMES ONE DAY. SEX USUALLY LASTED 1 HOUR/20 MINUTES AVERAGE. HA. YEAH. × Drank Alcohol? × NOT ON MAAAAANY YEARS NOW. × Siblings × 1 BROTHER & 1 SISTER. × Do You Want Marriage? × NOOOOOOOPE. NEVER BEEN MARRIED. × Do You Want Children? × NOOOOOOOPE. AIN'T GOT ANY EITHER. THIS WORLD FUCKING SUUUUUUUCKS. 😑😑😑😑😑 × Any Crushes? × OH, YEAH. ALWAYS. HA. 🥰🥰🥰 × Physical Disabilities × NOPE. × Mental Disorders × WELL, I'M CHRONICALLY-OVERCONTROLLED...FOR YEARS... 😳😳😳😳😳 😑😑😑😑😑 😣😣😣😣😣 😖😖😖😖😖 😡😡😡😡😡 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬 👹👹👹👹👹 😑😑😑😑😑 …
  I'm the girl you've been thinking aboutThe one thing you can't live withoutYeah, I'm the girl you've been waiting forI'll have you down on your kneesI'll have you begging for moreYou probably thought I wouldn't get this farYou thought I'd end up in the back of a carYou probably thought that I'd never escapeI'd be a rat in a cage, I'd be a slave to this placeYou don't know how hard I fought to surviveWaking up alone when I was left to dieYou don't know about this life I've livedAll these roads I've walkedAll these tears I've bled So how can this be?You're praying to meThere's a look in your eyesI know just what that meansI can be, I can be your everything I can be your whore!I am the dirt you createdI am your sinnerI am your whoreBut let me tell you something babyYou love me for everything you hate me for I'm the one that you need and fearNow that you're hooked, it's all becoming clearThat all your judgments that you placed on meWas a reflection of discoverySo maybe next time when you cast your stonesFrom the shadows of the dark unknownYou will crawl up from your hiding placeTake a look in the mirrorSee the truth in your face So how can this be?You're praying to meThere's a look in your eyesI know just what that meansI can be, I can be your everything I can be your whore!I am the dirt you createdI am your sinnerI am your whoreBut let me tell you something babyYou love me for everything you hate me for Oh whoa ho, oh whoa ho, oh whoa ho I am the dirt you createdI am your sinnerI am your whoreBut let me tell you something babyYou love me, you want me, you need me! I can be your whore!I am the dirt you createdI am your sinnerI am your whoreBut let me tell you something babyYou love me for everything you hate me for
I'm talking 'bout my generation Talking 'bout that newer nation And if you don't like it You can beat it Beat it, baby You never liked the way I said it If you don't get it, then forget it So I don't have to fucking explain it Cause I'm a Brooklyn baby I'm a Brooklyn baby   It's like those lyrics carry a sense of identity and weight, even when they seem light. The repetition, "I'm a Brooklyn baby," feels like a declaration of something deeper—a feeling of being rooted in something bigger, but also carrying that vulnerability and pain underneath. Almost like saying, "I'm here, but there's so much more behind the surface."   It’s not just about the words, but the weight of feeling like you’ve had to fight and scream to be heard, and still... nothing. It can feel exhausting when no one’s really listening, when the energy you put out feels like it just vanishes into a void. That emptiness that comes after all the effort, when you’ve given everything and are still left feeling alone—that’s heavy. It’s like a wall of silence that doesn’t break, no matter how loud you scream or how much you pour out.   They think I don't understand The freedom land of the seventies I think I'm too cool to know ya You say I'm like the ice I freeze That line hits hard—it’s like there’s this gap between what others think and what you really feel, and the way it creates this distance. It’s a powerful reflection of feeling misunderstood, and at the same time, being guarded, like ice. There’s so much in that feeling of being cool on the outside, but maybe there’s a lot more going on underneath.       Ultraviolence captures that raw, unrelenting pain—the kind that cuts deep and leaves scars you can’t always see. It’s not just about physical violence, but the emotional and mental toll of trying to survive in a world that feels indifferent or even host…
Being a Dominant is not like the military where rank assumes obedience. The “rank” of Dominant or Master is not assumed by the Dominant but bestowed by a submissive. This is important because it cuts to the heart of why a Dominant has the authority to give “orders” in the first place. A Dom only has power because he has been granted that power by the submissive. And a submissive grants that power to someone he respects, trusts, desires, and believes has his best interests at heart. He grants it to someone with whom he feels completely safe and protected. So yes, I as a Dominant do in fact give orders. But my orders are not simply motivated by desire for blind obedience but are often targeted at a higher purpose. Sure, often they are for my personal pleasure. But they are also designed to instill knowledge, establish norms of behavior, set expectations for performance, and above all, challenge my sub to be the best person he can possibly be both in and outside our relationship. They are also designed to similarly challenge me. I always strive to be a better person, a better partner, a better Dominant, and have our mutual interests always at heart. Being a Dominant is less about assuming authority than being a leader. A leader earns the right to lead. My sub gives me all the power I have as a Dominant. What I do with that power is up to me. But if I use it unwisely or selfishly, it will evaporate and my sub will opt to vote with his feet. D/s is, after all, a consensual agreement between two free persons and thus can be terminated when one or the other is not satisfied. D/s and even M/s are not true slavery, even when we choose to call it that. Ultimately, the submissive decides who will be his leader or if he will take on a leader at all. It is that decision that empowers the Dominant, and that decision is earned, not taken.
"A Masochist/Service Sub Version of Massage Exchange"    There's so much that i miss about my time with Him.  Having a desire to serve someone i admire and care about, along with my entrenched masochistic tendencies, i really miss what i came to see as our version of "massage exchange".  Typically our sessions would begin with Him instructing me to remove His boots, then to massage whatever part of His body that was hurting.  His hands and arms was typical, or His back, shoulders, neck. i always enjoyed this time. Being able to make Him feel a little better, at least for a short while. i really loved His clear, consise direction (somehow, being told exactly where to touch was empowering, not limiting). i always put my best effort in to it and try to remember what made Him smile or melt.  After serving Him in this way, what happened next would vary---but there would always be a portion where i got my massage---at the receiving end of a flogger, crop or cane (sometimes all three, if i was lucky!).  i think the day that this concept of "masochist massage exchange" hit me was a day when i was on my period and still going through some cramps and lower back pain.  He would never cancel on me if it was "that time of the month"---simply work around it. As for myself; i knew i was in good hands and never gave it a second thought.  So, this time in particular, when we began the session i was feeling tense and sore. myy flow was minimal but still the cramps and body aches lingered. i don't recall everything that happened during this session but i DO remember how i felt afterward, when He announced that the aftercare portion of the scene had begun, and i began to relax in to His arms.  For the first time in days, i felt warm, relaxed, and pain-free.  "Thank You, Sir MJ...You whacked the cramps right out of me!" i purred.   Best massage i ever got and i think He enjoyed it, too. 
I have a few minutes to sit still, so I figured I could follow up on my previous post, and discuss the topic of pictures a bit more.  But I realize I'll probably never do better than what I wrote a few years ago, and I know no one ever scrolls back and reads, even if I few do read the current posts. So I'll re-post that, and maybe it will help someone. ____________________________________ Women are not men. I know it seems obvious, yet the majority of men still pursue women without really considering what that means. They write profiles based on what THEY would like, what men value, what men think is impressive, and what they wish they saw on women's profiles. They take and post pictures the same way - based on what they value, what they think is impressive, what they wish women put in their pictures.  If they crossdress, they take and post pictures similar to those of women they found sexy - scantily clad in lingere, posed seductively or sluttily, etc. without considering that those pictures, like porn, were meant to appeal to men.  They send emails, again, that same way. I repeat - Women are not men. Dating, at it's bottom line, is marketing. You have something. You want something. You want to exchange what you have for what you want. In a store, you exchange money for goods and services. In dating, you are mostly hoping to sell. You are hoping to purchase the attention of a partner, in the long or short term, in exchange for your attention, your time, your services. You are selling you, in exchange for them. That's actually a very basic equation. You can't sell to someone unless you know what they want, and find a way to market what you have to that want. This is where most men fail - at the basic premise. They know what THEY want. They don't spend a lot of time researching what their target market wants to BUY. So they market based on what they know, and what they think they know. They know themselves. They know men, in gene…
The Kink Vending Machine Dec 17, 2017   So, you want to submit. You want to be Topped. You want to find a Dominant Woman to whom to submit, and who will probably Top you.   I get it. I really do. It's just like all other relationships - we need something, and we can only really get it from other people. We want sex. Sexual gratification is possible without other people, but almost everyone agrees that it's not nearly as gratifying as it is WITH someone else. We want love. We can love ourselves, and we can love others, but most of the time, we have a powerful need to receive it from someone else. We want to do… stuff. Sex stuff, relationship stuff, life stuff, and yes, again, some of it can be done by ourselves, but mostly, we want someone to do it with, or to do it TO us. We want a someone. Lots of us want our own special someone, who is OUR someone, and for whom we are THEIR special someone in return. Or at least one of their special someones. And let's face it - sometimes we get lonely. Or we get needy. Or we just really want to do that fucking cool thing RIGHT THE FUCK NOW!!!! And then we can get a little…. fixated. That "someone special" starts to look more and more like "someone who will" and then "anyone who will" and then to just "anyone."   But almost NONE of us want to be "just anyone" to someone else. "I didn't get their name" is the joke we see all over to denote a space filler, a warm body, without memorable characteristics. Not special at all, in other words. Forgettable. Not important enough to bother with as an actual person. Just a means to an end.   Completely interchangeable with any other "anyone" we can get hold of when we need one.   About as special as a vending machine.   You need a coke, you go find a machine, pop in your dollar, soda pops out, and you move on. The machine? You barely noticed it when you were feeding it money. You sure as shit don't value it. And you forg…
Well it’s that time of year again…time for New Year’s Resolutions! I’ve never been one to make New Year’s Resolutions, but this year I’ve decided it’s time to start. But I think I’ll keep it simple by setting just one resolution, and making it one that shouldn’t be too difficult to achieve and should actually be fun to work on and achieve! For 2026 I resolve to read a lot more and spend significantly less time watching TV and surfing the internet. The area I’m most interested in reading about is the history of Rome, specifically the history from the Late Roman Republic (133 - 27 BC) to the fall of fall of the Western Roman Empire in 476 AD. My interest in this period was kick started when I recently watched the 2005 HBO series “Rome” for the first time (and yes, I see the irony in the fact that it was a TV show that got me interested in this subject and now has me wanting to watch LESS TV)! To start my journey I picked up biographies of three men who figured prominently in the TV series “Rome”. The first is “Caesar - A Biography” by Christian Meier. The second is “Cicero - The Life and Times of Rome’s Greatest Politician” by Anthony Everitt and the third is “Mark Antony - A Life” by Patricia Southern. I’m gonna start with the book about Mark Antony simply because I thought he was the most interesting character in the TV series. Also, there were a couple of bs about Antony in the book that really caught my attention and got me wanting to learn more about him: “Mark Antony can be viewed from several angles as the perpetual drunkard, the bluff soldier, Caesar's willing lieutenant, the merciless killer of Cicero, Cleopatra's paramour, Octavian's enemy. He can be seen as a heroic loser fighting for a lost cause, or a pathetic failure who threw everything away for the sake of a woman. His story is perfect for a tragedy, but this…
Vanilla interests/conversation starters. I am not looking for a hook up, I am looking for a connection. Also, I'll still respond to small talk if you are respectful, it's just that I honestly dont understand the point of small talk on a dating site. If the point is to find your person, let's get out of the shallow end and get into some deep thought provoking conversation, actually get to know each other, right? I am the type of person who gets a stronger social charge from deeper conversation. Small talk drains my energy. I think it's vital to a healthy relationship to be able to support each other's interests, too.  Psych Honestly, just about any topic within psych I could have a conversation on, or want to learn more about.  History What gets my interest is the stuff that you have to dig a little to learn about. I'm not as interested in the same old topics that we have been talking to death for years. I want to talk about the stuff I dont know about. I want to share the things you didn't know about. I want us both to share thoughts and have a conversation we haven't had with anyone before. Think about things we never pondered on before. Something more original as opposed to the same old regurgitated bs. Religion I am not religious myself, but I do like to learn about religion. It tells you a lot about people, history, and social psychology. Really, I just like to learn about people. The history of people. Genetics, DNA, human migration. Again, this one is really just learning about people Politics This one obviously is a touchy subject, it's easier having these conversations with people of similar views and a literate mind.I will talk politics with an opposing view, but once it moves past a debate, where both sides are talking but no one is being heard, that's the point I walk away.  I am interested in psychology and history, with poli…
In the tapestry of relationships, polyamory stands out as a distinct weave, one that has graced my life in unexpected ways. Today, I sit back to reflect on my experiences in MfM and fMf dynamics and the deeply transformative impact they have had on me.   Poly relationships, particularly those involving MfM or fMf dynamics, are not merely about the number of partners but the depth of connection, understanding, and mutual respect. I've always felt a special allure towards such relationships. It's an intricate dance of balance, emotion, and trust.   James, my late husband, played an instrumental role in my introduction to this world. He wasn't just my husband; he was a guiding force, teaching me the beauty of unconditional love, free from societal shackles. The way he introduced me to the world of BDSM, and by extension, poly dynamics, was subtle, considerate, and built on a foundation of trust. It wasn't about sharing for sharing's sake, but about expanding our horizons, about understanding that love isn't finite, and that sharing doesn't diminish but rather amplifies affection.   I remember our first experience. The trust between James and me was the anchor, holding us steady amidst the tumultuous waves of uncertainty. He would often whisper affirmations in my ear, reminding me of my worth, my beauty, and my agency. "You are in control," he would say, even when introducing me to a new partner. This wasn't about him, or even about the new partner; it was about *us*, as a unit, exploring, learning, and growing.   In an fMf dynamic, there was a certain softness, a delicate touch. The presence of another woman introduced a different layer of intimacy. It was in these moments that I found a sisterly bond, a deep understanding, which went beyond the realms of physicality. On the other hand, the MfM dynamic provided a sense of security, of being cherished, surrounded by an aura of protection from both sides.   But why do I like it? It's th…
WHAT I’M AFTER IN TERMS OF POWER DYNAMIC Coming over by arrangement literally just to fuck me from behind till one of us comes (ideally me) and then leave, no conversation or social interaction required. Quick and dirty. No further relationship dynamics. Overpower me physically by your uncontrollable desperation for sexual release, and have me relent to the pressure of your animalistic needs.  I like showing you how weak you are to be overpowered by such strong hormonal needs, so in other words, while you fuck me roughly or with a light beating and obtain your gratification through force I’m still in control of your mind, and will make you feel pathetic for it afterwards, not dominant.  It can also turn me on to let you get away with being rough with me especially if it is a sign that my little boy is growing up to be a strong man. Be a little boy for mummy. Snuggle naked up against me in bed and show me how much you love and need me and want to make mummy happy. Play with toys before being punished and be made to face into the corner and wait until I slowly allow you to show me how sorry you are for being a bad boy. Sit by my side on the floor while I feed you food from my fingers. Worship mummy. In terms of an ongoing relationship dynamic, I have had experience being submissive a long time ago but now prefer to dominate in terms of day to day living, decision making, and control. I can use canes, collars, chains, chastity devices but they do bore me on their own.  It’s your mind I want to control. So don’t expect a whole lot of kinky play unless it serves me directly. I obviously desire to dominate more than your cock. I want your heart on a platter. If we begin a significant arrangement, I will want to know your location at all times, and will expect earnest responses to messages. I want you to feel both owned and controlled by me, but also protective towards me and for these feelings to progressively g…
What I desire from a D/s relationship First, I have a nesting partner. Our relationship is totally separate from what I seek, but it would be equally important to me and you must be willing to accept that I am poly, but very demisexual.   With that being said, I want 2 separate households that I will go between equally. The one I currently have and Mistress's household, 24/7, D/s, kinky household with some vanilla elements incorporated. I want a second household within 15-20 minutes of downtown Parkersburg, WV, very private, complete with dungeon, medical room, sensual play space and outdoor play areas. I envision this home to be a place to host munches/events/small parties but also very private with a vanilla facade. I would like 2-5 acres and a big sound house/farmhouse to remodel to suit my needs. This will not be immediate and a rental situation will be necessary initially with the intention of find and establishing a permanent kink home.   I prefer a sub leaning slave but I am not seeking a sub/slave that only wants 24/7 chastity. I enjoy edging, ruined orgasms, forced masterbation, post orgasm torture, etc. I am extremely sexual and want to use my submissive sexually always under my control. I am actually fairly flexible as how I want my household structure. I am equally fond of the following in no specific order:   A 1950's household A Mommy/little or middle, but I'm not into diapers, breastfeeding (I'm almost 59 and milk hasn't filled these titties in years 🙄) cribs or high chairs. However, playing with toys, structured bedtimes, structure and a firm hand, kids movies, playing at the park, amusement parks, stuffies and all things child-like I'm very open to. But I would want a sexual little/middle. A sissy submissive but understand I will NEVER use humiliation or degradation as it relates to being feminized. Any speech or play surrounding the theme that women are weak, pathetic, powerless, less than, etc. will NEVER be used! …
Advice for messaging *It is disrespectful and insulting when someone sends an introductory email which does not mention anything specific about my profile or interact with it at all.  Ask yourself this question.  Could the majority of your email to me be copied and pasted to 100 other people and be just as valid?  If the answer is yes and you send this to me then you have just identified yourself as a time waster.  Do you want me to think of you as a time waster?  Is this really how you want to introduce yourself? *If your spelling and grammar are poor, you are not putting in enough effort.  This identifies you as LAZY.  Some try to excuse their laziness with various reasons but you can always have a friend read what you write or just reread what you type out loud a few times before you hit the send button.  I do realize that some bad punctuation is facilitated by the text editor here because this site strips out most punctuation except commas, question marks, periods, and exclaimation points. Hopefully this will be addressed someday, but till then you can still find creative ways to mimic other punctuation. *But the main form of showing disrespect through a lack of effort is just not typing very many words.  Incomplete sentences, only one sentence, or worse, one word or just a bit of text speak show a lack of effort, interest, and concern.  Many people do not want to communicate over a phone, they only want to type, but then they also are not willing to put in much effort at typing either.  So I quickly find an imbalance of effort as I see the words I type quickly outpacing the other person.  This makes the other person seem uninvolved and unappreciateive of my efforts.  They insist that I type and not TALK to them but then they do not put effort in to type either! Frequently, I find that I spend a great deal more energy and effort typing long messages to people who do not put any effort into what…
Thought it would be helpful to cover a few points here... Interview style conversation is not my thing, if you want to get to know me then use your ability to hold a flowing conversation,  not an interview I am single, I do not see why anyone in a happy relationship would be on sites chatting so I assume you are also single ... if not then please don't waste our time with trying to strike up a chit chat  As of this year, 2022 I will be 50 on my next birthday and I found the lifestyle when I was about 21 so you do the maths  Sorry but I don't want to meet someone who is close to my children's age, to be safe if you are more than 10 years older or younger than me we won't be matched  I am not a slave, honestly I am very sure of that. I do have strong sub tendencies with the right alpha male but seriously if you don't consume my head you won't stand a chance of controlling anything else I am not into poly or sharing or being shared. I am totally monogamous and if you are not then flick over to the next profile I live with my family, happy to discuss with the right person but I have a young child at home so seek someone who understands how to make a vanilla and lifestyle combined relationship work whilst keeping tiny ones protected from it all I am a non smoker, I don't vape, I rarely drink and am seeking someone similar. Nights in the pub are not of interest I work full time and have limited time free so I am not in a position to travel to meet someone, so local is needed. For anyone who thinks a plane ride is local then jog on as you really are not on the realistic spectrum I am seeking  Yes I have been collared twice and for some reason it seems relevant but to be honest the first waited almost a year before it happened as he knew to me I see it as a serious commitment I do have limits which are a mix of health and personal things so happy to discuss but they are not negotiable  L…
Had a really good Sunday. Up early, did a regular Sunday morning phone call where I talked a bit about a munch I had gone to, though I didn't say it was a munch... I did mention one of the topics of conversation. Someone at the munch stated that they consider keeping a pet to be animal slavery, that animals should be left alone to live in the wild. You never know what conversation might arise at a munch.  After the phone call I hopped in the shower, then drove to meet someone for tea. A person who is new to the community and interested in domming. We had not met before. We wound up chatting for two and a half hours, in a hot tea room with hot tea on a hot day. One of the topics we delved into was, what is it that causes us to perceive someone as masculine or feminine? It was a lively conversation and we were still animated as we broke it off to go our separate ways. Will it result in a friendship? Impossible to say. Sometimes all the signs for friendship are there but it turns out that the person prefers to immerse in video games or is too busy with poly relationships. I drove south to check out a coffee shop I'd heard about, it has overhead lamps shaped like fluffy clouds and lots of bright art on the walls. The counter staff were super friendly and they had some vegan pastries plus vegan soft serve ice cream made in house daily. I am not vegan, but I like to keep an eye out for places with vegan options in the event that I ever wind up with a vegan tea attendant. I've also got a vegan co-worker and it's fun to tell her about new places she can go. Sometimes I think I should have been a travel agent.  Next I went to the car wash, then grabbed a burger at an old-fashioned place where they bring the food to your car and attach the tray to your car window. Stopped at the grocery store to pick up some mini fruit tarts, then home for a late afternoon nap and binge watching a Netflix series. I think I covered about twenty miles in the car, listened to some …