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It has been a rather difficult discovery for me regarding the BdSm scene, which has been going on for close to 18 years. Being in the adult entertainment industry has its downs as well as its ups, sad to say. The general public has this perception of our industry that immediately goes to PORN? Disgusting!!! which severely limits potential partners in regular life, and has its effects on a person over time. Thats probably how i discovered the fetish counter culture . i worked next door to a new fetish store in Hawaii, and began asking questions, hanging around, and going to events, trying to figure out who i was essentially. The owner was about the same experience level as myself, so we became fast friends and eventually partnered up to do events of our own that the two of us felt would benefit a growing fetish community since we were the only game in town. Prior to my intervention, the most well known event was the now infamous Dungeon, done once every other month on a grand scale. It was almost 100 interactive and very popular but almost too big, and only seemed to bring in a small amount of business for the shop, so our idea was to introduce a more cultured crowd on a smaller scale with a little more artistic flair-and we hit the jackpot! It gained TONS of exposure and is responsible for bringing pro Dommes to the island for the first time, at least publicly. By this time i had read the two biggest influences on my burgeoning interest, SM 101 and Screw the RosesSend Me the Thorns which i understand have become required material by the scene in general. They made a deep impression upon me, too deep in fact, according to some of the pros ive encountered, mostly because it stands in direct opposition of what they all seem to be after. This has proven to be most difficult so far. The primary rule,guideline, or line not to be crossed states all play be SSC. However, i have found every SSC relationship is much more complex would be non-existent without one very big characteristic-TRUST. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, but when you add in the elements of role play, its multiplied to the tenth power! Such a deep level of trust, in my opinion, cannot be bought, sold or traded upon. In essence,the main required rule to a TRUE BdSm relationship would stand in direct opposition of the professional Domme! For a pro to be divulging secrets of her clients sessions while shopping in the local fetish shop proved to me that this particular domme was far from a pro no matter how well equipped her dungeon was! i liken it to the plight of the magician, in that anyone can be a stage illusionist, and make millions, but only a TRUE Master Magician can make you believe in magic, and can you really put a price-tag on that? Needless to say, i have never bought time with a pro, and it is the main reason i have gone so long without any training-i wont trust my life to just anyone.In essence i have become to weird for the average person in the bedroom, but remain to vanilla for anyone within the scene..