Collarspace

We enjoy making friends with interesting folks, even better if they share this lifestyle.

Were in a Female Led Marriage. That does not mean we are doing kinky things 24x7. It means that she is head of the household. Ultimately she makes any final decisions. But he is an active collaborator and responsible for keeping the household and the marriage strong and the shared experience rich. Hes not a doormat, and is expected to be a top notch contributor.

However, she does provide routine maintenance discipline to help him stay focused, and likes him submissive and following orders at home during liesure time.

(And this should save some folks a lot of time... She is asexual, not going to sub to anyone, and not interested in dominating other subs. Our relationship is structural, not sexual.)

(Also we certainly are not looking for any slaves, either gender.)

We like to meet folks who would share similar interests in the vanilla world. We like art, music, comedy, movies, some sports, road trip travel, gardening, photography, our pets, good food, witty conversation, economics, politics. We love to hear different opinions from ours (though not so much strident ideology). We believe that shared experience makes for great friendships, both between us, and with our circle of friends.

Couples seem to work out the best, Femdom usually, but also Mf and switches. Weve enjoyed meeting singles who are not married, and who are interested in more than just sex. Bambi is asexual, and not really interested in dominating other subs. That often helps screen out the primarily-horny types. (Dont bother thinking youll change her mind.) Rennie is also gender fluid for the feeling of freedom, not as a sexual fetish (his feminine persona is here as AranciaMizzinmi).

Rennie does all the screening online, then if it seems like everyone wants to get to know each other better, a call then a public meeting. Were hoping to make friends for an ongoing complete relationship and have done so. Not really interested in the Erica Jong zipless thing. That was great when we were young, not so much now. Plus, honestly, were not that physically desirable. No model types in this household. Our best days were over decades ago.

Some other interests...

- going to scene events, especially weekend hotel shindigs.

- just socializing around at home with scene friends.

- we continue to seek a dominant for behavior modification for Rennie, any gender. Besides weight loss, there are a bunch of behaviors to modify. Are you perhaps a kinky psychotherapist who always wanted to try BDSM as a therapeutic variable? A little CBT with a whip? Cute, but were not joking - cognitive behavioral therapy. This is an everyday event, morning and evening, very stern, until goals are reached (est. 6mos to a year.)

- anyone interested in hypnosis. Were very interested in combining vanilla and power exchange topics via hypnosis. Both have had good experiences with hypnosis in the past, though with vanilla professional hypnotists, absent of BDSM.

- possibly a BDSM mentor for Bambi, but she is asexual, so dont expect to get in her knickers. (She started this lifestyle midlife. He, as a sub, he finds it challenging to be a guide without topping from the bottom. So weve found that a third party could help.)

- we like girls events with other girlgurl couples and select single gurls. things like champagne and cucumber sandwich luncheons, movie nights, pajama parties, tea and crumpets, going to a gurl friendly beach in bikinis (the gurls... Bambi wears womens one pieces and stays outta the sun.)

- we might help a novice CDTV with dressing and being free at last to relax as in their feminine persona.

- anyone with a ranch or secluded acreage for outdoor sulky pony play (without offending the vanillas.)

- BDSM exercise for rennie - physical exercise training with kink, e.g. rowing with nipple clamps and back whipping, elliptical in pony dress, pushups swallowing a phallus on the down movement, situps ending in kissing the buttocks or genitals, squats onto a phallus, and any other kinky exercise you can think of.