9/9/2016 9:40:12 AM: Chattel noun chat·tel \ˈcha-təl\: An item of tangible movable or immovable property (such as a slave, piece of furniture, tool, etc.) that a person owns other than land or buildings (i.e., real estate and things such as buildings connected with real property). What is the Difference Between chattel and slave? The word chattel is encountered in two main senses. The earlier of the two is primarily technical and refers to property, specifically property that is distinct from real estate holdings. The second meaning of chattel can excite considerable emotion, as it refers to humans as property, i.e., slaves. Chattel, slave and the less common bondman and thrall are all synonyms for a person held in servitude by another. Chattel and cattle both come to English from the same source: each is descended from the Medieval Latin word capitale, which itself traces to the Latin caput meaning “head.”   Source: Merriam-Webster  

5/29/2016 3:25:17 AM: I crave traditionalism. I want my wife's wardrobe to be 98% dresses and skirts. I want to her to ask me permission for purchases. I want to give her good china and to throw dinner parties. I want her to make my house into a home for us that others envy. I want her to serve me first and look after my needs wants and desires first. I want to open doors for her and to then order dinner for her. I want her to show me how devoted she is to me by worshiping me and how for her to be happy she needs to make me happy. I want her to decorate for every holiday. I want to give her an allowance. I want her to be a “kept woman”. I want her to put in just as much work at home as I do at my career. I want her to be part of a team. I want her to know that she’ll get a spanking just because. I want her to need and want schedules and habits and routines and traditions. I want her to want this life with me more than she's ever wanted anything with anyone.

5/23/2016 3:01:06 AM: Girls will be girls You sincerely want to be possessed by a man, not just by any man but by a strong, dominant man you can admire, respect, and even worship. So you ratcheted up your courage and approached such a man when he became visible to you, understanding that if you didn’t, you might never meet him – or anyone as good as him – as he’s likely not the type who chases women down. And, to your joy and gratification, he responded to you, he took your desire to get to know him and possibly serve him seriously. Now, while you’re not “his” yet, you are beginning an exploration with him… So what happens next? You’ve won the prize, right? You’ve been accepted by the man of your dreams, you’ve done one of the hardest things in your life by approaching him first, and now all should be smooth sailing from here on end, particularly as he begins to realize, in turn, how much of a prize you are and how he wants and needs you. Well, maybe. In the heady rush of the start of a new relationship, many a submissive woman forgets that the hardest part is not over. She makes the fatal mistake of seeing this new relationship, perhaps with the first strong, dominant man she has ever encountered, as just like any other relationship: he’ll shortly fall in love with her beauty and purity or, at very least, become entranced with her feminine charms, while she just sits back and enjoys the romance, letting him drive. What many a woman with submissive ideals who has become used to wrapping men around her little finger forgets is that a genuinely dominant man will expect a lot more from her than any other male she’s ever encountered. She hasn’t won anything at this early point in the relationship. In fact, she’s just begun a long and arduous climb up a hill of his making, a hill designed to test her mettle and determine whether she has what it takes to serve him truly and completely. Every relationship is different, and some of us never encounter or even want to encounter a strict taskmaster, someone who we know will enforce our obedience. Some women want a softer, gentler, more loving man: someone who dotes upon her, builds her up, and praises her rather than one who demands a great deal, expects near-perfect obedience, and uses her primarily for his own benefit and pleasure. Many a submissive woman desires a daddy or at least a kindly “facilitator” to selflessly help her actualize herself far beyond what she could accomplish on her own: someone who will see her as far more than “merely” his female servant. If this describes you, that’s fine, you should seek what it is you need, but the sort of man described here in is not the man you’re looking for. However,  if you do have a craving to be completely owned and controlled, then you are going to find that convincing such man that you have both a lasting desire for this extreme level of servitude and the ability to handle it is going to take some doing. To be quite frank, such a man has seen every type of female, every sort of cop-out and game, every possible demonstration of laziness, resentfulness, deceit, and pure feminine malevolence that exists, and he’s going to be quite hard to convince that you are not also the same type of woman he has encountered in the past. In her eyes, he’s just there to make her look and feel the part she sees herself playing. She projects her often self-serving and vain fantasies about her ideal romantic man onto a very inappropriate target and then becomes enraged or resentful when he doesn’t slot neatly into her leading man role; when he doesn’t fall madly in love with her in the time frame she thinks appropriate; when he doesn’t seem to care much about her goals, passions, obsessions, or desires beyond where they enhance serving him; when he doesn’t do the typical guy things such as bringing her presents, initiating contact with her, liking her more than she likes him, ad nauseam. To garner the attention of such a man many a stubborn woman (despite being insulted by having to do this) pretends to be something very different from what she actually is: she pretends to prostrate herself as his and acts as if she is sincerely seeking to make him the center of her life. But he has ways of discovering such deceptions and  the primary reason for doing so is to reassure those of you who are sincere that this slow, careful, methodical evaluation of you is not personal. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you. It just means he has to be careful because he’s been burned so many times before.

5/16/2016 11:29:52 AM: An open letter to the young submissive who is seeking an Older, Wiser, Experienced and REAL Dominant:I want to address our conversations yesterday and today - if you can call them that. Yes, those conversations we had via chat that you cut off because I was too slow in my responses and not answering immediately. You will never find a Master unless you adjust your attitude. I have truly lived this lifestyle for nearly as long as you have been alive (Her age is listed as 35). I started in this lifestyle real time around 1981-2, prior to that if one counts reading, studying and dreaming. You, in your frankly bratty and inconsiderate response said: 'I am looking for someone real, which clearly you are not!' This is me and this is real: I do not live online. I have a career. I have responsibilities. I have places to go. I have things to do. I have a family. I have Friends. I live a polyamorous BDSM lifestyle 24/7/365. AND I have a real live slave who resides in my home - fulltime.Being polyamorous, I am always keeping my eye out for potentials to add to my life and possibly my household. So yes, I reached out to get to know you because you said you were looking for someone exactly like me. However anyone who is more older, wiser, experienced, AND REAL, is also going to have the real life matters described about. Why would anyone give you his undivided attention simply because you demand it? Particularly because you are so impetuous, bratty and quite frankly rude about? You are alone, not because there isn't anyone real who is into your kinks, you are alone because you are impatient and demanding, yet holding yourself out as a submissive. Red flags galore as soon as you step off the starting line! Now don't take this the wrong way and go off about what an asshole I am. Think about what I have said above and take it to heart. You are a pretty girl. You seem to be interesting. You are definitely kinky. You have many attractive qualities. You may one day make a great slave for a older, wiser, more experienced Dom. But you will never get his attention unless you become less demanding and more 'real' like the slave you claim you want to be. Think about the personification of following words and try to learn to have some of these qualities and you'll be much more successful in your quest for a Master. Key words (in no particular order): Acquiescent; Compliant; Diffident; Attentive; Obedient; Devoted; Yielding; Loyal; Docile; Accommodating; Conscientious; Dedicated. There are seven keys to successful BDSM: Communication, Candor, Trust, Respect, Commitment, and Humility. These are the foundational “cornerstones” of a successful D/s relationship, or any relationship for that matter, are: 1. Communication (open and ongoing); 2. Candor (honesty with yourself and others); 3. Trust (of each other and the institution, i.e., the lifestyle); 4. Respect (treating yourself and others with respect and dignity); 5. Commitment (to each other, to the relationship, and to the lifestyle) 6. Humility. Yes, Humility because we all make mistakes (shhhh, even Doms). 7. Patience. These relationships take time to establish. We all have real lives that we must integrate our D/s into. There is no immediate gratification. Live by these principles and you’ve got more than 90% of the rest of the relationships in the world. These relationships don’t come easily. They take time to establish and maintain, perhaps even more than vanilla ones. Because of that, and the perception by much of society that we are “weirdoes” that makes it very difficult to find real and suitable potential partners – particularly at the level you seek. Okay I have said my peace.   

4/10/2016 10:26:31 AM: Note: This is an edited paraphrase from a tumblr blog. A few basic principles used to denote your availability to the men around you: 1. Dress Appropriately No man wants to dally with a girl that looks like a man. When in ‘professional’ settings (class, work, etc) wear skirts. High heels, hose, garterbelt, Low-cut blouses that show off your tits. When out socially wear similar outfits, but don’t be afraid to wear shorter skirts, more scandalous tops. Your flesh is what men want, so show it to them. Shave and wax regularly to remove every patch of body hair below your eyebrows. And never, ever be somewhere where men can see you without makeup on and your hair done. 2. Project the Right Attitude Act subservient. Don’t run your mouth around men. Don’t speak unless spoken to. Stay as quiet, turning your attention to the things men say rather than focusing on speaking for yourself. Giggle at men’s jokes. Agree with what they say. Compliment them on their intelligence, their wisdom, and more besides (laud their handsomeness, their fitness, etc). Be a good conversationalist - if a man wants to hear you speak, speak - but try to avoid voicing opinions of your own. Let him have his opinions and don’t give yours unless asked, in other words, agree with the man who wants to have a conversation with you. Furthermore, have the attitude appropriate for the servant you want to be. If a man is pressed for time, take some of his burden off of him: Do his laundry, or clean his home, or cook him a meal, or some variation of all three. Men want you to serve them, and that doesn’t just mean sexual service. Dote on them. Massage them when they’re tired or sore. If a man needs something, fetch it for him. Make their lives easier however you can. Men don’t necessarily want a doormat, but they do want a female who is quite, does what she’s told, and works for his benefit independently. Be that sort of woman. Always, always, smile while you’re doing it, and never forget to thank a man for whatever he’s let you do, no matter what it is. 3. Free your Mouth Generally men don’t want you running your mouth. The best use for you mouth is sucking cock, not talking. Become freer and easier with how you hand out blowjobs. Realistically, offering to suck dick should be no more unusually to you than a handshake or saying hello. It should be a regular function that you fulfill, a duty that you try to enact as much as possible. If a man walks or drives you home, offer to suck his cock. If a man comes over to hang out, give him a blowjob. If a man sits next to you in class and shares notes with you, ask him to let you blow him afterwards. If a man is in a study group of yours, ensure that he knows he can always have you suck him off on a break. Men know you’re a cocksucker. Men want you to be a cocksucker. So be a cocksucker. Don’t be afraid of it, embrace it. Ask to be allowed to suck cock regularly; offer blowjobs at least once a day, whenever appropriate. But make sure that it’s clear that your mouth is a ‘no-strings-attached’ zone. No man wants a female who sucks him off and then shows him that she did it only to get something out of it. Blowjobs are a basic duty of yours - make sure that the men you suck off know that you’re doing it because it’s the right thing to do, not because you want something from them in return. Finally, remember that it is a great honor to be allowed to suck Our cocks. Always thank a man when he’s done cumming in your mouth or on your face. And never push. If a man doesn’t want a blowjob from you, accept it with a smile and move on. you’re the inferior; only Our needs matter, and that means you have to get used to being turned down. 4. Spread your Legs You were born to be a slut, and every man knows it. So act like the slut you are. If a man wants sexual service from you, give it up to him when, where, and how he wants it. Don’t be afraid of it - you have to embrace the fact that you’re a slut and that this is what men want from you. Sexual servitude is your primary duty, so see that you fulfill it as much as you can. This means that you have to make it clear to the men who spend time with you that you’re always willing to spread your legs for them, however. Men, caught up in an insane society, will often forget what is theirs to take by right. Furthermore, they will often be used to uppity, feminist females who respond negatively when they want to take what is theirs. Make it clear to them that you know what you have to offer, and are more than willing to make it available to them. There are multitudinous ways a cunt can signal a man that she is his if he wants her, be it through speech, behavior, dress, or what-have-you. Become comfortable with those signals, and give them off to all the men around you. There is, however, a fine line between being a slut and acting like a whore. Weirdly, men who interact with you casually will want the former, but occasionally react negatively to the latter. Because the latter will often come across as trashy or, even worse, pushy. Don’t be pushy, don’t be trashy. you’re an inferior, but act with some class and deportment. you can throw yourself at a man without making it obvious or embarrassing for him - men won’t want to feel put on the spot by you - and make yourself more attractive by giving off an unmistakable vibe of “I’m yours - conquer me.” As always, and as with the previous point, make sure that it’s clear to men that having you sexually is a no-strings-attached situation. If a man wants to fuck you once, and never again, that’s fine. If he wants to have you multiple times, that’s great. And if he wants you as his exclusively, well, that’s the brass ring. Never, ever put pressure on a man for more. you’re a servant, and servants don’t make demands of their Superiors. Finally, work hard at being what a man wants you to be when he’s fucking you. Men want you to fulfill their fantasies, not impose on their pleasure with your own (you should have none beyond serving them, of course). If they want you to lie still and take it, lie still and take it. If they want you to be active, be a whirlwind and slide all over them. If they want you to be vocal, scream and wail your head off. If they want you to be quiet, don’t make a peep. If they want you to talk dirty, show them how perverted you can really be. If they want you to call them Daddy and be an inexperienced little girl, be that innocent for them. If they want to force you, ‘resist’ (note the quotes) them appropriately to help them fire their blood. Sexual use isn’t about you, it’s about them. Be what they want you to be, be the fantasies they’ve always had. Oh, and don’t forget: you’re naturally bisexual. If men will be entertained by your playing with another female - be it making out or eating out - you’re beholden to make it happen for them. Just remember that the focus is still, as always, on them. Play with another cunt to enhance their pleasure, but never distract from their pleasure. And always, always be ready to service a man with another slut of his choosing - even if he makes you seduce her for him. 5. Practice, Practice, Practice You aren’t perfect. No girl is. So hone what talents you have. Watch how you walk in heels and alter your stride until you have that ‘sexy but demure’ walk down cold. Appraise your outfits critically to ensure that you always strike the balance between slutty and submissive, and that your outfits are appropriate for the flesh you have. Meditate daily to remind yourself what you were born for and what your duty is. Edge regularly, never cumming, to reinforce the fact that your pleasure stems only from how well you have served your Superiors. Use dildos daily to train your cock sucking skills until your gag reflex is gone and you have the right breath control to deep-throat regularly with ease. And kegel often to keep your pussy muscles tight and under your conscious control. Never stop making yourself better for us, in whatever way you can. There is always more you can be practicing, when away from our eyes. Making it clear to them that you’re available, isn’t always the easiest thing to do. Not all of them will want you. Sometimes you’ll slip over the line and make yourself unattractive to them. These mistakes are unfortunate, but unavoidable. Learn from them, do better the next time, never look back in regret, and always be grateful to the men who let you learn a valuable lesson through their rejection. Ultimately, men want you to be A) pretty, B) demure, C) sexy, D) slutty, E) subservient, F) obedient. Be these things, if nothing else, and you won’t go wrong for long. Be a mirror for them, reflecting their glory and their superiority at every turn. One girl summed all of this up nicely by saying: “Wear what he wants. Do as he says. Cook. Clean. Shut up. Suck his cock. Repeat as often as possible.”