you are courious about bdsm and need to experience domination. your vanilla relationship or the the inability to find a dominant that is patient and willing to help you take your first steps keep you from what you wish to know. you seek one that is sane, patient, honest, and most of all concerned about your safety and need for discretion. and, you need to know that it wont interfere with your current life.I seek submissives that need to know what it is like to be bound, dominated, controlled, stimulated, and touched deeply with intimate honest communication. I seek the curious that need to explore their submissive nature and to be trained so that they know if this is more than a fleeting fantasy or they arereal selves. I do not expect long term or daily, but more that it is taken one step at a time, that each step is taken together with careful consideration, and that respect is maintained.I do not seek the quick or the easy nor a one night stand. BDSM is more than the sex, or acts, it is about the depth of the relationship. I am willing to help the curious and perhaps more might develop. Sex is not the focus of BDSM as I envision the dynamic, and because of that is totally optional if you wish to consider what I offer. If the relationship does not develop, you will have my respect, my friendship, and the privacy of your search kept a secret.Distance is not an obstacle if you are willing to travel to me. However, if travelling is an issue, then you should be with in a reasonable drive from me -- and willing to make a partial drive too.I am a highly educated professional with a need to control. I relish submissives that are articulate and can confidently express an opinion. your level of education does not matter as long as you are able to converse confidently. There is no specific goal for a relationship other than those expressed above. Rather, I am very flexible if you are the right person and I do expect that any relationhip wortha long term commitment takes patience and work bythose in it to develop in a healthy way.If you are interested, please drop me a short message. I do not need long and lengthy stories in an email. I feel that direct interactive communicationis the best means toaddress discovery.Tristian.