Please note I just updated my profile as of 10/18/14

Actively Looking and Available. If you like what you see, msg me.

I am graduating from college here in a few months and thus am in the position to relocate soon.

New pictures coming soon.

Warning: My profile is very long, but also very thorough. 

 I will start by saying that although my name has "lord" in it I'm not of the Dominate prerogative. Although I have been in the past. The name stands for someone who tries to reign over his decadence but instead falls and becomes lustful of it.

Also, as you might be able to tell after reading this, I'm not your standard stamp and mold Sub. I'm extremely passionate and a bit romantic, but also very picky about who I serve. I probably only contact and talk to maybe 1-2 individuals a month, from every site not just CM, while I search for that special person that I will want to serve for life.

A little about me as a person:

I'm currently looking for a LTR that could and would lead to Marriage and Starting a family someday and trying to carve out a small bit of happiness in my life. IE: I'm 100% real and serious, but I'm not stupid either. I know exactly what kind of person I want to serve for life and do to previous "Dommes" actions I now have a near ZT policy when red flags start popping up. That means I will leave you in a heartbeat if you break my trust.

I'm willing to go to great length to get it, to include visiting out of state to meet people or, situation depending, even out of the country, and am even willing to help relocate that special person if it came to that. That being said, I expect you to make me a priority in my life as well. I don't mind multifaceted relationships, but I will never settle for being number 2 if you have a stable or other relationships. I am not a back burner.

Yes I do have a Vanilla life and a great one :)  I have spent 2 years of college going for my Science Bach Degree in Game Art and Design. I then transferred to Metrostate and am graduating with my BA in Individualized Studies in December. I Spent four years in the USMC and got out as a Corporal which is a NCO. Before that I worked for 2 years as an Electrician. I have enough medical knowledge to get an EMT certification if I wanted to (Apparently MOST military Medical certifications don't transfer over to the real world lol). I'm extremely tech savy, and know how to build PCs. I'm a perfect blend of jock and nerd. I'm extremely creative and adaptable. I love sports, driving, anime, reading, video games, literature and poetry, working out, hiking, camping, and more. Some of my all time favorite topics are psychology, sociology, and philosophy.

I'm extremely well mannered and was raised to be a gentleman. The Marine Corps was not able to change this, thank god.  I am a bit of a romantic at heart and believe in upholding to individual principles, because without principles we are no better than animals. Granted what each person's principles are varies, some being of light some being of dark, its the adherence to them that matters; the adherence to our beliefs. The rest I think I'll leave for conversation, but there is a lot more. I've been told by others that I'm somewhat an enigma and very complicated.

      Do to a recent relationship I have come to learn something new about myself. Although I'm more relaxed when in the role of Dom or even as a switch, I realized that my happiest days was as a sub. Why? because its something to let go of in my life. When I was in the Military I hated, hated, being an NCO who would go around yelling at people, punishing people when they screwed up. I just liked making sure things went smooth and got done and everyone was happy. Its come to my attention that although on a personal level I don't have to worry about as much when I was exploring my Dom ways in the force, its not something I want to spend the rest of my life doing. Plus, was never really pro at it. So as of today I'm changing back, yes I said it, back into identifying as a sub. So that being said:

     I Identify as a Sub. I've been a part of this lifestyle for the past two years but only seriously this past year. I am a Lifestyler who is part (But not actively, I just like to get to know people and learn from them) of the local community. I've taken the role of Submissive and Slave (Yes, there is a difference) in the past in addition to being a Dom recently. As I stated above however, I'm going to be sticking with the Sub and Slave side of things from now on. I have found that taking on the submissive side of things in a relationship makes me happier and I enjoy it more than being the top. Only problem is that I'm not easy to control as I was raised to be a leader from a mostly military connected family and spent time in the military as an NCO (being a leader). Because of this I tend to be very dominate in my Vanilla life...... which is why I NEED that person to fill my other half, to allow me to LET GO, in my personal and private time. That all being said I am a fairly strong willed individual. Which is why I love it so much when someone can actually make me submit. Its the greatest feeling in the world to me.

      It is my belief that there is no absolute dark or light side to anything in this world. Everything is made of shades of grey (I was using this long, long, long before that book came out), and everything has an equal and opposite side, like a coin, one side heads and one side tails, with each individual coin being a slightly different color, slightly more rusted or polished than the next. But as with all things it it is perspective that defines as what something is. One person seeing a color of scarlet may see it as just plain red, or even a colorless shade as the light refracts off of it and into our eyes and mind. So this of course is how I view my lifestyle as well. I believe that it is a myriad of colors, sensations, and personifications etching out an finite yet infinite amount of possibilities of passion, understanding, exploration, and ecstasy.

     The only type of women that can control me is a highly educated one, mainly because you have to outsmart me.... which is not easy, who knows how to use her body and mind into "Seducing" me into decadence. Please note the very careful wording. Seducing, meaning not bratty or bitchy. Granted we all have our moments but bratty and bitchy personalities get you know where with me. Hence the name lordofDECADENCE. its the act of falling into decadence that turns me on. The mental side of domination is necessary for me to fall into deep subspace. I love being in subspace, so you need to be able to get me there.

As a Sub (and maybe slave if I ever find the right person) and what I'm looking for:

      I am looking for that ONE awesome Goddess that will both give me companionship and happiness the same way I would do for her. Who has the education, open mind, urge to explore and push me and herself further. That Goddess who actually cares about her property and doesn't just think of it as something to break, but cultivate and make into a prized possession. That goddess who has balance of cruel conviction and elegance. The goddess who can hold conversations and actually cares what her possession thinks, but has the will power to make the decision of yes or no. This is because I believe that an M/s relationship is one of mutual exploration, respect and understanding between individuals; a door that swings both ways. However, there is always a leader and a follower, but by very definition a follower is someone who chooses to follow, either out of fear or admiration. Yet nothing built upon fear and tyranny ever lasts.

      In the end though I'm looking for a Girlfriend, someone who is actually a girlfriend IE. we are dating, who will OWN me 24/7 near TPE in a LTR. One who will understand that even as her slave I'm still human. I'm open to mutually agreed open relationships if that is what she wants, as long as I would remain the alpha of the stables.

Some of my favorite things I have experienced:

Pain (I'm a pain slut with a very high threshold to the point that I would probably receive permanent damage before using a safe word)

Slave training (I like being trained and personalized)

Forced Feminization

Being pegged

being queened

Worship of every kind

Foot/ heels/ stockings worship

trampling

extreme bondage

Electrical torture

Being a pleasure slave

asphyxiation

hot wax

more

Things I REALLY want to try:

Golden stuff

Sounding

Suspension

being caged

Hypnosis

Reverse-rape play (IE: being raped by a women or multiple women)

Forced Rape play (IE: being raped by a guy in front my Mistress for her pleasure)

Overall i am extremely hedonistic and will try anything at least once.

As a sub I have very few limits:

Soft Limits (ones that I would allow done once that level of trust is accumulated):

Cuckolding: I like participating in this subject but only if some of the time I get some action too. I know thats kinda toppy but i have found that if i never, ever, get some action and i visually see for months on end all these other people getting some i get rebellious and up dropping the relationship.

Permanent markings IE: tattoos, branding, scarification, other marks that wont go away ever.

SPH: Primarily because I don't have a small penis and I know it very very well. I mean you can do it but don't expect a lot of results.

Financial domination is a real pet peeve of mine. Mainly because somewhere along the line of its history the meaning changed to mindlessly ruining peoples lives via there money. That being said, I love giving gifts, but they're gifts because they aren't expected and are GIVEN freely. It's in soft limits because it turns me on.... a lot. But I have learned from past mistakes to be careful who I allow to actually financial dom me and you have to have my full trust before I do this with you and I always reserve the right to safe word out of it. If you push me after I safe word out of it you will never get the chance to do it again.

Hard Limits: (ones that will probably never change)

Scat play Same reasons as below. Granted it does turn me on being forced to do it but its also extremely nasty and unhealthy. 

Unhealthy permanent damage IE: Death, castration (ball removal), amputation, etc.

Diapers: Sorry, just never happening.

Scat is not happening, ever. For starters its not sanitary (Holds bacteria and possibly worms) unlike Golden stuff which is 100% sterile upon exiting.

     Breaking the sub/slave's personal limits:

 This is more for the group that has limits (aka 90% of the REAL subculture). To me limits are important aspects of life. They show us our limitations and fears. There are two types of limits, hard and soft. "I will push your soft limits, break them down slowly, and move you past your fears."-The Top. This intern makes new ones which "I will repeat the process on."-The Top.  Your Hard Limits should never and will never break with out discussing it with both parties in detail PRIOR to any exploration of them.

The above is something I wrote down at a seminar a while back. Its a excerpt from the Domme that was giving the presentation. This is where alot of people go wrong. Even if you think you are a no limit individual, there are still limits. legal limits, safety limits, etc. This is because the whole idea of this subculture, which by the way is NOT GOREAN, and if you think it is you need to do some more research on it..... alot-- is to promote trust, sexual and emotional exploration of BOTH individuals in relation to their respective roles, but most importantly MUTUAL respect. 

If you think I'm not a real sub or slave because of this, trust me your dead wrong.

In final words I will say this. I am extremely mature and wise for my age. This is because I have experienced a lot for my age. What doesn't kill us will always make us stronger. Fear is an illusion, goals are ideals to strive for. In the end it is really the seven sins of man kind that drive life and culture and whether they admit it or not every action is motivated by those seven sins. A submissive or slave submits out of greed, lust, envy, gluttony. Just as a Dom or Domme Dominates for similar reasons. I know what I want in life and I know where I want to be and go. Just as I will strive to make your life happier and more satisfying, it is the opposite and equal reaction that my fantasies, needs, and happiness be returned as REWARD. As I believe in honesty its only fair to bring this up front, failure to provide equal and opposite reactions or to change my goals in life for selfish needs will result in a very very grumpy and stubborn slave.

Thank you for reading that massive glob of txt I pretend is a profile. XD

PS: I'm not the kind of dude that goes around posting naked pictures everywhere. If you want to see any pictures of any part of me naked.... or the full thing. Just ask and I will accommodate.