I am a naturally dominant male who is psychologically, intellectually, and emotionally balanced and in control of all aspects of my life (personally and professionally).

I am single, do not smoke cigarettes (although I do rarely smoke a cigar), rarely drink (a glass of Scotch to go with the cigar), I do not do drugs, and I am disease-free.

I did not post a picture of myself for professional privacy reasons.

I am primarily looking to build a long term Ds based relationship. Dominance and submission will be in every aspect of the relationship. 

I'm seeking a relationship that blends the deep commitment, control, and mutual sense of belonging found in a Master/slave or Owner/property dynamic, with the everyday structure, guidance, and responsibility of a Head of Household—similar to a 1950s-style or Taken in Hand relationship. I’m also drawn to the protective, nurturing aspects often seen in DD/lg relationships (to be clear, I’m not interested in age play). Unlike purely BDSM-oriented relationships that focus on negotiated scenes or take place mainly in the bedroom or within the kink community (like parties or clubs), the relationship I envision is rooted firmly in real life and daily connection. It emphasizes a balance of everyday "vanilla" interactions with a consistent D/s dynamic. At its core, I believe this type of symbiotic relationship fosters deep trust, harmony, closeness, and a profound sense of peace—while still fulfilling the desires and needs of both the dominant and the submissive.

I do not spend a lot of time on this site and will sometimes go quite a while between visits here. If we connect, I have no problem moving conversations to a different venue. We will start with conversations here, then email, phone conversations, leading to video chat and ultimately meeting in real life.
Intellectually stimulating conversations are always welcome.

The Invitation

by Oriah Mountain Dreamer


It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your hearts longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon...
I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow,
if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it, or fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own.
If you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us
to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty, even when it is not pretty
every day, And if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine,
and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, Yes.

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.




Two Wolves

A Cherokee Legend

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life.

A fight is going on inside me he said to the boy.

It’s a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

He continued, the other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.

The same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too.

The grandson thought for a minute and then asked his grandfather, which wolf will win?

The old Cherokee simply replied, the one you feed.