I do not believe that a single label can define a person, including myself. I believe there are may roles that each partner will fulfill for each other in a relationship. Without using labels, what I desire is a woman who receives pleasure from pleasing her partner regardless of what that entails. This is what I consider submission.
Submission does not mean I will see you as a doormat. Nor do I require you to be completely reliant upon me. There is a cost with some aspects of your submission and I do not intend to be foolish with it. You will trust and obey me, I will use you for my pleasure and we will be happy.
You should be able to be emotionally engaged in the relationship, not disassociated from your body. Without your mind your body is nothing but a warm doll. (Though aspects of doll play do intrigue me and part of me really would like a dungeon slave). You must want to learn about me and more importantly about yourself so that we may grow in our relationship. Being submissive does not mean I will not value you opinion or knowledge.
You will learn to accept the duality of your nature; being owned as property and yet being very well cared for, cherished and adored but also used as desired by her Master. However none of this will be possible without open and honest communication. If you are not happy in the relationship then something is wrong. If you do not speak up and tell me you are not happy then something is terribly wrong.
You should be selfless and in touch with your emotions and able to express them without hesitation. Tell me all your needs, desires and fantasies, no matter how dark, twisted or embarrassed they make you feel; and I will take time to address them one by one so I may more effectively care and provide for you. As a sadist I may even turn this knowledge against you.
You will be expected to perform some domestic duties. You will have your life’s needs provided for. This includes medical care if you do not hold an outside job that provides it. If you do hold a job the money you earn will be yours; but so long as you are mine you will not spend it or manage it without my permission.
Outside of the house we will generally appear vanilla. When in public you will be obedient and submissive however I will not subject you to abject public humiliation. Though when around understanding friends your submission and my control will be far more evident and discipline will not be withheld.
I do not wish to have children and I generally do not wish to enter into a relationship where there is a child. I may accept a woman with a child but there are caveats. One of which is I do not want children living with us. The way I desire to live it would not be appropriate. If you have children and they are older and no longer live with you then this should not be a problem.
I know no one is perfect, including myself but I do have some weight restrictions. I think it is best to just say this: If you are more than 65% of my weight or a BMI over 25 I am not interested. I do attend a gym three times a week for two hours or more each time. I would expect you to take care of your body at least as well as I do mine.
You should be willing to relocate however, I do not expect you, nor will I ask you to relocate after a few emails or phone calls. Nor will I expect you to bear the burden of any travel or moving expenses yourself. I am not into online domination or long distance relationships. If you find me appealing and are willing to travel to meet me I will be more than happy to accommodate you. However, I will not send you money.
I am strict but not unreasonable, correcting you on the spot for minor indiscretion (grabbing your hair to re-enforce a verbal warning, slapping your face or a quick spanking). At times I will simply use you to satisfy my sexual needs. At other times you will satisfy my need for affection (I would just as soon have you curl up on my lap to watch a movie as I would use you). There will be times when I will need to make you suffer pain and humiliation for my own satisfaction.
To me seeing a girl suffer pain or humiliation is highly erotic. However I do not like hitting girls who like to be hit. I prefer to hit girls who do not like to be hit but allow it out of desire to please me.
Tears of humiliation and pain are very arousing for me. I remember an incident in elementary school when I saw my “girlfriend” paddled in front of the class. I was mesmerized at the sight of her tears, pain and humiliation. Along the same lines, bruises and welts are like makeup and I find beautiful on a woman. I love the sexy marks left by a cane on a woman’s shapely body.
I do have a casual interest in puppy/pet play and toy/doll play but do not foresee ever having a relationship where either of these are the primary dynamic. I enjoy physical domination in general. I love to grab a woman and toss her around, lead her by the hair and generally have my way with her. This is where petiteness is advantageous. Not only are petite women easier to physically dominate but they tend to be easier to cuddle as well, even forcibly if necessary. Emotional torture also interest and excites me as it has the potential to be used to enhance and enforce dominance over a woman.
I particularly enjoy shibari (or Insex) style rope bondage of which I am fairly decent at. I have been able to incorporate some knowledge from my years of tactical rescue into my rope bondage style which does include rope suspension. I also enjoy heavy chain bondage and find some form of continual light bondage extremely arousing. By this I mean you wearing a collar, leather cuffs and the like. Or being bound with chains or ropes at night to restrict some of your movements or just to make you slightly uncomfortable and dependent upon me.
I am very self sufficient. I enjoy working on my house, car, motorcycle and cooking my own meals; including baking bread every week. I am very methodical and thoughtful. Thus I rarely do anything without thinking it over. I am very creative and more likely to look for dungeon items in a Grainger or McMaster Carr catalog than a BDSM catalog. I am also vary capable of building my own devices and finding new uses for every day items and tools. I am slowly teaching myself how to MIG weld having purchased a very good welder a while back as a Christmas present to myself. You can guess why I want to be able to weld; if not ask.
I am emotionally stable albeit somewhat sensitive. I am financially stable and have a good career with a good company. I own my own house and have designed a nice workshop dungeon in the basement. I even have track bolted to the ceiling. It was there long before the world heard of Christian Grey and his red room of pain.
I don’t go out for the sake of going out, I’m too introverted for that. I tend to have trouble with my inner monologue. It has always been difficult for me to speak in politically correct terms. Sometimes this bluntness can come across as cruel or at least undiplomatic. As a result I tend to keep to myself and avoid making internet postings or replying to such.
My limits: You will be drug and disease free, not partake in any illegal activities, nor be forced or allowed to engage in coprophilia or bestiality.
Thank you for reading my entire profile. I hope I have been clear about my needs.
One last thing: If you have found what I have written appealing I ask that you contact me. Please do not be shy or feel intimidated as I do not subscribe to the belief that women should not be the ones to contact potential partners. You will, after all, be the one to make the decision to offer yourself to me or any other partner. For now it is your decision. If you do send me a message please put some thought into it. I won't respond to single word or single sentence messages. Please be upfront with your intentions as well. There is nothing I hate more than weeks of messages only to realize there is no intention of actually meeting. I do not mind exchange of emails as long as I know what your intentions are up front. I wish to have intelligent discussions with any potential partner. Truly MtF women are welcome to contact me. Unfortunately selecting Trans under "actively seeking" leads to a lot of unwanted emails and quickly deteriorating exchanges.