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I figured the person looking for lifestyle would want as much info as possible to make an intelligent decision as to if what I seek and what he seeks is compatible before he emails, since it will be life altering. If long profiles bother you, don't read it then contact me and bitch about it, simply DON'T READ IT! No one is forcing you to do it.

My Lifestyle dominant definition: I don't take clients, people passing through, nothing casual, definitely nothing online, etc. I do NOT respond to the title Mistress, I am a dominant. Just because you email doesn't mean I "have" to take you. I have the right to choose just like you do.

I insist on significant textual exchange here before I am willing to IM. I know some see this as "time wasting" or "faking", I call it the kind of sensible behavior that comes to protect both sides, so no IM’s unless I request it.

with that said....Hello everyone!

Just me....Thought I'd make a new-ish profile and have a fresh start: A little about me: Single, fulltime job, I like going to concerts, street fairs, etc. I like Harleys (back seat rider), music mostly metal, I like model trains, and building layouts (oh shut up..lol). I'm a MARVEL JUNKIE!!!, I mean I might need some kind of rehab. LOL My latest crush is Sebastian Stan, love me some Winter Soldier....(drool). And can't forget about my man Michele Morrone and of course Ryan Guzman. BUT my future husband Milo Ventimiglia lol Of course anyone with an accent has a definite edge, LOL

I am very easy going and laid back. I am often told that I am very easy to talk to. I am not an angry person, and I am not interested in someone who is. 24-7 drama is just not my thing. I know everyone has baggage, but if that's all you have to offer, I'm just not interested. I am a human being, I do make mistakes, and not afraid to admit it when I do. I am a strong, confident woman who knows what she wants. I can be very strict and hard at times, especially at first, until you are trained and learn how to serve me. I need to know you, the real you, to get inside your head. This will begin from the first conversation

what I'm looking for:

I am looking for males that are bi or bi curious, not sure if I will do anything down this road, or to what extent, but my slave has to be open mined. Eventually, may be a poly household one day. You must be able to actually relocate, if you're a gentleman, one that is comfortable in a suit and tie as well as a pair of jeans. If you want a D/s relationship that is woven into an everyday vanilla relationship.

This is for a 24/7 live in position ONLY: I am looking for one male (companion slave) whose motivation is real need instead of just occasional play. As my slave you will have domestic duties, cook, clean, chauffeur, etc. (Think of how Alfred serves Bruce Wayne / Batman, now put him in a Ds based relationship)I am big on rituals, tasks, positions on command, and protocols. Honesty and loyalty are very important to me. I am a sensual Dominant, I don't do extreme play, I like to, mostly, sexually tease. The only pains I administer are with paddles, belts, crops, etc. I do go slowly to build up your tolerance. I'm very nurturing and caring. I am extremely careful, so you must do exactly what I say or I will end it. I mean the whole relationship no one gets hurt around me.

Please don't: mention race/color. I am not some fetish for you. If that is your preference, keep it to yourself. Don't contact me if you are a dominant/ex dominant wanting to be submissive, dynamic doesn't work for me. Don't contact me if you're into feminization, nothing wrong with it, just my thing. Don't address me by a title of any kind, that is reserved for those I collar. Don't contact me with compliments/flattery, or the spam platitudes of "what a slave is, and what a dominant is" (yawn). Don't contact me if you refer to yourself as worthless, slut, pig, etc. Slaves/submissive are proud people and proud of their choice, there is nothing worthless about them.

If you want to be considered send me a "face" pic along with your introductory email containing a brief history of the vanilla you, (nothing about lifestyle)

Good luck on your search everyone!!!!

11/15/2023 5:01:01 PM: If you go into my DM without me agreeing to it, you can consider yourself not eligible for consideration. How rude! Just tells me that you are not respectful and not the submissive/slave for me.

11/6/2023 5:16:05 PM: I have a request; Please stop getting all butt hurt if I don't remember you. You contact me like once with only a few lines on your message and then don't contact me for weeks or months and get all mad because I don't remember you. I get a lot of emails between my two profiles. Just skip all the back and forth and just freakin' start over again Grow the F up!!!!

11/3/2023 9:59:58 PM: So funny. Someone contacts you about what they are looking for. I am nice and respectful and simply say that we are not looking for the same things, even put a little smile at the end. He also said that he had contacted me before, I told him that it wasn't me. So he contacts me on my second profile and says it was that one, again I inform him that is no history there I thought it was best to be honest and not to waste their time, even though I do have in my profile what I seek. Was I supposed to lie? Doesn't this fly in the face of all the talk of honesty and being 'real' on this site? So then this mature person decides to say something mean then block me. Now tell me again, what prize am I missing here? lol Everyone talks about being 'real' yet when you are honest this is the response that I get. Confusing If you don't have the balls to have a nice respectful discussion with me then you have nothing I want any way. bullet dodged lol

8/18/2023 10:12:07 PM: I found the bases of this on another profile I just put my own spin on it. I will probably put it on both profiles in hopes at least one person will actually pay attention lol I believe to be successful in a D/s relationship there has to be: 1. Attraction: both ways. Just because you are cruising pics and like mine doesn't mean I will like yours. And attraction is more than just looks. You can be the hottest but if you approach and say stupid things, then that will kill an attraction. 2. Connection: this is the same as a vanilla relationship, it just has d/s added in, anything else you need to get a pro domme or prostitute, which I am not and I am not interested in making an exception for anyone 3. Desire to Pursue Same Life Goals: We will be going out in the vanilla world as a 'normal' couple. We need to have things in common. Not going to work if one likes to go to brunch, street fairs and casinos, etc. you know spend time together outside the home, doing fun things and the other just likes to sit around and play video games or talk to women on the net. If someone wants consideration, then you should approach me with what I ask for within my profile (um, you did read it right? lol) If you do not, I assume you are not looking from consideration from me and/or you do not know how to follow commands. That is the main thing a slave/sub does, why would I be interested in you if you can't do something so simple? Also, If you are only in this to 'session' exclusively (you know, whenever you are in town or in the mood) then you don't know what lifestyle means. 4. Commitment to Each Other and Each Others Relationship Role: I have expectations, which I send to potential slaves that want consideration. It always seems to be the kiss of death because they see that I'm not some internet fantasy and they see how much commitment that I have and the commitment I expect. Then all of a sudden things are 'too fast' or they just ghost altogether. This action just tells me that they were never serious in the first place. You just thought you'd pretend to get jerk off material. This also means, if you are married or in some other kind of relationship, you can NOT make a real commitment to anyone else. Again, go find a pro or prostitute and AGAIN, not making an exception for you. If you have some kind of addiction, alcohol, drugs, etc. then you can not commit to a slave role. No serious dominant is going to train or do any kind of d/s activities with anyone under the influence. You will not have the sanity to gauge pain and could really get hurt, so be honest about it if you do have an addiction. Some dominants might be able to help you. If you lie, these same dominants will probably not trust you and kick you out of their home. It's more than a fetish, sex, or some fantasy to jerk off to. It is a Lifestyle. with 'Life' being the key word. Would love to meet a real submissive/slave who shares the same thoughts as I do, and not on here just to pretend. (pretend they have a gf, dominant, etc. and really have no intention to actually meet) ( get tons of those)

7/26/2023 5:16:57 PM: OMG it's man plain day!!!!

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