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Hello, I am Ms. V.

I am here to find a slave. To me that means a lifetime relationship commitment, one we can grow old with, have fun with, and do our way (meaning My way, of course!) One that includes a lot of kink along with the other adventures of life.

I am a well-educated professional, a bohemian outlaw, a maker, and an adventurer. I am also an older woman who tends to stay within a decade of my own age, at most, for partners. I like sharing some common history with my partner and being in the same stage of our lives. And yes, my slave is my partner, the other face of my coin.

I am interested in scifi and fantasy, historical fiction, and dabble in many other genres. I do a wide variety of crafting, and am currently in a polymer clay phase. I love dragons. I have a dog and a cat.This will be my last cat, but I will always have a dog. I live alone in a cabin in the woods, and commute too far to work. I like spicy food. I love Thai curry, but not Indian. I like purple. I listen to heavy metal, and like Bach and Schubert, and Buddy Guy. I am a freestyle Wiccan. I am a liberal leaning independent with a gun.

I am very direct, blunt, and practical. I try to see both sides of things, and predict problems so they can be solved in advance rather than wait for things to go wrong. Sometimes that comes across as negative. I am working on that, but be prepared to deal with it. I am really not a negative person, I am very laid back, sometimes grumpy but almost never angry, and generally pretty easy going. Just do it my way and everything works out fine!

I am a sadist. Well, sadomasochist, to be correct, but my sadism is very much ascendant. I will hurt you, and smile while I do it, and enjoy the hell out of it. But thats about play, not punishment. I do not mix the two up, and expect to punish rarely, if ever. I am not interested in domestic discipline. For that matter, I am not into any particular fetish, I am a broad-spectrum kinkster. I would prefer my slave to be adventurous like that, too. A person who sticks on one primary fetish would not be a good match for me.

If you think you would like to serve an aging bohemian adventurer, drop me a line. If you do, here are some pointers:

Do not call me Mistress, Goddess, Miss, or any other title. If you need to use Maam to feel polite, thats fine, but otherwise I am Ms. V. Or just V, if you are writing for some other purpose.

Write a letter that shows me that you are literate and know how to write a letter. Yes, thats important to me. Much of my life is spent around the written word, in one way or another. I want a slave who can share those aspects of my life with me.

Write like one human writing to another. A sub male and slave are of equal human value to anybody on the planet, and whoever you are, you are not Mine, and I have not consented to behaving like your dominant, so do not behave like my sub. Be a person first.

Write as though you are interested in me as a person, and write as an interesting person yourself, and tell me where our interests intersect.

That means do NOT write to ask permission to write. That is incredibly annoying. Do not waste my time. Do not send me one line small talk emails. I am not looking for a pen-pal, and make a very bad one myself.

Do not ask me for cyber, or long distance. I am not moving anybody to me until I have gotten to know them in person, so if you cannot travel often enough to my location in a reasonable amount of time to really get to know each other, do not expect a long distance relationship. And if you are not a permanent US resident, it is not happening. I am not into years of red tape with immigration. No.

I am not interested in sissy maids, roleplay, chastity, cuckolding, female supremacy, goddess-worship, or any fetish that is a consuming interest to the exclusion of other things. No obsessions, no addictions, no drama.

If your profile picture is your dick or your butt, I will hide your profile. I like those parts, but they do not make a good introduction, and somebody who thinks they do is not compatible with me. If your profile picture is butt plugs or a chastity cage, why? Do you think we do not know what they look like? If your biggest interest is in what toys can be used on you, I will not be your fetish provider.

**The pictures I have posted here are my own photography (except the ones of me, of course), the floggers and cats are things I made myself, the dungeon is my own, the bondage was done by me. Please do not use any photography or writing from my profile without specific permission from me.

4/16/2022 6:13:06 AM: Moving back to Spokane! I will be there the beginning of May, and I'm so looking forward to it! I want to walk Centennial Trail with my dog, maybe catch a concert at Riverfront Park or a play at one of the community theaters. Two more weeks!

4/2/2022 11:22:55 AM: Guys, please do some non-porn research into your own kinks. It is bizarre that many of you manage to insult the very people you are looking for, by calling them by a porn term they find degrading out in the real world. You expect women to want what women want in porn, even though porn is written for men, and those women are paid actresses. You would not treat the women you know in your real life the way women are treated in porn, but for some reason you think women in KINKY porn are different. Nope. If you want anything approaching reality, LEARN about reality first. From non-porn sources. And think about it with your pants up. D/s is NOT all about your dick, or the lack of it, or anything else regarding it. Put it away and think about people, not body parts.

2/23/2018 3:13:39 PM: It's baffling why some guys start an email by saying they've read a profile, and immediately make it obvious that they haven't. Or that they have little or no reading comprehension. Do you think we're so stupid we won't notice? You know everybody can tell who has looked at their full profile, right? You can't read all of mine without looking at the full profile, so I KNOW IF YOU HAVEN'T. Not to mention there are things in there placed there specifically to see if it's been read.Do you think there's nothing in there you might need to know? Do you think a dominant just wrote it for fun and it doesn't mean anything? Do you think 'getting to know a dominant' might include reading what she writes? Do you think lying about it will make a good impression?If you want to get to know me and maybe serve me some day, the first step is to PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT I SAY. Starting with the profile. The second step is to NEVER LIE. I mean, seriously, this is not rocket science, guys. Anybody past ten years old should be able to figure this stuff out.

1/27/2018 7:16:20 PM: How do you guys choose the pictures you post as your avatars? Seriously, we women wonder, often, what in hell you were thinking, many of you?What women do you know who are attracted a nude cell phone shot in a mirror? If you're trying to be honest and open about who you are, then honestly, we usually meet first with clothes on. Most people prefer to get to the nudity in our own time, not when saying hello for the first time. Yes, this is a kinky website. But we all know we're kinky. That has nothing to do with cell phone nudes in bathroom mirrors. That isn't kinky, and it sure isn't sexy, it's just cheesy.We know what butt plugs look like, along with most other toys. We don't need to see pictures of them, it tells us absolutely nothing about you that can't be better said in your Interests. Unless you custom make something unique, and make it well, a picture of sex toys does not make a good profile picture.Stolen porn does not make a good avatar. We know it's stolen porn. It's usually designed for a guy's tastes, not ours. No, we don't need to see a picture of your fetish. Put it in your interest list. If we want to see porn, it's not hard to find. We're looking for a person, not a stolen porn shot.Look at the background in your photo. Somebody claiming to be a service sub with a photo that shows a messy, sloppy, dirty background does not inspire confidence in his service, or his word. Somebody drunk in a bar does not inspire most women to want to own him.Think about the person you want to attract. What is she likely to want to see? NOT what you want her to want to see! Do you want fantasy or reality? Then think about real women, not porn stars. What do women look for in a potential play partner/lover/sub/slave on first greeting? Somebody interesting, with good taste, humor, intelligence. Not another cock in a mirror.

6/4/2017 12:19:40 PM: It seems really weird to need to say this, but I LIKE COCK. No, I do NOT want a picture of anybody's penis. But I do want a partner who has one, is not ashamed of it, doesn't want to lock it away or pretend it doesn't exist, and enjoys making use of it and having it used! We can work around functional issues, but if your attitude is about getting rid of it or locking it up or punishing you about it, we are not compatible. Sex is a good thing. So are dicks. Not wanting to stare at random specimens all the time doesn't mean I don't like to have fun with the ones I own.For fuck's sake, NO, this journal post does NOT mean I want to know the size of yours, or trade foot play for penis play, or anything else penis centric. I want my future sub/slave/partner to have one. But the 'sub/slave/partner' part comes first, and is not penis-centric either. This is not an invitation to every penis that is otherwise completely unsuitable.The point is to get your brain away from your penis, either for or against. Nobody will ever care about it as much as you do. Focus on something else for a while.

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