Collarspace

What does it take to make a connection? What does it take for two people across the vast expanse of the internet to find common ground, maintain communication, and make that massive leap of faith into real world interactions? Apparently, quite a lot.

I am an experienced Dominant, with decades of time in the scene doing everything from attending clubs and the Fetish Fair Flea to vending at events, teaching impact and sensation play and hosting a TNG back in the day. I attended Social Eyes in RI, and presented at kinky con in NH as well as being a vendor at the NELA Flea and Kinky Con. Ive tried most of the stuff on the BDSM menu, and have a solid set of skills and understanding of what I want and how I choose to go about getting it. As Ron Swanson says, I know what Im about, son.
My skills and taste lean heavily on the power exchange dynamic side of the house. I have no interest in helping someone new explore. Its not where Im at, and not what I need. Ask me one liners or about such things, and I will direct you to your local munch.
What Im looking for is someone who knows that they are about service and submission, who knows that BDSM goes way deeper than play spaces, and is looking to enrich and enhance the life of this Dominant woman. When I say enrich and enhance, that means easing my burden and workload in the home space, helping with projects, and being generally both useful and good company, freeing up space in my head for the more fun things by giving me the gift of time and reduced stress.
The flip side is that I am enchanted by great service, and hope to be come very fond of such a submissive. I believe that love is very much a part of a robust power exchange dynamic, and take an active role in ensuring that partner is well cared for, safe, successful, and happy. But if you are a brat or like to sass, Im not the one. I want someone who is fully engaged in a role where they provide service, deference, and respect, as I provide guidance, purpose, and hopefully, rewarding experiences.
You must understand that I am in a committed relationship to a primary partner, who I met here on this site. Hes very supportive,
but no longer able to engage in certain activities. Know that we are open, but selective, and that what I seek is for me alone. We each have our own secondary interests, as it were.
I live in the country and would particularly enjoy someone who likes rural life, and is interested in not only being of use, but might accompany me on travel and to scene and cultural events.
You may have seen my original profile here, less the xx. Unfortunately I can no longer update that one, so this has been created to give voice to my current pursuits.

A few key notes on what Im looking for...

I am not interested in watersports, diapers, or forced feminization. A crossdresser who is passable is interesting, but Im not a traditionally feminine woman, so Im not going to be of any help feminizing anyone else. Im far more likely to be in jeans and a Tshirt than anything resembling a skirt.

What I want is someone who seeks to be the cherished possession and servant of a professional woman. That person should enjoy the typical fun of getting tired up and beaten on, as well as a bit of suffering for anothers pleasure. I enjoy mild humiliation as a tool to use against the male ego, but nothing in public, this is after all my Personal Life. Chastity is a big yes, a lovely tool in the toolbox.

Im also a fanatic for consistency in communication. So once you get in touch, stay in touch. So many people here stop mid conversation, and the next thing I see is theyve deactivated or deleted their presence here. So if you do stop talking for a few days, dont be shocked if I expect the worst a deliberate abandonment of the process. And really, what a shame that is when I have a house that needs cleaning and a bag full of toys that need using...

1/18/2022 6:23:43 PM: I am seeing a LOT of people email for a bit, then one day poof, their profile is deleted or made inactive. I think I've noted this before, but it feels like I'm seeing a spike in it right now. I get it, we're all worn the fuck out by COVID issues and spiking cases etc. But its sad to see so many folks just bolt out the proverbial door. I may not be as available as I'd like to right now, and may need to wait until numbers are better to meet. And that's OK for anyone at this point in a pandemic. 1/16/2022 1:34:49 PM: Age... I hate to put limitations on things but I have noticed a trend and feel the need to address it. I am looking for someone who is in at least a somewhat similar lifestage to myself. I am seeking a very long term dynamic, and I want that person to be around for many years and capable of keeping up with me. But I also want them to share at least some cultural context with me. Therefore if you are over the age of about 58 or under 30, it's a no go. Don't go begging for chances or trying to change my mind on this one, it's a thing that just is. 12/23/2021 6:48:07 AM: I dont' mind telling you, fetish world, kink people, that I am frustrated. I am frustrated by the surge of Omicron after we finally seemed to be turning a corner on the original COVID, then Delta, etc. I am frustrated that this is slowing down my ability to pursue my interests, as I don't consdider it wise to go hang out in a bar right now or get coffee with an interesting individual. It is making me take my time even more than usual in my seeking of the right person, and I think in some discussions I've had, it is slowing down others' will or desire to take those risks as well. And that's ok because I'd rather spend my time with someone who shares my risk appetite than someone throwing caution to the wind. I've also seen a really disturbing trend of interesting people just deleting their profiles here mid conversation. I strongly suspect that the ambient stress of pandemic life and the demands of what should be Normal Life are creating unsustainable levels of internal conflict for folks, who eventually just hit the panic button and run from places like this. I don't have a cure, that's for sure. The scientists keep working on it though. There's a new pill based treatment getting Emergency Use Authorization as of late December 2021. The vaccines work, boosters are available, and the whole testing thing, while it needs work, is somewhat available. So do me a favor folks. Especially those of you possibly interested in a Domme like me, because I want my social life back. Get your damned shot. Get your booster. Get your friends and family vaxxed. There's really no reason to help the virus find victims, it's good enough at that on its own. 12/5/2021 7:04:00 AM: I know I said I encourage folks to contact me, but please, do use more than three words total in your effort! Tell me WHY you're reaching out, and what interested you about my profile. It's only polite after all. I recently added a photo for visibilty, but sometimes I forget how much a set of breasts will draw out folks' most basic desires, and not their intellect. They forget that there is a person on the other side of the screen, and not just a fetish dispenser. I'm not here for casual sex, for online play, or games of 'what would you do if I were in front of you'. Please be sure you are expressing yourself in a way that addresses more substantive topics. 10/29/2021 5:18:07 AM: Some things I enjoy that don't fit neatly in a check-the-box type space, and are fun to explore once the service need is met: Predicament bondage - putting the sub/slave in a position where they are bound from full movement, and maybe can't qutie reach something, say a fleshlight just out of reach of their errection, or in a more mundane case, weights placed so that when they releive pressure on one body part, it shifts to another, making a comfortable position impossible. There are a thousand variations on this, all lots of fun. Obj-ect-ification (spelling modified to fit requirements of this place)- this can be literal 'Be a table' or treating the person as an for pleasure, with a hood or mask or other thing that covers/hides their individuality. Chastity - for the right person, chastity is a powerful tool. But not everyone responds to it in fun ways. So it could be a metal or silicone device, or just the honor system. But it allows for a highly personal reward system for desired behaviors or behaviral changes, and shifts focus to the Dominant partner. Obedience - and by this I don't just mean jump when I say jump, I mean I give a series of instructions, and the obedience is considered successful based on how closely to the instructions it is completed. Sometimes this is to build a listening skill, sometimes its for fun.

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