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From the time we begin, you have approximately three days to prove yourself to me, through toil, gifting, obedience and public acts of devotion. Everything rests upon your actions during those three days. I will not discuss whether I even wish to own you or help you until you have given me some reason to believe in your sincerity and abilities. I am especially interested in artists, even more especially writers, but, might consider anyone who is interested in using their interest in BDSM to improve, not destroy, their life. You must be able and willing to kiss my feet in public settings, accept that I am the one who will set your limits, to learn protocols, accept discipline including physical punishment without courting physical punishment, and to accept whatever demeaning situation or work I put you into. I will listen to your needs and desires before setting your limits, but, when the limits are set, your only recourse is to agree or to leave. I will not negotiate.

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8/30/2012 8:34:20 AM

I need a foot slave. I have particularly trying feet. They have been admired by many, and I have been offered hundreds of dollars, at various times, just to allow some man or other to kiss and fondle them for an hour or so.I am not, however,, their biggest fan.

The foot slave would need to:

  1. pay for professional pedicures and foot treatments, from time to time. This includes acupressure or acupuncture treatments and massages.
  2. learn how to do pedicures and foot treatments in private, including massages
  3. ,obviously, stock up on the items needed to perform the pedicures and foot treatments.
  4.  take care of my hands in a similar manner, for I do not wish to have mismatching body-parts, any more than they may already be now.
  5. measure my feet and legs for the purchase of footwear.
  6. pay for custom-made footwear
  7. see to it that all things related to feet are provided and cared for, including massage and dressing of the legs, as well as the feet. Such as stockings, to go with heels, to be more specific.
  8. ,when allowed as a reward, spend a great deal of time kissing and licking my feet, and sucking my toes.

That is all.


8/30/2012 8:02:21 AM

It's still early days, but, I believe I may have found a slave boy who will be very useful. I have tested him to some degree, and found that he is truthful about his ability and willingness to serve financially; but, he is not that good at following orders, yet.

He is not a pain slut, which is good; I prefer to inflict pain on those who are not going to be enjoying it. Not that I will just needlessly inflict pain upon him, but, I do need to punish him, already, for how badly he did mess up on following orders; and, I will enjoy doing it ever-so-much more, knowing that he will not be enjoying it, in the least.

In the least? Oh, I expect he will be humiliated and will walk around with an erection for a good long time, thinking of how he was punished and laughed at. I can live with that.


8/29/2012 5:27:25 PM

A friend has recently told me that I'm too nice and it took me aback. Having paid more attention to myself, I can see that he is right. I have spent so much time dealing with children, family and co-workers, trying to appear normal before judges (custody hearings), etc. that I have started to do something quite wrong, and it is this:

When I talk to an alleged sub or slave, I spend my time trying to determine if we are a good fit, before making any serious demands or allowing them to come visit. I have this weird thought in my head that I want to be fair, not to take advantage of them until and unless we are sure we are compatible and that I am the woman who will fit their needs, to the proper degree.

What utter crap! I am not their mother, no matter what any former profile may have said. I am the one they should be seeking to please, and if they have not made their own desires clear, if they have pursued someone who they find out is not what they thought she was, whose fault is that? Not mine. I have left plenty of clues as to who and what I am.

If men are lazy sods, who show up and don't get what they expect, they deserve what they do get. So, yes, I shall take advantage of what they bring or what they offer, and laugh at their disappointment if and when it comes.

 

 


8/29/2012 3:22:12 PM

Okay, you crazy bitches - two things:

1) I am NOT bringing you to my home, giving you my phone number or home address, or my name even, until we have met face to face, at least. Even then, even if I decide to keep you, I may have you live away from me while I train you to my needs.

2)Did you happen to notice that 'Female Supremacy' is not in my interests list? This is because I do not believe in it. What part of my living for Christianity makes you think that I believe that Jesus was inferior to me? No, but, in fact, I believe in most cases it is men who are more fit to be the one making the major decisions in life, such as where the family will live, and the woman should be home caring for the children and making sure supper gets done.

Yes, I mean that!

No, really ... it's true.

It's just that there are dominant women and there are submissive men, and they do have to muddle along through life, same as everyone else, and they shouldn't have to be unhappy all their lives, trying to fit themselves into a mold that just doesn't fit them.

It's also that there are people who are naturally born slaves, who simply cannot function, at least not happily, without having someone else to lead them in mostly every aspect of their life. And, they are beautiful people, who deserve the same love and respect as everyone else.

And, of course, there are the weird and wonderful people who can truly be happy being a slave, submissive or owner, because, what they really care about is the end results of activities, not who directs them.

And, there are the switches, who, believe it or not, is not who I was just talking about. Switches, like bisexuals, are mostly geared toward one sort of way of life, but, occasionally need the added zip of the other side.

The people you thought were switches, they are the dominants, too. Didn't know that, did you? Well, they are. They are psychologically dominant, not just something that is learned, not something they need out of fear or circumstance. And, they tend to view things in terms of the greater good, because it is their job to lead. Which is why, when they encounter that person who can lead, they can follow in support of them if that is what is needed to get the job done.

Sex doesn't matter, sexuality doesn't matter, nothing matters when it comes to whether you are dominant or submissive, switch or slave, except that you are what you are, and that is what you should remain true to.
If I was dominant because I was female, then all females would be dominant and you wouldn't have to seek a dominant female out, would you? They'd be nothing special or hard to find, would they?

Males are generally dominant, and that is provable by looking at almost entirely every society that ever existed on planet Earth. However, there have been female rulers,matriarchal societies, and individual relationships where it was obvious the woman was the better leader.
That's the truth behind your fantasy. Not stop trying to force your fantasy that I am just the same as every other woman, and that they are all goddesses, off on me. We are all part of the same race called Man. If all women were goddesses, all men would be gods, because we are all blood and flesh and bone related.

Also, I spent too much of my life getting crap for not acting normal, right, as a woman should, being told that "men do not like women who are faster" or stronger, or more intelligent, and being put through misery by all the back-biting whores (read other females) who couldn't take the fact that I was their natural-born superior, and who sought to drag me down to their level for the perceived insult of what was, after all, just me being born the way I was born. Don't tell me that they are all like me. Their periods change because I spend too much time with them, and they get scared because my mere presence has altered their body chemistry, and they, attempting to live in their unnatural state of being allegedly able to do and be everything that men are and trying to pretend that they are the same as everyone else, freak out and try to destroy what scares them. Only, they never do, because they are too weak and chuckle-headed to get the job done.

Does that mean all other females are weak and chuckle-headed? No, some are beautifully and strongly submissive, wonderfully and sexily dominant, and some really are just the equals of men. But, the world is full of chuckle-headed bitches of both sexes and I have zero patience with people who deny that fact.


8/29/2012 2:34:42 PM

Quote from someone's profile "Where are all the normal women seeking a cuckold relationship?" hahah ahaha 


8/29/2012 2:06:39 PM

'Cause I'd rather stay here, with all the mad men, then with the sad men roaming free and I'd rather play here with all the mad men, for I'm quite content their all as sane as me."

 


8/29/2012 2:01:07 PM

Some people have no concept of slavery. Guess what ?When the slaves got on the auction block - as some did, by choice- they did not call out to the crowd gathered around: "Which one of you has the biggest tits?" or "I can only work for you on Friday afternoons, because I need the other evening and days off open for my real life!"

Nor did they demand "I want to stay living just where I am." or "I might want to live with you, but, you have to tell me more about the kind of home you have and what side of town it's on."

However, I have no issue with a person, wishing to be a slave but having limitations, clearly expressing those limitations. It's just that there is a world of difference between "Would I be expected to live with you and what side of Tucson do you live on?" and "My work is such that I would need to remain where I am." or even "I can transfer to Tucson, but, I don't have a vehicle/know how to drive and would prefer not to move unless I could be within a short bus ride away from my employer."

Though, that last still sounds a bit weird, for a slave, because, really, your job is to do what I want you to do and if I want you to be on the bus 6 hours a day and working 8, that's my business, not yours. Yours is to say "Yes, Ma'am," and then do it!


8/29/2012 11:33:00 AM

Just to set things straight, I am currently a BBW, because that is what I am, I do not consider it special to be bigger than I should be, nor am I ashamed of it. If it was due to excessive overeating and laziness, I would be ashamed, but, it's not, so I'm not.

There are specific issues related to stress and allergies, which greatly affected and sometimes still do affect my health. I have taken steps, as I can currently, to alleviate the problems and change the results.

I have lost weight, since finding out how to deal with some of the issues, by changing the types of foods I eat, to the extent that it can currently be changed. I have also procured a yearly swimming pass for both stress-relief and exercise.

In other words, I am not just wallowing about, acting like a victim, expecting people to rescue me. I am taking action, in a confident manner.

So, if you think that means I cannot be dominant, you need a dictionary; and, if you think I'll be impressed by your love of BBW, you are sadly mistaken. I prefer to be admired for who I am, not what shenanigans my body has gotten up to.

 


8/29/2012 9:23:23 AM

I really can't stand dishonesty.

If you are a male, who wants to be done up the arse, who wants to be kept in chastity and forced to perform oral sex on a woman, want to be forced to have sex with men, etc. then you should not be listing yourself as straight. You are either a lying bisexual or a lying homosexual who doesn't want people to know that he is.
I might accept a homosexual slave. Homosexuality is not my thing. I would not encourage it, help it along, but, I don't want a slave for sex, so that's not really my problem. It is better to have an honest homosexual slave than a dishonest homosexual slave that claims to be heterosexual.

BDSM is all about honesty, you know? Never mind the people who claim to be cows or get into the pageantry! Role play is one thing. At least they are honest about how they want to role play.

Be honest about what you are and what you need in life. If you are a homosexual man who wants a female Mistress so that he can look, to the vanilla world, like a heterosexual male so as not to break his parents heart or lose his job or whatever he thinks will happen, then say that this is what you are. Explain yourself. Ask for help. Ask for limits that reflect what you are and what you need. Just don't lie about it.


8/29/2012 8:41:42 AM

Part II:
If you think it is all about money, you're mad as a kipper. Yes, when a woman is served, it generally involves money being part of the service; even more so if she is being served by a man. Money, alone, is not service, however.

If what you offer is, as has recently been told to me, a $1,000 per month for her personal amusement and luxurious living and to do all the housework, and that's all you have to offer, it is not service. Now, don't get ahead of yourself, those who are about to type really stupid emails at me, that say something like "MY GOD! How greedy are you? $1,0000, rent free living, no housework for you and that's not good enough? My bank account vomits at your very presence, Madame!"  I just told you, if you think it's all about money, you are mad. Don't type your insanity at me, please and thank you.

It is very true that if there were two men who wished to be slaves, had the same work schedules, lived the same distance away from me, had the same viewpoints on what being a slave is about, etc. so that there was nothing else to choose between them except that one could offer service of a strict $100 per month and one could offer to pay all my bills, and I could choose only one, I would choose the one that could pay the bills.
However, it is equally true that if someone offered me $1,000.00 for a session, wherein all they wanted was to be abused, I would turn them down cold.

And, it is equally true that I would accept a very biddable slave-potential, with no income whatsoever, who wanted to come and do some yard work, help with repairs when I had the materials by which to repair things, do some cooking or cleaning, and to be trained to certain protocols.

What I will not accept is someone who wants to buy me, or who wants me to give my all to them for nothing in return.

If you want not to serve as part of a relationship, but, just need help with a specific situation, by all means, beguile me with your money and, perhaps, I will find it worth my time to help you. Depends on the situation.

If you want to serve me, beguile me with your honesty, obedience, ability to understand women, skills that would make my life more comfortable; and, be aware that if you do have financial resources that can be used for my needs and desires, I might choose to use them for those very things. I will not bribe you, blackmail you or torture you to force you to give me your money, though. It will simply be that you are serving me, and if I have a need or desire, you will do your best to fulfill it - and for me to know that you are doing your best, I will need to know information regarding what your skills, schedule and finances are.

See, it's not all about getting your money for me, and it should not be all about keeping your money, to you. When I own you, you are earning for me and if I allow you to live in the home you are used to and spend some of that money on your bills, it is a privilege, not a right. When I tell you to bring me something, and it is a surprise, it really is the thought that you put into it which counts. I will not be grateful for the money spent, because you are a slave and you are spending my money that you earned for me, on me. Rather, you will be grateful for what you are allowed to keep.

That's not being about the money. That's being about your mind-set!

Stop offering me enormous sums for things I do not wish to do. Stop acting as if my asking you for some basic financial information, to determine your potential worth to me, means I am a money grubbing whore. I didn't demand your bank account number or some such, now did I?

Be very, very clear on this point: The potential to earn money is part of what a slave is. It is traditional to send slaves out to seek employment or allow them to accept it when it is offered to them, and to set limits on what they are allowed to keep and what is yours. There is no tradition that says an owner HAS to take the money, but, there is a tradition that says anything the slave owns belongs to the owner as the slave belongs to the owner and, therefore, the slave does HAVE to give to their owner whatever it is they are capable of giving and will be punished, destroyed or sold for failure to be hones about it.

So, no, money is not all of it, but, money is part of it; and, if you don't want it to be part of it, then you need to stop pretending you want to be a slave.

 

 


8/29/2012 8:18:05 AM

If you think it's all about sex, you are coming from a very vanilla, male-oriented point of view. Vanilla people think BDSM has to be about sex, because they can't understand any other use for it, because they live by their greed and fear. Men think it is all about sex because.. well .. they are men. Look at the statistical research into homosexuality: Male couples are almost entirely oriented towards sex, whereas many lesbian couples almost never have sex.

Well, guess what, dar? I am a woman and if you serve me, we will not be living vanilla and we will not be living as if a man is in charge. Your lust-filled nature is what must be controlled, subdued, altered to fit the needs of the woman you serve. When you prattle on about all the sex you can provide, that is called topping from the bottom. And, seriously, do you really believe there are women out there who can't get sex, whenever they want it?

Yes, there are women who can't get just the kind of sex they want with just the kind of guy they want, or that specific fellow; but, there is no such thing as a woman - not even one who is 80 years old and in an iron lung - who can't get some form of laid, if she has a mind to do it. Men are not that hard to get interested in sex and they are almost wholly indiscriminate, no matter what lies they tell each other about what kind of female they would not do.

Sex is a service to male dominants because when a woman has sex with you, it actually means something. It means more than if she buys you a present, in many cases. It is the exact opposite with men.

Stop treating female dominants as if they are male dominants, and as if they can only dominate you by catering to your whims of sexuality. Stop treating the male slaves and subbies as if they are female slaves and subbies. It's tedious and insulting.

Rather, if you wish to serve a woman, learn how women think and what is important to them, and serve them in the ways they require and which will mean something to them.

Which leads us to the second part of my little quiet tirade.

 


8/28/2012 9:27:44 AM

To all the little people who write to me and tell me that they are slaves and we should get to know each other; I wrote this to one of you, but, I share it with you all:

Whyever would I need to know a slave? They are not my friend, lover, sex partner or family member. It may be true that I do get to know them, over time, and even develop affection and respect for them as persons as well as find them useful as slaves; but, useful is what I need them to be, first and foremost. Are you useful? Employable? Relocatable without any serious effort on my part? Then, relocate and prove yourself useful. At that point, I shall give you serious consideration as a slave.


8/28/2012 8:33:36 AM

I am not here to waste my time in idle conversation or on people who obviously do not suit. 


8/28/2012 8:13:27 AM

Defined:

bbw:big,beautiful woman.

BDSM:bondage (as in slavery) discipline (as in learning) sadism(because I will have my way and amusements) masochism (also, though seldom known, meaning slavery)

muse: personification of knowledge and artistry, inspiring creation by my grace.

In other words, I am a woman, who will enslave you to her will and plumb your depths to bring forth from you that which you had not known you were capable of.

If you know anything about muses, you know that those who wished to receive their graces, bestowed gifts upon them and allowed themselves to be led where they would be taken.

In the past, I have helped various rock bands and singers to find their talent, Masters and Mistresses to find their inner strength, slaves to find their inner strength, parents to be better parents, writers to be better writers, and more. 

Sometimes, what one needs most is a muse to urge one on.


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MadameDonna
 
 Age: 33
 Delhi, India