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If you are looking for something whole, well-rounded and long term (with ample room for BDSM!), with a whole, real and very kinky gentleman, please read on.
If you are just playing the field, looking for casual play, etc., that's okay too but no point reading any further.
Profile
Sooner or later, the right ONE will swim along.
Like many, many others, I have felt drawn to BDSM for decades. I am interested in a full and whole relationship with one dominant woman with ample room for the usual activities and mutual sharing of dreams, goals, aspirations and the rest, and, of course, ample room for delicious play.
For me BDSM is an expression of my spirit. A fun and delicious "hobby". An extension of an otherwise whole and complete relationship. The icing, not the cake.
I am a fairly deep masochist with sub tendencies. However we are equals (EQUALS) outside the play space...I don't do 24/7, TPE, FLR etc etc What's with all the black and white 'labels' anyway???
I am VERY private and fiercely monogamous by nature viz. my sexuality. In that sense I am no different than healthy, stable vanilla folks.
I don't do BDSM community stuff. I have enough great friends and we discuss REAL stuff!
I would rather nail my eyeballs to a burning building than go to a "munch" etc.
Idle, casual play does nothing for me. Nothing. Again in that sense I am no different than stable, healthy vanilla folks.
I continue to seek a SECURE and happy partner who shares this BDSM interest. ONE. No drama or abuse of any kind...are you stable and healthy? Happy? Enjoying a FULL life???
Being dominant in and of itself is NOT enough for me...we both know we can get BDSM 24/7/365. There are enough folks out there to satisfy our casual play needs, if we are so inclined....which I am NOT.
I may be a masochist with sub tendencies, but that does not make me an idiot or a doormat. Or a player!!!
I am not interested in BDSM as a convenient framework to excuse abuse, lack of responsibility or sloppy emotional investment in others. If you are, we won't have much in common.
The CONSENSUAL power exchange in BDSM is what interests me - the tension and back-and-forth between trust & fear, power & control, pain & pleasure. I find CONSENSUAL ritualization of sex within this exchange incredibly erotic. And most creative.
But only within the context of a loving, mutually sharing, RELATIONSHIP.
I am a successful and busy executive - clever, creative, energetic, stimulating company, alert, and candid. I do not suffer fools easily or gladly. My vanilla interests are extremely diverse.
I'm well read and well traveled.
In other words, I have a full life outside BDSM.
I have an eclectic and wide range of tastes and acquaintances and appreciate others who do as well.
Sincere replies from relationship and permanence-oriented ladies (I assume you were and are a lady before a BDSM'er?), will be treated with the most respect and sincerity.
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