I've labelled myself as submissive on my profile as that was the closest of the options. However, I do not like pain. I do not like humiliation. I do not like wearing a collar and pretending I'm a dog/cat/horse. But I do like a bit of spanking, a bit of restraint, a bit of kinkiness, lots of dirty talk. I am definitely not a lifestyle member and just do what I do for a bit of excitement. The reason I have labelled myself as 'submissive' is that I like a man to be dominant in the bedroom, but once outside of there I like him to be intelligent, articulate, equal, considerate and respectful. Hopefully there may be some like-minded chaps on here. Drop me a line if there are :-)