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I have revised this profile to update MYSELF and my place within my ever growing world, here.
I am not a man that is enticed by the aphrodisiac of past experiences as I am very forward looking. I'm a man without chosen brandishes, yet I am marked physically by my past. They are signs of healing, wisdom, control, victory, loss, tempered spirit, insightfulness, intuition and humility. They are physical but, manifest in control of self and others. This control is not a mandate for respect, obedience or submission, but a control brought about via defeat and victories and its subsequent inherently learned wisdom to resolve both internally with self and others. I am suspending my humility for this brief purpose for not doing so maybe self defeating. I make no apologies for this. I will only gleam this written shadow of myself and entice others to seek appreciation of the rest if they choose.

I entertained the submissive views and found them appealing. In retrospect I found it appealing not because I am a submissive, but in order to dominate one must know submission. I ruminated on my experiences and naturally reconciled this with my present value. I consider myself to be a culminating masculinity guided by learned empathic senses, sympathy of plight, conveyance of trust (verbally and non-verbally), devoted interest in understanding motivations and behaviors, thoughtful and careful application of a variety of instruments for obtaining what I perceive to be desirable, vigilant to consequences (including my own) and cognizant of outcomes. I am a Feminists unconsciously designed fantasy embodied in the flesh of her antipathy and desire. I am distinct from Masculism by the learned nature of my experiences, the intellect of altruism to gain insight for control, the patience and thoughtfulness to sow seeds which seem as trinkets, but reap dumbfound pleasure when revealed. I am intelligent to humility and recognize greatness in others for their primal edification and find utility in their self discovery to gain obedience and one-up-man-ship to their heart and mind, gaining visceral confidences with no cerebral arguments.

It is domination that compels me, but her overt nature pleases me as water quenches thirst. Her unwitting submission seduces me as water seduces the earth to form rivers. As the stream flows both enjoy the energy and feed one another yet, still under the dominion of nature, which she respects, regards and appreciates but, when taken for granted and left to her own devices, craved. She may seek others, but creeks or streams will not satisfy her need for the pending waves of excitement she may have enjoyed. The control is power over the Intellect (by its stimulation), Emotions (by its mutual release), Psyche (offered by his nature), Senses (as enjoyed or deprived), Will (to her submissive degree), Choices (to his dominate allowances), Freedom (to be freely submissive), Bound (by his landscaping), Discipline (by her acclimation), Worship (as earned) and other controlling discoveries mutually explored.

She is intelligent and her amorphous nature is accommodating to domination for his pleasure. She adopts his character and learns to anticipate. She becomes a paradox to femininity and appreciates that enlightenment. She identifies his “being” with her life and fills “nothingness” with purpose of pleasing, which by doing so rewards with endogenous pleasure. She may covet his dominant nature, but through shared insight learns more of herself.

The quotes on

Fear is driven on the precipice of danger, enjoyed by the myopic and guided by the foresighted. (me)

Fragmented non-contracted disobedience is the vexation of a despite and a way to dabble in control that is neither earned, nor respected and certainly not appreciated. (me)

Disobedience is an unwarranted attempt which illustrates a hidden conveyance of poor judgment on the selector and not the selectee, a sabotage which undermines both. (me)

A tempered disobedience when applied in the right way, to the right amount, for the right purpose, at the right time, to the right degree, in an acceptable pose is a treasure to the ruler. (My own from Aristotle’s quote on anger)

Being from doing, doing from experiencing, experiencing from learning, learning from wisdom, wisdom from obedience, Obedience from trust, trust from intuition and intuition from Being. And the Being grows.

7/1/2009 7:44:09 AM

I had the honor of speaking with a wonderful true sub. She knew my apprehensions at this new venture and graciously gave me more time than I, ashamed to admit, have given others (I did not share this with her). This is what a sub does? I wondered. I felt good, it was so pleasant, exciting, assuring and just wonderful. I could see myself giving unconditionally. No, not as a sub, though a twinkling fearful lust briefly flashed before my rushing thoughts. She affirmed in our communication that giving is not about what I want to give or by nature would give, but about feeling good about giving what was mutual. I only aspire to deliver what is most pleasurable and compelling. I also feel confident in knowing I can. She guided me (unwittingly) to a rather different view of a Dom as I have observed in the postings here. It began to emerge as we spoke; I seem to embrace a positive paradigm position of sorts regarding a natural gift. When SUB PM informed me she considered her Sub status as a gift, the rush of what may be confirmation enveloped me. I will not "pigeon hole" myself (fetishes) and I will explore all avenues open as this is exciting even more so, but when someone can light a candle so you can partly see the way and not only the way, but your feet on the path, so that even the stones are avoided, then (I believe) even the most stoic Dom would fall prey to a sense of generosity and appreciation. Everyone gains insight by listening, following intuition and self determination and yes, also by others (humility is not a weakness, it is a strength). I followed her advice and think I read every post on Domination and many posts on other fetishes. I began to look at programs offered (far away) and I am seriously considering that option. As SUB PM alluded to (actually she told me) new people are unsure and unaware of what lies ahead. I used the analogy of a person thrown in the middle of the ocean asking all the others (who seem to be floating) where to get a life vest. But SUB PM, threw a rope to get me out so I could enter the more shallow waters. Learn to swim before you dive. So far I conclude: being social is a plus and everyone is scared of it. Reading, reading and learning will a good Kinkster make, explore with the heart and mind, guided by intuition as SUB PM put it ("the gut") and don't foolishly invest your trust on just anyone. I hope to share more after I pass the 3 day test (wink to SUB PM) and refine, expand, exclude, include all the things that compel me toward excellence in my fashion. I will be an excellent gift one day.

6/23/2009 1:48:17 PM
First day here, nothing to find about DFW meetings. Wish I could find something.
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 Age: 19
 Monroe, Michigan