I look for a lot in a submissive I know what I want and I am very selective. Above all I cherish my submissive, mutual trust and respect are paramount. I am demanding and take full advantage of that is given, but I know how to share the pleasure.
I am in control of myself first and foremost, so that way I may set an example for my submissive as a stern and demanding Dominant. I can cause a sub to cry real tears and I can kiss the tears away, without ever stepping out of character.
In times of trouble, I have the ability to leave the role behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two people. I am quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. I would never ask a submissive to put me before her career, or family, just to satisfy my own pleasure.
I realize to win a submissive mind, body and soul, I have to know me must first to win her trust and respect. I will show my submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. I will also show her that my guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable so she can learn from, and trust my direction.
I am romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, I will fight for my ladies' honor. I will prove to her that I am someone she can lean on, and depend on.
I am also old-fashioned enough to be a bit of a chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect my woman. I am also quick to point out the differences between them, so she knows there is no inferiority in those differences.
Safety always my main concern. I know how to use pain to extend the bounds of pleasure. I am a mentor who can bring her to the edges of her envelope, and gently show her the inner courage to reach new heights.
I am always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs. I am very patient, taking the time to gain knowledge of her limits, and knowing that as her trust of me grows, so will the bond between us.
I never have to demand ritual behavior from her. She will respond to me out the want of pleasing me. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. I do understand the fragile nature of the mind and body, and I never violate the trust given to me by my submissive.
I am secure enough to laugh at myself and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. My tools are my mind, body, spirit and soul with a little help from ropes, paddle and blindfolds. I do understand that each partner gains most from pleasuring the other. Both of them know that love is the only binding that truly holds.