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Looking for friends and possibly a conveniently LOCAL boytoy. I am currently in a very selectively open Lesbian relationship. I am looking for an outlet for some of my kinky and occasionally sadistic interests. Whoever this boytoy may be, I expect to be friends first. My girlfriend gets the final say on whether anything goes beyond friendly chat.
I spent 5 years in the public scene, and have attended more educational kink events than you can shake a stick at. I am nothing if not eclectic. I really am looking for a pain puppy who genuinely gets off on properly administered floggings and such. I'm not a crazed sadist, but I can be pretty extreme at times. I am a big believer in WARM UP time. I'm not just going to go for the mean flogger first. I prefer to start softer with deer hide or fur (maybe both?). I have an above average amount of experience as both a bottom and a top in anything that I list myself as an expert in.
Truly, I am a switch, but you will not get to see me bottom. That is not the game I am looking to play (for now at least). Right now I'm interested in a guy who is willing to be my friend and my boytoy. I am looking for someone who can respect my relationship with my wifey, and who is capable of keeping things casual, fun, and DRAMA FREE.
I am looking for someone who will be equally happy watching tv with me and rubbing my feet, or being tied to a cross to be flogged and teased mercilessly.
I am an extremely blunt person most of the time, and I am generally very no-nonsense. Some people call that being dominant, others call it being assertive, I call it being unapologetically myself. Just please don't get the idea that I'm a stereotypical nose-bleed-high-femme domme, because that's not me at all. If that's what you want, move on. I'm way more complex than that. I can be very femme, but when I'm not "dressed up" I am more comfortable in a t-shirt, yoga pants, and combat boots. I don't always wear makeup, but when I do it's something interesting and special.
I am absolutely obsessed with Fiber Arts. This includes spinning yarn and knitting it into wonderful things. I even card and dye my own fiber (not always, but when I want something unique). One of my most prized possessions is my Kromski spinning wheel. I have a huge collection of fiber and yarn, and random yarn colonies pop up in my house occasionally. I got into yarn art after a bad car accident that left me disabled. Knitting and watching TV saved me from a straitjacket. There is nothing worse than going from being a very active 20 something with school, jobs, and a kid to raise to being unable to do much more than shuffle around my apartment. I still knit because I enjoy it, and because it reduces the probability of stupid people getting what the darker parts of my imagination have in store for them. Lately knitting isn't quite cutting it. I need a healthy outlet that's a little more... beefy. >:D
If you've made it this far and are looking for a long distance
domme\owner\queen-mistress-owns-your-dick-from-afar,
I would like to take a moment and remind you that I'm NOT looking for that (and I wish you luck in your search, which you should now continue). This also goes for those who just want to cyber. I'm flattered, but I am here to find someone with whom I can experience hands-on real-world interaction.
I'm looking for a nice LOCAL (as in within an hour or two of my area) boytoy who won't complicate my life with unnecessary drama. If you think you might fit the bill, send me a message. I'm not stupendously picky about age (18+) , but I do prefer younger men. I won't instantly reject older men, but younger is preferred. Weight depends on body type. Just be reasonably healthy and not grotesquely obese. That is all I ask. A little fluff to cuddle is fine. Buff is delicious, duh, but not required. I'm not crazy about bodybuilders. I love tall men, but I am fine with guys my height or a little shorter (as long as they're genuinely ok with being a little shorter than me).
I am often mistaken for a full out Lesbian. I'm not sure why, because really... my sexuality is not static. Like all humans, I have fluid sexuality. My desires change and evolve. I don't even like calling myself bisexual really (but it's the most accurate term).
Really, I am looking for a male who wants to explore BDSM by bottoming for me. I desire a guy I can do things to that I couldn't or wouldn't do to my wifey. I need someone who is on my level, and with whom I connect enough to truly call friend.
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IMPORTANT UPDATE:
Sadly, I am have to accept that gravity won in my last fall. So, I am putting the hunt for boy toys off until I get my medical situation sorted out. I will not be accepting any new candidates until further notice. Sorry guys. |
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In other news, gravity always wins. |
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In other news, gravity always wins. |
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I had an excellent discussion with the wifey, and I think we've come to a better understanding of our mutual expectations of what will happen once I do find that special boytoy. |
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The wifey took me out on a date to see "Impostor". It was weird, but interesting. I just have to wonder what the guy's story really is, and how much is fact. |
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Did something I haven't done in a very long time today. It definitely felt good. Sometimes it's good to stand on the edge and peer down into the darkness. This is especially true if you are fortunate to find friends honest enough to tell you if you're going to far. ;) |
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So, my back is doing better. I am up and around. The MRI won't happen for a few months, but I am not worried. I am just taking it slow and catching up on my messages. :) |
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I would like to update all my friends and let you know that I have either herniated or ruptured a disc in my spine. For this reason, I may be a lot slower to respond for a while. Please do not take it personally. I am just in and out of the er a lot lately. Hugs to all who are concerned. |
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| Age: 39 |
| Queens,
New York |
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