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I log on here about once every 2-3 years and I dont think CM mail forwards to my real-world inbox. So If you happen to (really) think we might hit it off, feel free to find me on Fetlife as zElement or MissZ
Please, call me Z and read my profile ... seriously ... read my profile.Yes, its long but Im a complex, intelligent, fascinating human being. Arent you?
First, I dislike the term switch but it was as close as I could find in the drop-down menu-thingy and its something interesting to talk about, should we get to that phase.And while I say this respectfully, until you inspire something in me that compels me to want to change our dynamic, I consider us to be equals. If you hear me use a title (in either direction), It means I genuinely feel it and youve earned it.
I study kinbaku quite seriously and have both male and female partners. I do not need to tie up my primary partner but I would need that person to understand the importance of my doing it, and they would need to be comfortable with my practicing it with other people. It is not sexual for me. When I Top (I do not identify with the term Domme) it is about power and control, not about exchange of any bodily fluids
A few non-Ds hard LimitsLong distance, online, married.
I implore you to use your big-boy words and seduce my mind.Hi, youre hotcutesexyetc, want to you wont cut it. Ill ignore you. I promise. Its not my thing, Im sure there are lost here who are into that type of talk. Im not. I have a brain and use it and if you cant unlock it, find a way in, swim in my darkness and let me into yours, we wont click.
Be a gentleman (god I hope they still exist in this world) and put your boy parts back in your pants andput on pants Im not impressed with your cock - just annoyed that you feel the need to share it before getting to know me.
I am not looking for a complete Domsub Topbottom Masterslave 247 dynamic. Im switchy in a million ways and need to be the dominant one in some and would love to have someone tap into my submissive (nay compliant) side in others. Im in most ways vanilla-wise, an equal partner with vanilla likes and dislikes and I am way too independent for my own good. I am not looking for a casual fuck or a play partner.
I care deeply and take secrets to the grave.I am loyal.I am not good at receiving compliments.My standards are too high - for others and myself.I usually do things the hard way -I avoid taking shortcuts (really just cheating yourself out of learning something).
Here is my OKC profile ... YES, IT IS REALLY, REALLY LONG but if you are truly interested its important.
Right up front, please know I am deathly allergic to cats - no, yours is not different. Yes, I know even people who dont love cats, loves yours. And while Im certain wed be the perfect match, this is not a choice, its hard-limit. I wont be able to sit next to you, touch your jacket, sit in your car, or visit your home.
I am an intelligent, creative, complex, female, originally from Texas (yes, to red meat), who sang along to Rappers Delight, danced to Donna Summer in disco pants, and knew life before fax machines. I came of age in DC working to champion non-profit causes and political candidates you know by name.
I mistakenly married Mr. Vanilla, moved to the suburbs, looked out over my tan picket fence, and wondered how the hell I ended up there.
(All) the arts move my soul If your dream date is wandering a garden with a camera, seeing a museum exhibit or going to (almost) anything requiring a ticket, Im in bonus if beer and junk food are involved.
I am a creative person in many ways. My brain receives input 247 for 365 from 360 and its exhausting. For that reason, I crave downtime. That might look like a night curled up with you and Netflix or me and the dogs holed up behind closed doors. Im sure you have your own need for personal time and I respect that which translates to I encourage you to do your own thing with the boys (or girls) Im not the jealous, clingy, or needy type.
What I am not is high-maintenance, meek, shy, naive, superficial, uptight or judgmental oh or for the record the dreaded drama queen. I have zero tolerance for drama and other time-wasting bullshit. becauseDC
Fair warning, I am not prone to making a good first impression its not that Im uncomfortable and awkward on dates its that Im uncomfortable and awkward meeting people. Networking (torture) and cocktail party chit-chat (a necessary evil) makes my skin crawl. I fit outgoing introvertperfectly.
You are a man who acknowledges the early dating awkwardness in a way we can both laugh about and you prioritize really getting to know a woman before doing that annoying 3-5 dates we sleep together now thing. You are open and honest about that topic, relieving the stress of it all If you are that guy, teach a class to the other 99.9 of men on dating sites. I often joke that more men should approach women like a rescue animal build trust, make no sudden moves or loud noises, be calm, offer your hand gently, let her come to you ... the outcome would be much better for the whole dating world.
This is getting long but can we talk about honesty for a second?
I cannot fathom a relationship that does not contain two open-minded people who communicate and come to a mutual decision. I cannot fathom a situation where (full) honesty causes more problems than a lie. Im looking for a man who embraces and practices honesty and communication if we dont want the same thing why are we still in the relationship?
Id rather not waste your time so lets address my hobby now. I am the co-founder and director of Spring Tiger Ryu. I study and practice the art of kinabku (shibari) as the person doing the tying. When you scurry to Google dont assume the photos tell the story. The style I practice (in the manner I practice it) is about a dynamic between two people, the pull and push of energy exchange. Much more like a martial art combined with the Argentine tango. Its my hobby and like knitting or yoga you are welcome to share the interest or not.
People come and go but the important constants for me do not change positive intentions, empathy, compassion, and high morals and values.
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You...
want to know the real me and are willing to put in the time to get there.
have used Silly-Putty on the Sunday morning comics.
have been told you have a calming presence.
see the world as full spectrum grey not black and white (and want to play all along it).
know what Mikey likes.
cant picture your life without a (non-snack-size) dog in it (preferably a non-dander, no-shedding one)
know how to stop me in my tracks with that look.
have buried your nose in cold damp mimeograph paper, inhaled deeply, then picked up your No.2 pencil.
want to be an active participant in finding the compromise.
dont find it odd if a playlist contains Dottie West, Pearl Jam, and Badfinger.
understand the value of putting a firm guiding hand on the small of a womans back.
I hope you are not the jealous type because I have a good many male friends some of whom I dated at some point in my life and trust me, you have nothing to be jealous of.
If your main interests are watching sports, playing sports, talking about sports, buying gear for new sports, or hanging out in sports bars Im not your gal. Likewise for gym rats.
I am not a complete couch potato and I would like to be more athletic and spend more time outdoors (having you help motivate me and share that with would be fantastic) but Im more walk the dogs and explore scenery with a camera than ski the blacks and windsurf (though I have done
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