This isn't mine, but it sums up my thinking pretty well:

The New Macho

He cleans up after himself. He cleans up the planet. He is a role model for young men. He is rigorously honest and fiercely optimistic.

He holds himself accountable. He knows what he feels. He knows how to cry and he lets it go. He knows how to rage without hurting others. He knows how to fear and how to keep moving. He seeks self-mastery.

He has let go of childish shame. He feels guilty when he's done something wrong. He is kind to men, kind to women, kind to children. He teaches others how to be kind. He says he's sorry.

He stopped blaming women or his parents or men for his pain years ago. He stopped letting his defenses ruin his relationships. He stopped letting his penis run his life. He has enough self-respect to tell the truth. He creates intimacy and trust with his actions. He has men that he trusts and that he turns to for support. He knows how to roll with it. He knows how to make it happen. He is disciplined when he needs to be. He is flexible when he needs to be. He knows how to listen from the core of his being.

He's not afraid to get dirty. He's ready to confront his own limitations. He has high expectations for himself and for those he connects with. He looks for ways to serve others. He knows he is an individual. He knows that we are all one. He knows he is an animal and a part of nature. He knows his spirit and his connection to something greater.

He knows that the future generations are watching his actions. He builds communities where people are respected and valued. He takes responsibility for himself and is also willing to be his brother's keeper.

He knows his higher purpose. He loves with fierceness. He laughs with abandon, because he gets the joke.

This is the Mature Masculine - the New Warrior - a re-definition of masculinity for the 21st century. By no means is this list complete. You are welcome to come and add your gifts to this community. --Boysen Hodgson

Let's see, ok, what I'm looking for:

I'm looking for 3 different things, very specific types of people.

1) I'm looking for a third world scammer that want me to fall for their tricks, and spend time swapping pictures of porn stars back and forth so they can get me nice and worked up, and then give me a sob story about how they want to relocate me and be a no limit slave till death if only I can send them some money via Western Union.

2) I'm looking for a fat, ugly 40-50 year old woman that sends me pictures of some young cute hot chick, so she can take up hours and hours of my time, actually fall in love with me, then either vaporize or confess out of guilt that she isn't who she's been portraying herself to be and she feels insanely awful to have burned up 40 hours of my time.

3) I'm looking for some cop or federal agent to trick me into thinking they are some hideous monster of a taboo seeker to try to get me to admit all kinds of illegal activities by baiting them out of me, so they can conduct a formal investigation or add it to the DHS database they are keeping illegally on every American citizen.

OH WAIT...holy crap, I'm in heaven..this is CM!

You people are STUPID!

Don't look too close or I'll flick a booger on your monitor.

This morning, half asleep, I brushed my teeth with deodorant. All day, my only response was, "No sweat." But, hey, my arm pits felt minty fresh.

Why I Trend Poly

I get this question a lot, so I thought I would divulge my thinking on this. I know for many women, poly just isn't something they will consider, and I respect boundaries, I have some too. But then there are some who think a guy who wants a poly-home is just looking to get lots of sex, and while I'm highly sexual, that is not at all the driving force of my ambition.

I've had a poly-home before, and it worked out extremely well, not only for me, but for each of the 3 dynamic and special ladies I had the joy of sharing the experience with. It ended only because I relocated half way across country and they had family ties that wouldn't permit them to continue the journey with me.

I'm a certified life coach, and long before I was actually certified, I was always the kind of man who would take people under my wing. Some were in desperate circumstances, or nursing wounds from the rigors of life. Others simply enjoyed my company and wisdom, as well as my wit. The bottom line is that I have a profound love of helping people expand their horizons, increase their awareness and rise to their highest potential.

Add to that, the fact that I'm an extremely diverse man. I have a great many passions. Art, music, writing, cooking, gardening. I'm not a one trick pony, and because of that, I'm also not a one-dimensional Dominant. I fully enjoy using this diversity to connect with people where they are at. So, when I find a sweet little who is looking for a Daddy, I'm more than happy to open my strong arms and invite her to share a spot on my lap. I can indulge her need for nurturing. By the same token, when I meet a masochist, I can give her the pain she needs, because I am also a sadist. I've been giving pain for many years and I've got some very refined skills. The pet can count on me to help her bring out the inner totem, to embrace the animal spirit within her and to raise it with the same loving affection and both positive and negative reinforcement I've shared with the real furry critters I've given a home to over the years.

Plainly, it suits me well to bring all I have to the table. While submissives/slaves surrender, we Dominants (at least the good ones) give of ourselves whole heartedly as well.

The ion that taking on more than one relationship diminishes all is to suggest that a parent can only love one child. Or that a pet owner neglects their pets if they keep more than one. And in an era of broken families, many of you would be surprised how much of a solid foundation having a larger family can bring. I know this well, having been an only child growing up. When you learn the team work necessary to make a larger family not only work, but thrive, you build a great set of skills you can't learn in any other way.

In a time when the economy has readjust lifestyles at every social level, I also look to the brilliant examples of immigrant families who have traveled so far, with so little, but joined their resources and used their potentials to succeed in the land of the free.

So, I hope now you understand, just a bit better, that no, this is not my desire to have orgies, though I'm a highly sexual man. This is about forging deep, lasting connections. This is about working toward mutual goals. This is about realizing highest potentials.

I am your pillar of strength, the firmament upon which you kneel. Your protector, the one whom you show respect. I am your teacher and trainer. I discipline you when you need it, because I care so deeply for you.

My love for you is not traditional, but so much deeper because I accept every part of you, each part I've spent hours painstakingly reaching into. And you know and feel this love as a profound sense of security, one that you call being owned.

Through me you discover confidence, and learn the value of trust. I am the giver of your pleasure and your greatest one. I own you deeply, in every sense and every way. I make order out of a chaotic world, a shelter from the storm. I am the one who loves you as a man loving a woman should, the one who uses you like a dirty slut and who plays with you like a toy, and who makes sure you know I love all 3 aspects.

I provide you balance, and a strong arm to hold you up when you lose it. The one who brings you to your knees and holds you there when it's time to do so. 

I am strong, consistent, patient, loyal, committed and trustworthy.

I am your everything.

Fake Profiles galore...hide them from view,it's like whackamole...3 show up for every one you hide. 1 picture, always a cute girl. Colored background on the text. 1 paragraph that sounds like some short blurb right out of penthouse letters.

Utterly ridiculous.

Ohhhhh beat me, force me, isolate me, plunge me into total slavery...ONLINE ONLY...ROFLMAO, some of you are so ridiculously stupid it makes my sides hurt with laughter.

I know a great many people that cruise this and other websites are here purely for the sexual thrills, and I suppose that's ok, but I'm saddened that more aren't aware of the enormous resource this kind of lifestyle has in exploring the depths of human potential. For me, interacting with submissives and slaves, beautiful women, is far more intellectual, and at times emotional, pushing the envelopes, exploring the shadows, developing the innate qualities each uniquely possesses.

There's just so much more to explore than the kink of it all...as alluring as it may be.

Save yourselves some time with people who want to jerk you around. Pull all pictures of people who try to engage you and run a simple image search on Google Images. A fair degree of time, you can find images pulled from porn sites or other sources and cut things short. If everyone starts doing this, we can bring a nice dose of honesty to CM.

When it comes to age, it isn't a question of whether I'm too old for you, it's more of a question whether you're mature enough to be a part of my reality.