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I am NOT seeking my FL LTR right now. You may read my other profile "myhouseboy", that tells my current situation. Respond there if you want to be considered. My writing here is for you to get to know me. Do not message me here. I am not picking up messages at this profile.

I am a caring, sensual, very dominant woman. I am creative, highly sexual, and intuitive. I seek a submissive gentleman (within a reasonable driving distance from Philadelphia) for a potential FL DD LTR.

You are a quality man with the strength and courage to submit to the right woman. Only SINGLE, STRAIGHT masculine gentlemen need apply. You must be a non-smoker. You will probably be in your mid-50's to early-60's.

If we click and I choose to take you and you choose to give yourself to me, then I will cherish you and you will adore me. You are auditioning for the plum role of co-starring with me in my life!

I am a real woman, seeking a real relationship. This means I do not ask for nor accept "tribute". I am typing, in hopes of talking. We talk in hopes of meeting. We meet to see if there is chemistry and the possibility of beginning the exploration of a blend of a D/s & vanilla relationship.

"Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different." When I read this somewhere, the truth of it rang like a bell. When I am involved with a wonderfully submissive gent my role as the trust bearing, power wielding, nurturing disciplinarian blossoms.

I lead strongly. I teach well. I enjoy corporal punishment sparingly and succinctly. Punishment is not punishment ... it is my gift of correction. My gifts are well thought out and quite creative. They are intended to teach so that you may serve me better. If you are motivated by pleasing me, and you have truly committed to following me, then you will succeed.

Here is how I see our relationship unfolding: Early on, I permit you to serve me peripherally. First you will provide the enjoyment of a nice meal and conversation. Then you will provide some service to me in my home or my life (gardening, shopping, home repair, etc.). Then, if you are a really good boy, you may be allowed to tend my feet or other personal service ... pedicures, manicures, light massage. This early tending and serving is driven by your desire for me and your desire to serve me (and I do mean ME, not just any Domme). You are learning how it feels to follow me and I am seeing if it is enjoyable to lead you.

At this early stage, you may give yourself to me to use for an evening, or a day. You are on “short term rental” to me (combined with vanilla dating) … to see if you please me. Over time from your service, I grow affection for you. If you have grown in your commitment to follow my lead, then you may get to discover more of my glory.

The next phase is (metaphorically) the “overnight rental” when I get to enjoy you for a whole night (comparable to vanilla heavy dating). Here I let you into my inner circle a bit at a time as you have earned it. You may serve me deeper and deeper, providing orgasms and other pleasures. Your service causes my appetite for you to grow. I take you just the way I want you ... with wisdom and restraint for the pace of our relationship. You see, our connection is more important to me than my momentary pleasure in totally having you.

This continues as long as needed for you to fully commit to following my lead and for me to find out if I want to offer you the opportunity of being mine for “long term rental”, an exclusive relationship with exploration of possibility of ownership.

Finally, if we have proved compatible through this process, I would take you in every way I want... and I want quite a lot. I would offer you the pleasure and security of being mine: This means you have your own life, job, family, kids, etc. However, within our relationship YOU ARE ALL MINE... YOU FOLLOW MY LEAD, your heart, your service, your genitals and your ass - are all mine!

I have my own life, corporation, family, etc. And you tend and serve me in many ways, both in my vanilla life and in our intimate life. I lead, you follow. I will lead us to the most fulfilling and satisfying relationship we have ever had. You will be my comet man and I will be your star woman.

Now breathe, focus on my needs. Re-read my profile and journal entries. Tell me your thoughts and reactions to what I have written. Send me a photo or two - clothed only!

Good luck,
LadyD.

P.S. Subscribe to my journal for enjoyable and educational writings. This is a good way to get to know me. My writings are from my heart.

P.S.S. I only receive messages from submissive MEN 50 to 64 because that is who I seek for my gent. All other messages go into my "Bulk Mail". Do not take it personally if you are not within this age range and you get no response. Good luck to us all in our searches.

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9/1/2011 12:34:10 PM

I am just now finishing my last client. Whew! If you were here, I would gag you (so I would not be tempted to enjoy conversation... so I could focus on sensual pleasures) and dress you in an Egyptian slave outfit. You would wear a wide collar half way down your chest, a wrap around your waist and sandals ... that is all. Then you would mutely tend my feet with massage and pedicure. Next you would massage my back, thighs (not yet between), and calves. I may enjoy playing with your erection as it pokes your waist wrap forward. Next you massage my front ... finally finishing with an excellent orgasm for me. And, now I will remove your gag. You may lay with me a bit. However, while I nap a bit more, you will prepare dinner for us. Ah, I feel refreshed just for having written it. How wonderful knowing I can have it all.


5/13/2011 7:47:39 PM

He messaged me this evening with an offer of naked house boy services.  We did not connect, but my mind raced ahead as to how I might use this boy.  If we actually did connect and there were chemistry between us (without chemistry, I have no satisfaction in domination and I suspect the boy may not serve well) I would enjoy his service.  Several options surfaced:

  • I would enjoy inspecting his naked body.  He would be embarrassed.  I would enjoy his embarrassment.
  • Knowing that I have his service for the afternoon or evening, it would please me to tease him a bit and use him as my mannequin to try new permutations of my various straps, buckles, and collars.
  • I have two areas in my home:  my private bedroom and master bath that I call my boudoir suite, and the rest of the house that is less private at this time.  We would be in my boudoir suite.  I would enjoy the look in my boy's eyes when he saw me sitting there in my black lace corset slip and pearls, just watching him as he was cleaning my jacuzzi.  I could see a mixture of excitement and fear in his eyes.  I would be enjoying him bending over wearing he thong in which I have dressed him.  He would be wondering if he was cleaning properly.

Alas, my phone is ringing and my scenario is interrupted.  Until another time... LadyD.


5/4/2011 9:11:55 PM

Flowers and Pedicures

(This is a short story by one of my admirers. I am including it here because it expresses much of what I would hope my boy would feel.)

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Our communications progressed to the point where we mutually agreed to meet face to face.  This was important, because we needed this first encounter to see if there was chemistry between us.  After all, this is what all prospective new dates do.  However, in our case, something was hidden underneath.

LadyD decided that our meeting place would be a restaurant local to her residence.  It was to be in the afternoon, with warmer, sunny, late spring weather.  I followed LadyD’s suggestion knowing that this was the proper thing to do.

When I arrived wearing casual attire, with brown leather shoes, I did not immediately see the woman with red hair I was looking for.  I took a patio table from the waiter and settled down to wait.  I reasoned to myself that I was early, I had to be!  Being late was not a possibility with somebody like LadyD.  The tables around me were partially filled.  However, people of all ages, couples and families were starting to fill the seating area.  I groaned inwardly.  We needed our conversation to be private!

At last!  A redheaded woman, striking with a light aqua dress, was talking to the waiter.  She looked towards my table and said something to the waiter.  She then walked over.  LadyD looked gorgeous with flaming red hair, moist lipstick and piercing blue eyes.  LadyD looked at me, as I arose none to awkwardly, I hoped.  She extended her hand, “Rick?”  I clasped her hand,” Yes, Rick.”  “Ma’am?  She did not respond, but nodded.  “The waiter said he will come by when he sees us at the table,” I said.  We sat ourselves down.  I could not resist a furtive glance at LadyD’s feet.  She is wearing opened toed heels with straps around the ankles.  Her toenails are painted a shimmering pink.  My heart quickened.

Our initial conversation was a little terse.  We looked at our menus and ordered when the waiter came back.  However, I lightened up as a described my career and job.  I also talked about my desire to continue to kayak.  LadyD talked about her various entrepreneurial pursuits.  Then LadyD M’s tone and look changes.  She shifts in her chair and crosses her legs with a gorgeous foot in full view.  “What are you thinking about?”  Her eyes are piercing and her mouth is has a wry smile.   My mind panics.  The waiter then shows up with our food and I am saved momentarily.

After we both eat most of our food, LadyD looks at me again, her foot gone from view.  “Well?” “You have a lovely garden with so many nice flowers.  I was thinking about how wonderful it would be to cut flowers and make a bouquet for you,” I murmured. “I am glad you have an interest in my garden and flowers.  However, I have strict requirements.  You would cut them properly and arrange them in a way that indicates to me that you were thinking about me,” LadyD has a flash in her eyes I haven’t seen before.  “Yes, ma’am,” I responded in a low tone.

At this point, I have begun to look around at nearby tables to see if people are listening to our conversation.  It appeared that nobody was looking at us.  LadyD continues, “Of course the flower bouquet is one thing, how it is delivered is another.  I would expect you to call me on your cell from the garden and ask for a directive on how to deliver the flowers.”  My spine shivers.   “I would be in my boudoir expecting a bouquet of flowers from you,” LadyD’s look is even more piercing.  My brain starts to roar and my ears are ringing as I am transported into my special space. “LadyD has her requirements, I completely understand,” I gulp.  My ears continue to ring as I realize I been verbally submissive to LadyD in a public place!  “You would deliver the bouquet of flowers that you cut from my garden in a manner that I choose.  You do understand what that means, don’t you? ”  “Ma’am, of course!” I stutter, as I imagined the range of possibilities that LadyD might have in store for me…

LadyD is not done. “Have you learned how to do pedicures?” Her eyes continue to flash.  “Ma’am, I have been online educating myself with techniques and required implements, lotions and nail polish,” I responded smartly as my brain started to clear and the ringing in my ears lessened.  “Well, have you actually been practicing? LadyD inquired.  “Yes, Ma’am I have been working on my technique,” I responded less certainly.  “Perhaps, you can show me!”  LadyD’s stare and wry smile haven’t been as strong as this.  My brain is starting to roar again, I feel slightly confused.  “Remove your shoes and socks for me,” LadyD says.  I am genuinely puzzled at this point.  Then the roaring bellows in and my ears ring intensely.   I had forgotten about my pedicure efforts on my own nails!  I was still wearing the shiny pink shade of nail polish LadyD so preferred.  My brain is in oblivion and my ears ring to the point that the chatter of nearby tables is almost impossible to hear.  “Boy, do as you are told,” Mistress commanded me.  Meekly, I bended to the floor of the restaurant and untied my brown leather shoes.  I pulled them off.  “Socks, now,” Mistress commanded.  I was then completely in my special space.   I could only obey the commands that LadyD was giving me. In the sun lighted patio of the restaurant, my painted nails were fully on view.  My embarrassment was acute, I could hear tittering at a least one nearby table.  I couldn’t look. “It appears you need to do this some more,” LadyD said steely after leaning toward my glistening feet.  “Signal the waiter for the bill.”  I realized that my submission would continue… 

Fin


3/4/2011 6:13:37 AM

I have been away from CM for a while as I explored the possibilities with one specific boy.    Now I am back on CM and open to discover my next adventure.  Who knows, it may result in me finding my gent.  In any case, the search will be enjoyable.  Life is such a journey and every experience is such an opportunity to learn.
I just re-read my entire journal.  I encourage you to do the same if you want to approach me.  My writings tell you very much about who I am as a woman and as a Dominant.  I seek a boy who knows himself and is drawn to my writings to start. 
LadyD.


2/23/2010 8:13:15 AM

I could not say it better, so I will quote William Bond:

"With the ending of oppressive laws and customs throughout the 20th century women have quickly gained near equality with men. I know to us a hundred years might seem a long time but in historical terms it is very quick for such a far reaching social change. If this rate of progress for Women is to continue during the 21st century then clearly Women will be ruling the world in another hundred years time.

What is clear is that men can only become the dominant sex by enforcing through violence and propaganda, oppressive laws and customs against Women. This means that it is not natural for men to be the dominant sex - if he has to put so much effort into keeping Women down. If we get rid of all these artificial laws and customs created by patriarchal men and follow our natural instincts then Women will naturally become the rulers of our World."


1/4/2010 4:55:01 AM
Hello dear boys.  Here is a lesson I will share with you: 
There is some confusion about the D/s blended with vanilla.  Many boys think that if the Lady is leading, then they should be passive.  NO, passive is not the same as submissive.

All Ladies are different.  So I will tell you about Me specifically.  If you are interested being my boy, then SHOW ME. 
1.)  Contact me at least twice a week.
2.)  Arrange your vanilla life to see me at least twice a month.

If you cannot do these two simple things, then clearly you are not interested enough in Me to warrant my attentions.  Remember this lesson if you hope to be my boy.

9/27/2009 5:32:23 AM
To the gents who seek a real-time real blended D/s & vanilla relationship with a caring Dominant, you must contact me so we can explore the possibilities.
In order to cultivate your service heart and not develop  your kinks further (which limits your pool of women) I recommend two websites: 
1.)  www.cair4.com
2.)  "Real Women Don't Do Housework" at www.freewebs.com/ladymisato/

5/15/2009 3:24:50 AM

I awakened this morning and made my cup of tea.  My mind wandered to how lovely it will be when I find my boy and he awakens to make my tea, arranges the chairs so that we may sit in the garden and say our morning 'hellos' while I give him his tasks of service for the day.  As I see him eagerly receive each task, my desire for him throbs.  I sip my tea and in my head I plan our evening.  He knows what my wry little smile means.  I can see him squirm in his seat.  I enjoy his anticipation / anxiety.


3/23/2009 9:28:57 AM
Every Dominant Woman is different.   I have been told I am unique in my beliefs, protocols, and practices.  I do indeed blend D/s with vanilla in any romantic relationship I have had.  I would not have it any other way. 

When I find my gent, this is how it will be:

My gent and I each have our own lives which overlap in the area of our relationship. 

My life is all mine.  I have my family, corporation, passionate work that affects people world wide, ... and my relationship with my gent.  I am in charge of all that is in my life, which includes my relationship with my gent.

My gent has his own life:  his family, job, etc... and his relationship with me.  He makes the choices in his life ... but NOT our relationship. 

In the areas where our lives overlap, in our relationship, I AM IN CONTROL.  I will ask for and consider my gents opinions and needs.  Then I will make the best decision for our relationship, for me, and for him. 

The person with the most awareness simply has the most responsibility.  The person with the most responsibility must have the most power.

I always have more awareness than my gent.  I MUST have the power for us both to be satisfied within our relationship.

It is a simple matter of his, mine, and ours.  I am fully in charge of mine and our relationship!  My gent is in charge of his (but not our relationship).

D/s and vanilla can work wonderfully!

3/21/2009 10:12:49 AM

Recently a sub made a rude comment about my lovely plus size body.  In order to educate, I will share my response with you here:

--Do you exercise two hours a day, 5 days a week?
--Do you teach 3 aerobic classes a week?
--Do you power walk 10 to 20 miles a week?
--Do you practice yoga three times a week?
--Do you do the splits and other flexibility stretches daily?
--Do you eat primarily organic?
--Do you keep your saturated fats below 10% daily?
--Do you eat a minimum of 25g of fiber daily?
--Do you eat 5 to 9 fruits & veggies a day?
--Do you research and take all appropriate vitamins?
--Do you have a resting heart rate of 55?
--Do you have low cholesterol?
--Do you have your blood pressure better than 120/70?
--Do you have excellent blood glucose levels?

** I DO!**
Weight is a characteristic, not a lifestyle.

You are participating in prejudice if you think everyone who is plus size has an unhealthy lifestyle.  I can only wish that you recover from your prejudice.

If you know how to make everyone slim, you know more than all the scientists, doctors, and drug companies in the world.  If you really know how to do this, why aren't you a billionaire?  You could be a Nobel Peace Prize winner.  I can see the headline now:  "Submissive dog wins Nobel Peace Prize for solving the obesity issues of the world".  You are ignorant and rude... but you are NOT SUBMISSIVE.

(Obviously, this rude sub made me cross... and I do enjoy expressing myself when I am cross.  You are such a good boy to listen.)


2/8/2009 7:33:45 AM
My Saturdays are very special to me.  They provide me the opportunity to be pleased and to seek my gent.

After our initial phone call and 1st meeting, if we click, and I find myself wanting you, and you feel compelled to serve me ... then we may have a Saturday like this:

You meet me for lunch at a restaurant that is convenient for me.  We enjoy conversation and we can both feel anticipation.

Once we arrive at my home, I order you to undress.  I love the feeling of naked man / clothed woman.  You will serve me by doing a few things around my home.  I will take the time to teach you each procedure ... once.  It is your responsibility to learn and perform. 

It may be wise for you to wear a little notepad around your neck so you can write down my directions at any time ... all the better for you to succeed and please me.  Ah, perhaps after a time your notepad would be attached to the collar that I bestow upon you.  I digress.  Let me get back to my Saturday.

So, as I think about my Saturday, I am enjoying your bare ass and your dangling notepad as you move about my home completing tasks that make my life better.  My chest flutters with every deferential "Yes, LadyD." and every bowed head as you pass me.  My affection for you grows with each act of your service.

Finally I can wait no longer.  I require you to draw my bath.  As the Jacuzzi jets massage my back, you massage my feet ... and calves ... and thighs ... (That is all for now.  You have not yet earned further intimacies.)

As I step out of the bubbles, you spray me down with the hand held shower.  I order you to dry my ass by licking it with your tongue.  I enjoy feeling you tremble as you approach me.

You have put fresh sheets on my bed.  As I lay down, you apply scented lotion to my body from top to bottom.  (Later when our relationship is further developed, you will also give me a few wonderful orgasms.)  When I am so pleased that I melt into my sheets, you cover me up for my afternoon nap.  If you are a very good boy, I may let you sleep at my feet.

8/24/2008 4:24:01 AM
This is a quote from a dear boy, who's wisdom I admire:  "From the respect of a submissive for his Lady, love grows.  From affection for him and a knowledge of his desire to please her, love grows".

I seek a relationship with the possibility that love may grow between us.  Without that, even the best D/s encounters have a hollow core for me.

I appreciate your thoughts and compliments.  However, we shall only meet if we are both available for the possibility for love to grow.  Consider this when you choose to contact me.  Are you really available to me?


7/16/2008 9:09:17 AM

Erections: Use 'em or lose 'em!
Yes, boys ... She may own your orgasms, but if She wants you to stay healthy, she should make sure you have orgasms weekly! Orgasms are good for your prostate health and for preventing ED. A recent Finnish study confirmed these findings.

When I select my boy, I will carefully monitor and orchestrate his orgasms. After all, I want to take good care of my property.

If you have not yet found the Lady who will own you, then take care of Her future property by having regular orgasms ... good boy!


5/10/2008 5:07:15 AM

The greatest test of a gent is HOW he responds when he makes an error.  If he responds properly, then the relationship can weather the storm.  It is the Lady's job to tell the gent HOW to make amends after he makes an error.  As a quality Lady, I give this information freely:
When you make an error, I will correct you.  Your apology and change in behavior is good, but not enough.  In general, when corrected the response would have four components:

1.) Apologize -- Do NOT explain away your transgression!!!  (At a later time, after I am well pleased, I will ask about what happened.)
2.) Correct the behavior
3.) Ask the Lady HOW to make amends
4.) After I tell you how to make amends, OBEY ME!  Be grateful and thank me for taking the time to correct you and using my creativity to craft the perfect way for you to learn. 

5.)  Take your punishment.  I will decide what is the best punishment for my enjoyment and your lesson. 


This 4 step process serves many functions. 
**It clarifies my leadership.
**It gives you an action to do, so that you are not left with residual guilt. 
**It makes my life better: I always design some amends that I enjoy or that improve my life. 
**It gives me pleasure as I enjoy your vulnerability.  (I would craft amends that surely would leave you vulnerable.)
**It would set things right.  Through my skilled teaching, you would have transcended from erroneous boy to successful submissive man.

This lesson I give you as a gift.  Be grateful, and express it.
LadyD.

 


4/25/2008 4:20:18 AM
This is such a lovely day.  Yet, I miss you.  I have not met you.  I have not grown affection for you.  I have not savored your sweet service ... and I miss you. 

The lilacs in my garden are deep, deep purple.  I just went out and got my first bouquet for my desk.  This should be your task.  I should not only enjoy the flowers, but I should also enjoy your service to me when you bring the flowers.

When you read my profile and journal, if you think you may be my gent, my pet, my boy ... you must contact me.  Do not keep this Lady waiting.

4/6/2008 5:04:47 PM
On PBS there is a nature special airing: "What Females Want ... and What Males Will Do".  It seems females control things throughout the species.

3/29/2008 3:11:00 AM
CollarMe has been wonderful for finding quality men who also happen to be submissive.  Alas, now I must be more selective in my search at this time.  My time has become too precious to message just for fun.

Therefore, if you think you may be the gent for me, you are welcome to message me and bid for my attentions.  But, only those looking for a LTR blend of D/s & vanilla should message me.  

During this time, instead of corresponding with many gents, I shall be very selective.  I decided to use this journal to express my theories, insights, and ideas of Dominance.  It pleases me to do so.

THE TWO TOWERS

"A needy woman" is a woman with needs who, deep down, does not really believe her needs will ever be met.  She is a damsel in distress standing atop the tower of the castle.  She seeks her knight in shining armor to SAVE her.  BEWARE!  At first she seems like a Dominant Lady because she is demanding. 

However, soon you will find out that you can never meet her needs.  She is really hopeless that they will ever be met and she does not really know HOW to direct you into meeting her needs.  If you try to save a damsel in distress, you are doomed to failure.  And, in addition, she will blame you for her unmet needs.

In contrast, "a Woman with needs" is a woman who absolutely positively knows her needs will be met.  She knows this because she is good at meeting her own needs and at instructing others on how they may please her.  She is a QUEEN, standing in the tower of her castle.  She seeks her knight in shining armor to SERVE Her.  She is skilled at directing her knight toward success. 

She shows her pleasure easily and often.  She is confident her needs will be met because she knows how to make it so.  When she finds her knight he is a lucky gent indeed.  As long as he embraces the honor of service, he is guaranteed success because he serves a Queen who knows how to lead.
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Most submissive gents I have known have been married to or had vanilla relationships with damsels in distress who need to be saved.  The woman's neediness seemed to match the gent's desire to serve.  DO NOT MISTAKE SAVING FOR SERVING.  They are very different.  You can never succeed at saving anyone.  Furthermore, you will be blamed if you try.

Now that you are in the D/s world, beware of the damsels in distress that call down to you from their high towers. 

Learn to appreciate the true Queen in her tower ... the Queen who reigns supreme over Her knight and leads him to success and the ecstacy of submission. 

You deserve the success and satisfaction of being a quality submissive to a true Queen who is a skilled leader.

Your Queen deserves your service.

3/23/2008 3:52:33 PM
I have 3 dozen 300 thread count pillow cases. Today I am washing them preparing for my week. This should be my gent's task.

He should wear his usual garb (or lack thereof) while he launders, softens, and scents my pillow cases. They should be stacked on my bedside table so that I have a clean pillow case for every day.

Now, if a gent and I were in the exploration phase of a relationship, where I saw my gent every few weeks, then he would leave exactly the number of cases I will need until his return.

If in the fullness of time we became a pair, it would be my gent's task to put my fresh pillow case upon my pillow every day. My gent would be confident that his efforts please me and he would enjoy doing so.

Every time I lay my head down, I would smile the smile of a knowing woman, thinking of how my gent has striven to please me.

Service is a tremendous aphrodisiac to me. These little things bind a Lady and her gent every bit as much as the dramatic services of a sexual encounter.

3/21/2008 12:37:41 AM

A gent has asked me if I "do" this or that. There is no simple answer to this question. I do not have recreational "scenes" where I have a repertoire of behaviors that I repeat.

Instead, I have relational experiences as I seek my true gent. I only meet carefully selected gents ... those who may actually have potential to be my one and only. What transpires in these special situations is unique to each relationship. Once my interest is piqued, my mind begins to race with possible scenarios based on my needs and what I have learned about the gent.

Recently a gent caught my attention like no other ever has. In one short week he was already in my heart and my urges to have him and hold him and use him and own him were fierce. Yes, I am a lioness at heart. 

Alas, forces in his life made him unavailable to me. As a result, I was left with scenarios floating in my mind that will never be lived.  

So, here I am, in the middle of the night, thinking of these special scenarios. I decided to write them down here in hopes that one of you gents may read them and know me better ... and know that you would like to be mine ... you must be mine. 

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We had a lovely brunch together on a Saturday afternoon, talking, renewing our comfort level. Indeed, I needed to look into his face to believe he was real ... to feel that our phone conversations and connections had actually occurred in the real world (instead of in my wishful thinking). He was real. His strength, intelligence ... his brown eyes, his big strong hands, they were all at my service. I ached to have him at my feet, under me, serving me. I could feel my chest a flutter at the thought of his submission.

But first, I would toy with him. 

Perhaps I was also teasing myself. I do love wanting. Wanting is the sauce that makes having so tasty. We would go out shoe shopping, before we retire to my private space. I would have him kneeling before me, helping me with my shoes, fetching shoes for me, serving me ... all in a perfectly socially acceptable way. You see, I am very private about my private life. Yet I do love having the opportunity to have my gent submit to me in public, when no one else knows that he is.  I enjoy teasing him additionally by wearing a mini-skirt. This will be important later on.

When I find my shoes, I buy them. He has not yet earned the right to buy me anything. This is an intimate act. We are not yet that intimate.

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Once we walk in the door, my gent puts my boxes down. I turn, look at him sternly, and order him to remove his clothes... all of them down to his underwear. You see, my gent will keep his package wrapped early on in our relationship. I will unwrap it when I am ready to take some ownership of his genitals. This happens as we develop a heart connection, not just for getting acquainted. I do enjoy his embarrassment at disrobing. I enjoy his near nakedness. I have him lay down on the floor.

Now he will learn the proper way to address me. He will learn it well and never forget. As I walk around his helpless naked body on my floor, I can hear the click of my high heels on the hard wood. There is something about the juxtaposition of the crisp click of my heels and his naked skin that thrills me. I tell him to watch my legs as I walk.  He is somewhat embarrassed to be blatantly watching me.  I enjoy his embarrassment.  I enjoy his excitement.

Then, I walk to his head, and stand with one foot next to each ear.  Ah, there he is, between my legs.  I squeeze his head with my shoes, leather on skin, holding him firmly.  I am not wearing panties under my mini-skirt. I can see him straining as he peers into the shadows ... is he is really seeing what he thinks he is seeing? It is during this intense focus that I give him the information on how to address me. While he is naked and under me, I command him: "You shall call me LadyD.  You shall not call me Mistress or Ma'am. Those are typical salutations. I am not typical." He answers "Yes, LadyD." I lower myself toward his face so that he may inhale my scent. This is such a lovely reward.

"Now, put on these sweatpants and sweatshirt so that you can work in my yard."  I wonder what scenario my mind will spin as I watch him working at my behest. I wonder how much I will want him when he comes in to report: "I am done, LadyD. What can I do for your next?"


1/25/2008 2:39:18 PM
A gent asked me my sign.  When I looked up the characteristics of my sign, I could see comments about my dominance right there.  Can you?

Chinese Sign:  Horse
Thank goodness for open spaces, because the Horse needs plenty of room to roam! Energetic, good with money and very fond of travel, Horses are the nomads of the Chinese Zodiac, roaming from one place or project to the next. All of this Sign's incessant activity and searching may be to satisfy a deep-rooted desire to fit in. Paradoxically, Horses feel a simultaneous yearning for independence and freedom.

Horses crave love and intimacy, which is a double-edged sword since it often leads them to feel trapped. Love connections tend to come easily to Horses, since they exude the kind of raw sex appeal that is a magnet to others. This Sign tends to come on very strong in the beginning of the relationship, having an almost innate sense of romance and seduction. Horses are seducers in general; check out any A-list party and you're bound to find the Horse in attendance. This Sign possesses a sharp wit and a scintillating presence; it really knows how to work a crowd.

An impatient streak can lead Horses to be less than sensitive to others' needs. These colts would rather take a situation firmly in hand as opposed to waiting for others to weigh in or come to terms with it. The lone wolf inside the Horse can at times push others away, but this also makes this Sign stronger and is a key to its success.

Horses are self-reliant and, though they might lose interest fast in a tedious, nine-to-five day job, are willing to do the work necessary to get ahead. This Sign really knows how to motivate others and get a lot accomplished. Once they find some peace within themselves, they can curb their wandering tendencies and learn to appreciate what's in their own backyard.

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Astrological Sign:  Scorpio
Scorpios are the most intense, profound, powerful characters in the zodiac. Even when they appear self-controlled and calm there is a seething intensity of emotional energy under the placid exterior. They are like the volcano not far under the surface of a calm sea, it may burst into eruption at any moment. But those of us who are particularly perceptive will be aware of the harnessed aggression, the immense forcefulness, magnetic intensity, and often strangely hypnotic personality under the tranquil, but watchful composure of Scorpio. In conventional social gatherings they are pleasant to be with, thoughtful in conversation, dignified, and reserved, yet affable and courteous; they sometimes possess penetrating eyes which make their shyer companions feel naked and defenseless before them.

Scorpio is the symbol of sex and Scorpios are passionate lovers, the most sensually energetic of all the signs. For them, union with the beloved is a sacrament, an "outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual grace." Their overriding urge in loving is to use their power to penetrate beyond themselves and to lose themselves sexually in their partners in an almost mystical ecstasy, thus discovering the meaning of that union which is greater than individuality, and is a marriage of the spirit as well as of flesh. They are thus capable of the greatest heights of passionate transport, but debauchery and perversion are always dangers.


11/11/2007 7:42:32 AM
When I saw this quote, I had to post it here.  For those submissive gents who struggle with the value of submission, this may help:

"Everybody can be great because everybody can serve ... You only need a heart full of grace, a soul generated by love. And you can be that servant." --Martin Luther King Jr.

If submission is in your nature.  I wish greatness for you in expressing your submissive nature within a loving relationship. LadyD.

10/7/2007 3:11:02 PM
A gent said he had no desire for cages and the like.  Nor do I, however, this made me think of something that I would desire...

I imagine that my gent is in the bubble bath with me.  We visit and have a delightful conversation while he exfoliates my feet so nice and smooth.  As we sit in the tub, we face each other with his legs on the outside of me.  This means both my feet are in the middle.  He has my one foot in his hands as he pampers it.  My other foot rests against his genitals.  I do so enjoy my delightful foot rest. 

After our bath, we move to my bedroom where my gent applies my body oil ... everywhere.  Of course I have a delightful orgasm ... or two.

Then, my gent curls up at the bottom of the bed, with my feet warming on his belly (sometimes finding their way to his lovely shaft) as I fall asleep.

I desire my gent at my pretty feet, in my nice warm bed, not in a cold cage.

9/13/2007 5:01:31 AM
When a Lady initiates contact with you, for any reason, she has read your profile and shown some interest in you.  She has taken her precious time to do so.  You should not send back a one line reply.  You should reply respecting the Lady. 

The minimum reply is one of these:

·          a thank you  with a compliment to the Lady

·           grateful acceptance of her attentions and let her know that you are available to be considered

·          ... or you should nicely tell her that you are not available, but feel honored to have gotten her attention.


Now, keep this instruction in mind, whenever a lady approaches you.  If you really seek the ONE for your life, you should treat all with respect. 

You should be respectful so that you are worthy of the ONE when fate brings you together.  I believe all things unfold as they should.  
Our responsibility to fate is to remain open to the possibilities and to be prepared when the opportunity arrives.
Now, go and be agood boy.
LadyD.

P.S.  Note:  The above is true when any dominant (man or woman) contacts a submissive (man or woman).  However, since I am a dominant woman, I have spoken from my own point of view.

9/6/2007 4:55:13 AM
Again, you boys are so dear.  I am indeed on my search for the ONE gent who will become mine.  However, I do so appreciate the quality gents I am meeting along the way.  I have the utmost faith that my quest will be successful.  I wish the same for each of you.

In appreciation, I have another gift for you.  It is a concept that you should remember always.

Of course, it goes without saying that the Lady's pleasure and satisfaction are always the primary focus (indeed, your pleasure is a mere side effect of hers). This is true of the tasks you do for her, the personal service you may render, or the sexual gratification you may provide.

So, it is clear what comes first.  But, what about what comes last?  Yes, with a Lady, there is a clear protocol for this.

She always gets the last orgasm.
You always send the last message.


No matter how spent you are, you must always beg your Lady to give her one last orgasm.  This leaves the Lady satisfied and tended.

After any communication or time spent together, you promptly send one last message, note, or email.  This leaves the Lady satisfied and tended. 

You may thank her, or compliment her, or tell her what you learned, or tell her how you react to her gifts of attention.  The message may be only a few words ... but you always, send one last message. 

Oh, what a successful submissive you will be when you always leave your Lady satisfied and tended.  Remember this lesson I have given you.  (Yes, you may message me and tell me "thank you".)

7/20/2007 9:25:49 AM
I send this out to you gents who appreciate a zaftig woman:
http://youtube (dot) com/watch?v=Zapt5F8gSd4  

6/17/2007 4:33:03 AM
I have a gift for you gents who have ever wanted to bring out the dominant side of a woman. 

www.cair4(dot)com/entryformales.htm

www.cair4(dot)com/archive.htm

I encourage you to read this site fully if you are interested in being considered by me.  Although I am already a very dominant lady, I am a caring dominant as they discribe here.  I am the ideal woman of which this site speaks.  I am so thrilled to find my ways and beliefs in print! 

5/20/2007 7:47:16 AM

submission is not about suffering . . . 
     . . . submission is about service.
submission is not about humiliation . . . 
     . . . submission is about humility.
submission is not about pain . . . 
     . . . submission is about being present.
submission is not about being used . . . 
     . . . submission is about being of use.
submission is not about control . . . 
     . . . submission is about letting go.
submission is not about your desires . . . 
     . . . submission is about giving to others.
submission is not about abuse . . . 
     . . . submission is about acceptance.
submission is not about proving anything . . . 
     . . . submission is about being real.
submission is not about contempt . . . 
     . . . submission is about respect.
submission is not about how you look . . . 
     . . . submission is about how you care.
submission is not about denying yourself . . . 
     . . . submission is about being open.
submission is not about punishment . . . 
     . . . submission is about discipline.
submission is not about being unable to escape . . . 
     . . . submission is about being committed. 
submission is not about fear . . . 
     . . . submission is about trust.
submission is not about sex . . . 
     . . . submission is about love.
submission is not about pleasure . . . 
     . . . submission is about happiness.

Author: slave david stein, under the Guardianship 
of Master Steve Sampson © 1998


5/17/2007 5:28:50 AM
What if you transgress or make an error?
Here is my message to one gent who did (and my gift to journal readers):

When you make an error, I will correct you. Your apology and change in behavior is good, but not enough. In general, when corrected the response would have four components:

1.) Apologize -- Do NOT explain away your transgression!!! (At a later time, after I am well pleased, I will ask about what happened.)
2.) Correct the behavior
3.) Ask the Lady HOW to make amends. After I tell you how to make amends, After I tell you how to make amends, OBEY ME!
4.)  Be grateful and thank me for taking the time to correct you and using my creativity to craft the perfect way for you to learn. I will not waste my energy administering corporal punishment. Rather, I will design some amends that will serve me. This is a much better use of your time.

This 4 step process serves many functions.
**It clarifies my leadership.
**It gives you an action to do, so that you are not left with residual guilt.
**It makes my life better: I always design some amends that I enjoy or that improve my life.
**It gives me pleasure as I enjoy your vulnerability. (I would craft amends that surely would leave you vulnerable.)
**It would set things right. Through my skilled teaching, you would have transcended from erroneous boy to successful submissive man.

This lesson I give you as a gift. Be grateful, and express it.

LadyD.

5/13/2007 9:19:03 AM
In 1955 the "Good Wife's Guide" was printed in a magazine ... fascinating, they did not even know they were D/s in 1955 ... (you can Google the phrase to find the original with the man as dominant).  Here is my version, with the woman dominant:
The Good Gent's Guide (or the Submissive Man's Guide)
**
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for Her return. This is a way of letting Her know that you have been thinking about Her and are concerned about Her needs. Most women are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially her favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
** Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when She arrives. Touch up your cologne, comb your hair and be fresh-looking. She has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
** Be a little happy and a little more interesting for Her. Her boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
** Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your Lady arrives.
** Gather up things that are scattered about and then run a dust cloth over the tables.
** Over the cooler months of the year, you should prepare and light a fire for Her to unwind by. Your lady will feel She has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for Her comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
** Be happy to see Her.
**
Greet Her with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please Her.
** Listen to Her. You may have a dozen important things to tell Her, but the moment of Her arrival is not the time. Let Her talk first - remember, Her topics of conversation are more important than yours.
** Make the evening Hers. Never complain if She comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand Her world of strain and pressure and Her very real need to be at home and relax.
** Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquility where your Lady can renew Herself in body and spirit.
** Don't greet Her with complaints or problems.
** D
on't complain if She's late home for dinner or even if She stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what She might have gone through that day.
** Make Her comfortable. Have Her lean back in a comfortable chair or have Her lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for Her.
** Arrange Her pillow and offer to take off Her shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
** Don't ask Her questions about Her actions or question Her judgment or integrity. Remember, She is the master of the house and as such will always exercise Her will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question Her.
** A good gent always knows his place.

4/24/2007 7:35:41 AM

He asked me how I see a long distance relationship and possible relocation working out.  Here was my answer... 
Re: Long distance connecting: 
*** First we message and exchange photos. 
*** Then we talk to see if we connect in conversation. 
*** If the conversation resulted in urges that were worth the plane trip, then we would meet for a weekend (first weekend, you are at a hotel near me). 
*** If the first weekend went well, we continue to talk for about a month.
*** If the talking went well, we meet a second weekend (note the monthly meetings).  This second weekend you stay in the apartment I have upstairs in my home.
*** If after the second weekend we are still clicking, we continue monthly visits alternating with nice phone contact for whatever length of time feels right. 
*** If I you have been serving me and giving yourself to me for many months, and we both feel we should move forward, then you would relocate to my area. 
There are lots of 'ifs' in this journey.  I have no specific time frame in mind.
It is a journey taken slowly and one step at a time, where every step is enjoyable.  This journey is filled common sense. 
IF it works out, you would be all mine. 
If not, we would have had an amazing experience and excellent closure. 
It requires you to have the financial ability and time to travel monthly for a three day weekend. 
If you live a great distance from Philadelphia and cannot fulfill these requirements, then you are not the gent for me. 


4/6/2007 10:49:45 AM


In his first message to me, a gent wrote of his desires and needs.  I understand this, since so many men are accustomed to professional dommes.  In a relationship with a pro, she is really serving your needs and you are paying her.  When you are accustomed to this type of interaction, you get selfish.  You tend to talk about your needs too soon and too often. 
If you seek a REAL multi-dimentional relationship, this is backward.  You do not send a lady an email full of your desires and demands. In a REAL relationship, you offer a lady your service.  Then if you are compatible, WHEN SHE ASKS, you tell her of your needs.  She will use this information for her pleasure and to strengthen the relationship.  Of course, a side effect of this process is delightful pleasure and ecstasy for you ... but this is only a side effect. 
Keep in mind, before emailing me, that it is your "job" to make yourself interesting and appealing to ME.  Good luck.

 


4/4/2007 10:44:42 AM

You gentlemen are so delightful.  This is a time when I needed some cheering up.  Every time I went to my computer, there were always messages for me at CM.com!  Why do I need cheering up?  You see, I actually found him.  I found the submissive gent who could appreciate both the lioness & the kitten within me.  Alas, life has it's twists and turns.  This gent is coping with a great loss in his life that makes him unavailable to me.  Yet, knowing that I found someone like him once, gives me continued faith that I shall find the right gent (who is available to me) again. 
I am still seeking only one gent to be my own, however, I appreciate that so many of you want to be considered.  I wish good luck to all of us. Life is filled with possibilities.  I do so enjoy my optimism!


11/22/2006 10:51:41 AM

To the serious gents who seek a REAL woman to have a REAL relationship:  I will honor you with some advice and teaching.  I will tell you of an important book to assist you when you wish to be chosen by the lady who has captured your attention.

I know this is a vanilla book... I know it is written by a lay person... however, I believe it is an important book for every submissive gent who is seeking a REAL relationship.

IF you want the whole thing - a D/s relationship AND a full interpersonal relationship too, this is my recommendation: Read He's Just Not That Into You.  Then when you choose how to treat your lady, ACT in ways to show you ARE THAT INTO HER. 
Even if you are being a good boy and letting her lead, you can message her of your interest and your attraction.  It is up to YOU to let her know that you ARE that into her ... or she will select a candidate who is.
You should be honored that I take this time to teach you.  You are welcome.
Good luck.
LadyD.
(... smiling at the good boys who are candidates for the plum role of co-star in my life)


11/3/2006 11:07:26 AM

Whew!  I am writing a book, running a business, teaching classes, and ten more things ... "Calgon take me away!"

Oh, dear, might you be Calgon?

I need my bath drawn and my back massaged.


10/20/2006 1:13:35 PM

A gent from another continent asked me if I wanted to chat.  My answer to him was true in general ... so I am adding it to my journal: --

I seek a real relationship, not play or chatting online.  I only message online to see if we should talk by phone.  I talk to see if we should meet.  We meet to see if we should spend some weekends together over time.  We have weekends as we explore the possiblility of relocation and eventual LTR. 

If you would like to be considered by me, then think about the following:  Are you open to a long distance relationship and then eventual relocation?  If so, read my profile and follow the directions in the last paragraph. If not, there is no point in chatting. 

Good luck and I hope you find what you seek.  LadyD.


8/27/2006 4:30:31 AM

Saying ‘hello’ (an example of my style, not a specific event) …

I have offered you a “weekend rental position”.  You are visiting my town monthly and we are enjoying substantial phone contact.  You are here this weekend.  You arrive on Friday evening and knock on my door with anticipation.  I open the door, order you in, and command you to disrobe down to your G-string … then you may kiss my hand and get me my cup of tea. 
I do enjoy the look of you serving me my tea.  No, it is more than that.  My heart changes as you serve me.  Over time my affection for you grows with each service you provide.  My appetite for you grows.  I will savor my hunger and let it build.  I delight in wanting you, and knowing I shall take you soon. 

I voice my appreciation by allowing you to get a beverage for yourself and sit on the cushion at my feet as we talk and settle in.


6/9/2006 5:37:35 AM

I am independent and I know myself well.  I seek a relationship where I can feel my hunger for my gent.  I want the right man in my life who will respect me, and who’s primary goal in our relationship is to please me.  I want to lead us both into a satisfying relationship that contributes to both of our lives.

In order for us to find each other, I have posted my profile here.  Now it is your job to pursue me.  If you want me to know you are interested, then politely, persistently, pursue me.  (If I ascertain we are not a good match, I will tell you, and you should respect my decision.)  If I give you my attention communicating with you, then you should show yourself to me.  Write messages to me that show me who you are.  Communicate.  Tell me why you are attracted to me.  Tell me what you have to offer me.  Court me.  You are auditioning for the plum role of co-starring with me in my life!


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 Age: 27
 Memphis, Tennessee