"The last of all human freedoms is the ability to choose one's own attitude in any set of circumstances." Victor Frankl, nazi concentration camp survivor.

Very interesting and true.

“The pejorative term Machiavellian as it is used today (or anti-Machiavellism as it was used from the sixteenth century) is thus a misnomer, as it describes one who deceives and manipulates others for gain; whether the gain is personal or not is of no relevance, only that any actions taken are only important insofar as they affect the results”.

Power and control lies not necessarily in the exercise of such, but maybe in the restraint of such and knowing when to use them.

One does not have to be self destructive in order to discover oneself.

Labels:

Often times someone calls themselves a “sub/slave or a Dom/Master.  However, the label does not make the sub/slave or the Dom/Master.  If the core values are not there for either, especially the Dominant/Master, then they are just a glorified pimp.  In addition, the sub/slave is de-valued to a cheap whore.  Not valued property.

In my conversations or chat with some subs it is as if they seek a “manual” on how to be a submissive, like a parent requesting a manual on how to raise a child.  The mark of a true Dominant/Master is how he molds and shapes that sub/slaves to be his submissive, like a painting a masterpiece and not like a generic one size fits all.

After all a Dominant is “The Master” that is creating a piece of art for all to admire.  To building a relationship with his art so it becomes “one” with the Master.  That is what Dominance and submission is all about.

Sometimes there is “fantasy” and there is “reality” and many times we blur the lines, or get stuck, because the line can be very thin.  The result is fear that cripples us and then we hide behind the walls as if we confronted the enemy and discovered it is us.

Here is what we seek, ultimately:
http://www.thejoymovie.com/
Be at one with the universe.

Values

A sub/slave without “values” is worthless to a Dom/Master and is toxic.  Such sub/slave cannot be taught “values”, they can be trained to perform tricks to please and serve, but, what makes the sub/slave valuable is the ‘values that they bring to the table.  Values such as trust, loyalty, respect is part of the submission and if the submission does not contain such core values, then what does the sub/slave brings to the table?  

Just as a submissive cannot be train to be submissive as the sub brings those qualities to the D/s, or M/s relationship.  Saying “I am submissive” does not make you a sub.  What the Dom/Master does is to enhance those qualities to make the submissive valuable and worthy.

Without ‘values” the sub/slaves is just a taker and just sucks the” life energy” out of the Dom/Master. The sub/slave is worse than a “whore” who takes and gives nothing in return, which is contrary to the concept of ‘submissiveness” and disrespect the lifestyle.

Relationship:

An interpersonal relationship is a relatively long-term association between two or more people.  This association may be based on emotions like love and liking and some type of social commitment, or mutual agreement.

A relationship is normally viewed as a connection between two individuals, such as in D/s, Master/slave etc.

All relationships involve some level of interdependence.  People in a relationship tend to influence each other, share their thoughts and feelings, trust, and engage in activities together.  Because of this interdependence, anything that changes or impacts one member of the relationship will have some level of impact on the other member.

So in the final analysis, when the decisions are made,  the priority is on the impact of the individuals involved.  The sub/slave trusts the Dom/Master to make those choices and decisions that are positive for the relationship.  Sometimes the sub/slave seeks to violate the mutual agreement and does not consider the impact of the violation of the agreement as they continue to satisfy their own needs and not the needs of the individuals in the relationship.

There is a difference between mutual agreement and manipulation. Manipulation tends to sever that connection between the sub/slave and teh Dom/Master.

I was listening to Sirius satellite today on their comedy station, and the comedian asks the following: "How does a blind person know when to stop wiping his ass?”  Well it got me thinking, the same thing about when we say we are "submissive, a slave heart or Dom" How do we know what we are, or when we become one, and when are we finish being?
Just thinking , and no offense to visually impaired.

 Well, I finally made it to the Woodshed in Orlando and was very impressed.  The place was clean, large and the people were very friendly.  They will need a large space eventually.  The staff was very nice and I had an enjoyable time.  I did not get to see the Zoo play as I got there too late, but spent the rest of the night just observing and meeting others.  Definitely recommend a visit.  There are lots of equipment and a nice warm atmosphere.  And I can say that I am glad I did not listen to some of the incorrect information about the place.  I always believe that you should do your own research and investigation, before jumping to conclusions

The central themes of the Euthyphro and the Crito are 'essence ness and the nature of things.'  By discovering the essence of something, you are discovering the truth about it.  Plato believed that the “the unexamined life is not worth living”. He believed that you must examine everything and everyone to know the truth of what it is.  According to Plato, you cannot simply know that a balloon is a balloon.  Before you can understand a balloon you must first understand ballooness.  In both the Crito and the Euthyphro, the main themes focus on finding the truth or nature of everything. "   

I have often wondered about individuals who advertise themselves or products and get offended when you look or inquire. For example, I often see those women scantly clad, excessive cleavage, nothing to the imagination, and so their manner of dress gets your attention. However, they get offended when you are hypnotized into looking at what they offer.  They expect you to be illusive about your stare and then they become self-conscious. The question begs to be asked then why did you dress like that? It almost seems that many people live in a “fantasy world” that they place themselves up for display, but you cannot look.

Like some of the profiles listed, and then when you checkout the possibilities, of acquiring the product, re: sub/slave, the ad is false or misleading. If your ad states a condition such as “willing to relocate”, then the terms should be stated.

It is not enough to post, unless you expect to be displayed, and if your ad is such that you “hypnotize” all that see it then you should be prepared and your responses should be gentle and diplomatic. Often time we forget common courtesies. 

The lifestyle we chose did not discard common courtesies.

At what point do you stop "to fear", at what point do you step off the sidewalk? Life is for the living, and if you do not take risks, then ask yourself, are you truly living, or just ???

To hide behind the keyboard and not disclose your intention of not being real is dishonest. To not keep your word is deceitful. To give no expalnation for your lack of action or commitment is disrespectful and does not make you worthy, regardless of your role.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step. You cannot move forward until you make that step.

I continue to be facinated by the demands of subs who consider themselves so worthy that they demand instead of earning "ownership, or being Collared". The question is should not the sub/slave earn their Master's ownership and collar?

“I believe that hope, along with faith and love, are essential to love.  Hope is what you do when you have no control.  But a strategy is made up of actions and tactics that convert visions to results for those that can make things happen”.  …  The title was chosen to accentuate the difference between positive attitudes and positive actions and the flaw of counting on one without the other”.

If you ever decide that you want to (truly)change what is happening to you, and accept my help/advise I would be willing help. But you have to want it and it is not begging.