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Fetishist into control and positive change, with a stable life, good imagination, and sense of humor. I look for closeness in relationships, experiment, and style -- I'm not afraid, I think big, and I love projects.
About projects: vintage clothing is pleasurable to search for, look upon, touch. I see building a wardrobe and costuming as erotic, fun pursuits for both. Making a home together with period furniture would take long, happy years.
I was raised Jewish, but am not religious, and work in software -- an unconventional use for degrees in Roman History and Latin. I'm perverse, but highly ethical, and require an emotional connection to feel sexual attraction. INFP. I eat healthy and live clean. My vices are strictly sexual: I manage money well, don't gamble, smoke, or use drugs, seldom drink, and am a believer in effective exercise.
I lead one group and participate in and support many others in my local and regional BDSM and leather communities. This is my chosen family.
I'm here to be myself, connect with others, and help where I can. I identify as both daddy and owner. LTD stands for "Listen to Daddy".
My vanilla interests
Anything British, arch, understated. Paleo. Vietnamese & Thai food, Japan (lived there a while), travel in Asia and Europe, whitewater rafting, cats, vintage cocktails & barware, Belgian beer, RPGs and strategy gaming, word games, NPR, old samurai films, and Victorian furniture. My favorite authors are P.G. Wodehouse, John LeCarre, Kyril Bonfiglioli, Agatha Christie, and H.P. Lovecraft, and although their audiobooks and NPR podcasts are what's been on for the last several years, I've begun re-discovering music by catching up on my favorite band, TMBG.
Also, my chili's pretty good and I do a mean spinach-gorgonzola lasagna.
What I'm looking for socially
Events, friendship, dating and possibly more.
I attend events to meet people and learn. If I like someone, I want to get to know them and see where it could go, and I don't mean to which piece of dungeon furniture. I'm not drawn to toys, though if we want to spend time together with our clothes on to figure out who we can be, that may require equipment.
Ownership and fetish are what animate this for me. Responsibility, love, nurturing, and humiliation are one drive. I enjoy OTK spanking, but owning your dignity means more to me than hitting your body. I don't believe that physical punishment is the best way to encourage growth, and am not a sadist at heart, though I find some types of SM play gratifying for other reasons and can more than meet you halfway -- farther, if you show genuine delight in it.
What I'm looking for in a relationship
Total ownership (TPE) and a shared, fun, unusual life, full of travel, friendship, learning, and the rewards of good planning. I've read, made my lists, and put my house in order so that someone I like a great deal can leave all the decisions to me without sacrificing her personality. I'm not into adversarial M/s or keeping my girl chained to the wall. Read my fetish list, add me as a friend, and say hi. If you see me as a potential daddy and owner for you, your petition starts with talking our lives, desires, and availability, sharing our true selves, so that we can know what it would really look like for us, and when. I will provide affection, growth, guidance, and structure to a remarkable person and be gladly obeyed in return. I do not pursue other forms of relationships, but I am patient, and the future's a big place -- if we don't work now, I'd be glad to grow our friendship, instead.
Speaking of "if we don't work now", while I'm open to non-local partners interested in relocation, that means meeting within 6 weeks, then setting a timeline.
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| Age: 34 |
| Near Berlin,
Germany |
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