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I am a writer, employed full time in the legal field, and a dominant female. I find that I have little time and no inclination to "date" in the conventional sense, and my desires are not mainstream anyway. The lifestyle offers the closest fit to what I want, and I am done trying to compromise my desires/needs/wants in order to fit into a vanilla/conventional relationship. I am very specific about what I am seeking, so unless you are truly seeking the same thing, please don't waste my time or yours. I am looking for a live-in male servant - not a mindless drone or a slave, but someone with intellect whose will is freely given to and subject to the service of another. Think ancient times when a person would have a loyal body slave or a loyal house servant who personally looked after his mistress's needs, presided over the orderly running of the household, kept track of paperwork and such for his mistress, cared for and looked after the well-being of his mistress to allow her time to pursue her more important responsibilities. The servant anticipated his mistress's needs and wants, showed initiative in his duties so that the mistress did not always need to spell out every little instruction, and was at all times intelligently mindful of his place in the household. The servant did not need to be beaten into submission, and in fact had few needs beyond that of being useful and doing a good job. Pride in the service was its own reward, and a servant was proud to serve. There could be fulfilling relationships between a mistress and a servant, but the servant never forgot his place, rarely needed to be reminded to watch his conduct, and was respectful and submissive at all times. There was no humiliation, the servant was not needy of attention - the servant was well-adjusted and comfortable being what he was, and in doing a good job and serving well, could earn the pride and praise of his mistress. The mistress had as much respect for the servant who performed well, as the servant had for his mistress. The ideal servant can be otherwise employed, but employment is not necessary. What *is* necessary is that the servant come to me with no prior debt, no criminal record, no outstanding warrants, no history of drug or substance abuse, and in relatively good health. The servant must have his own hobbies to occupy his mind during free time, must be intellectually engaged, must be able to recognize and never cross the line between servant and mistress while still being able to respectfully speak his mind when appropriate. He must be capable of voicing his needs, must be honest at all times, must maintain his body and mind, and must demonstrate impeccable hygiene. He must also be fully aware of the lifestyle, he must want to live 24/7 in the lifestyle, and he must be committed to a situation such as that described above. Previous experience in the lifestyle is strongly preferred. He should be largely self-disciplined, should not require correction on a regular basis, and must not act out for attention. He will get the attention that he has earned, and that I choose to give. Correction and punishment for misdeeds should be the exception rather than the norm - he must not purposefully act out, break things, or fail to adequately perform his duties just so that he can "earn" a punishment. I find that kind of behavior tiresome and off-putting, and it is not the kind of submission that I am seeking. A servant should be willing and driven to serve well of his own will and wanting. If he feels the need for punishment, correction, or pain, he must voice that need, explain himself, and if applicable, confess his transgressions. As for the sexual aspect of it, I myself am largely asexual - I do not derive physical pleasure from sexual contact with another, so the primary relationship between myself and a servant would not be sexual. That said, I do enjoy playing, and I enjoy giving sexual pleasure as a reward when I feel it is earned. I enjoy wielding that power over another - to be able to bring someone to the brink and then, if I choose, not allow the release. Sex is a game that I enjoy, and it has a great many uses. I am not disgusted by sex - quite the opposite - I find it fascinating, and compelling - I even write erotic fiction under several pen-names. I simply derive no enjoyment at being a recipient in sexual situations, and the ideal servant will understand and accept this hard limit. I am not currently active in the Cleveland BDSM scene, and have not been active in a BDSM community for over a decade. I would like to explore it again and meet with others who live the lifestyle, attend munches and play parties, socialize with like-minded people again, etc. In these settings, I would of course want to show off my very well-behaved servant, and as I am a bit possessive, he can expect to be collared in those settings to ensure that no one touches without permission. Even so, remember that full-on consensual slavery is not what I am looking for. After a trial period to ensure that both parties are happy with the situation, it can be made permanent, at which time I will provide for all basic needs - housing, food, clothing, etc. If the servant is not otherwise employed, healthcare can be discussed and arranged as well, depending on the situation agreed upon. **Must be cat-friendly. If it comes down to a choice between the servant and the cat, the cat wins.

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PussiAnalWorship
 
 Age: 25
 Coming to London, Slovakia