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Well... I am warm and bubbly, fun, outgoing, intelligent, genuine, open minded, adventurous, cultured and well traveled. I am incredibly affectionate and very tactile ( especially after a couple drinks oops)... Im a bit of a paradox, incredibly open minded and sexual but I am not casual about my sexuality. I love exploring and learning about new cultures. I take great pleasure in taking care of and helping others its just how I am wired I guess. I love animals, and volunteer with a rescue. I am family oriented and in general a good girl. I try to surround myself with intelligent and interesting people that I can learn from. Ive been an equestrian my whole life (competitively most of it) and I love riding, I also used to play polo. I practice yoga, play tennis, ski, love the beach, hike, snorkeling, and love film (Im a bit of a cinephile).

I am submissive but Im not your typical.stereotypical idea of what that means. I am confident and alpha in my life and interactions and am only submissive to my partner. Men seem to expect that anyone who identifies as submissive will automatically drop to their knees, and begin taking order.. That may be true for some people but I feel that devalues my gift of submission to my partner. Submission is earned not just given. The major appeal with submission for me is control, not having it is incredibly freeing and cathartic to me. Im highly analytical so not being in control and getting out of my own head is amazing for me. There is a certain freedom in not making any decision. Apart from control service, both sexually and domestically are a big part my submission. I am culinarily skilled and I love cooking. I take pride in my domestic abilities. I believe in traditional gender roles, I find solace traditionally female activities. I am a girly girl, I love to dress up and I work to be put together. Im a natural pleaser, not just in the sexual sense but overall. I love making people happy. I would love to find someone who is also a foodie, and can appreciate good wine and bourbon too. I try to live a healthy lifestyle but cooking for someone who wont ever eat a carbgraindairy can be a bit trying.

I dont have any specific fetishes per se, there are certain activities that Im more drawn to and others Im certainly not interested in. Im still figuring things out where my experience is still limited but I do know where my limits are pee, blood, scat, hard pain or impact play, fisting, rimming or anything bodily damaging. I am as far from a masochist as possible. I like to play rough but I dont like pain for the sake of pain. I enjoy control based activities such as breath play and bondage. Pretty much Im still a mostly blank canvas looking for the right partner to help me develop and become whom I am meant to be.

I prefer more experienced partners, Ive generally dated older and have no interest in anyone under 30. Physical attraction is important but most important is a mental and intellectual connection. In an ideal world Im looking for the holy grail eventually a 247 1950s style dynamic with the twist of Ds relationship that is happy and healthy. I am monogamous and that is non negotiable. I want to add Im not looking for anything online only or anything long distance for the long term. If we have mutual interest and youre not local I would want to establish a proactive plan to meet in person and then eventually be in the same location in a reasonable time period. Im not looking for a penpal, or kinky phone chat. This is my life and very real to me.

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4/2/2018 6:31:00 AM
I turned 34 on Thursday and I am back here... sigh.

9/19/2017 6:22:43 AM
Some girls get all of the luck... sethweinstein on 9/18/17 at 9:27 AM: LMFAO, like I give a fuck about what a lame loser like you thinks? Just shows how fake you really are: you know deep down inside that ughly, frankenstein-like smile that you are nothing, you actually hate yourself, but are too weak to admit, you are a total joke.. sethweinstein on 9/18/17 at 9:23 AM: Fuck you asshole sethweinstein on 9/18/17 at 9:22 AM: My father was a thoroughbred trainer...and I learned to ride as a child from a woman who went on to become the head coach of the Olympic Dressage Team.. You project a very self-centered, egotistical narcissistic selfish image...superficial...not a nice person....don't respond back unless you do it with a contrite and humble heart, askimg for guidance--I don't waste my time with fake, manipulative assholes, prove me wrong, come correct. .

6/17/2017 10:13:25 AM
You give me hope...

5/30/2017 5:28:22 AM
Lovely message of the day, and his user name started with Romance haha Dated: 5/30/17 8:24 AM Jesus. What a SKANK! Those lame pics are SO old! Go talk to your husband, whore. Bored? Get off your fat ass and get a JOB!

4/2/2017 1:29:36 PM
Keeping it classy CS! From: (Ask if you want the user name to block) Dated: 4/2/17 4:21 PM Nice decades-old pics. Fat whore...

3/29/2017 4:10:30 AM
Officially starting my 33rd year of life today! Happy birthday to me, now off to enjoy it!

2/8/2017 7:16:15 AM
Lovely, lovely sad old men. Sigh. I am unfortunately not allowed to post this pig's username but please ask me so you can block him as well. Dated: 2/8/17 10:08 AM You get uglier and older with every pic. The pics get blurrier, too! Go talk to your husband, you pointless whore...

1/10/2017 4:03:03 AM
Last night's new recipe was a success and very healthy! Oven roasted chicken thighs, Brussels sprouts with bacon and Fuji apples, and Israeli couscous with mushrooms and spinach! I wish I could post photos in here.

12/25/2016 5:09:49 AM
All I wanted for Christmas was a good Dom, but he isn't under my tree. Maybe santa is running late?

12/23/2016 7:03:11 AM
Time to put it all out there and own my kink/preferences... I am ideally seeking a hybrid of a Daddy Dom who also wants a 1950's dynamic.

12/22/2016 7:39:49 AM
My iPhone which I upraded a couple months ago decided to go swimming last night and since I am dumb I didn't get insurance on it. I really don't want to pay cost for a new phone. Apparently my lovely roommate decided to throw out my 6 and other phones while decluttering. Fuck.

12/7/2016 7:02:02 AM
I think people need to look up the meaning of the word "alpha" almost every man on here seems to label himself as an alpha male. I would say less than 10% of the population are alpha males. Just because you can be dominant in bed or you feel you are superior that does not make you alpha. I am sure similar can be said for the women on here though I am not on that end.

8/17/2016 7:39:36 AM
Since I receieve so many messages that begin with or contain "you seem so great, why are you still on here?!" Or some variation of that. So I decided I will make a list of my flaws to clear that up for everyone haha.. I can be needy, I like a lot of attention I am highly analytical and I can get caught up in my head, I have a tendency to over think. I am very hard on myself, especially physically. I know I am a cute girl but through bad relationships and medical BS I have a tendency to really self critique. I can get jealous, it is part of human nature. I have to keep beating people over the head with the fact that I am monogamous, I could never handle sharing a partner nor do I have desire to. I can be sensitive even though I try to act like a tough cookie. I care what people think of me to a degree at least.

3/29/2016 7:02:07 AM
It's my BIRTHDAY! Ugh 32 though. Well at least I get today off, a spa day, nice dinner and out with friends!

1/8/2016 7:01:15 AM
I made gumbo for the first time ever yesterday, I knew it was time consuming but it was like an all day event! I wish I could post photos in here. It was a shrimp, andouille sausage and chicken gumbo. Amazing. I made my stock with the chicken bones and wings and browning the shrimp shells. Making a brown roux for gumbo is serious business. Per usual I have so much left because cooking for my roommate and I doesn't require that much.

11/13/2015 6:52:48 AM
People get so nasty when you don't respond to their message: plant2lips on 11/13/15 at 9:43 AM: wow its amazing how any1 can be this uneducated that all they can be is a stupid cunt

11/12/2015 5:39:23 AM
BDSM TEST RESULTS (Kind of surprising) == Results from == 99% Submissive 99% Girl/Boy 94% Ageplayer 89% Rope Bunny 87% Degradee 84% Exhibitionist 83% Slave 67% Voyeur 60% Primal (Prey) 50% Experimentalist 41% Vanilla 38% Brat 25% Pet 15% Non-monogamist 7% Masochist 2% Daddy/Mommy 1% Degrader 1% Owner 0% Dominant 0% Sadist 0% Master/Mistress 0% Rigger 0% Brat Tamer 0% Primal (Hunter) 0% Switch

9/4/2015 1:19:59 AM
"Come to me whole: with your flaws, your scars and everything you consider imperfect. Then let me show you what I see. I see galaxies in your eyes and fire in your hair. I see journeys in your palms and adventure waiting in your smile. I see what you cannot: you are absolutely, maddeningly, irrevocably perfect."

8/23/2015 7:10:28 PM
Men of Cm or CS whatever we are now this is why you're single : SexyRugbyPlayer you fat tub, the fabric on your dress is screaming !!!

8/22/2015 6:39:28 PM
Wow. Watched the first episode of Masters of Sex, the super conservative wife calls him Daddy multiple times.

6/18/2015 5:32:04 PM
?The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.? --- Eleanor Roosevelt

6/17/2015 4:15:34 AM
?I don't want to repeat my innocence. I want the pleasure of losing it again.? --- F. Scott Fitzgerald

6/16/2015 8:05:13 AM
?I fell in love with her courage, her sincerity, and her flaming self respect. And it's these things I'd believe in, even if the whole world indulged in wild suspicions that she wasn't all she should be. I love her and it is the beginning of everything.? --- F. Scott Fitzgerald

6/15/2015 6:43:42 AM
?I am a forest, and a night of dark trees: but he who is not afraid of my darkness, will find banks full of roses under my cypresses.? --- Friedrich Nietzsche

6/9/2015 7:17:56 AM
?Perhaps when we find ourselves wanting everything, it is because we are dangerously close to wanting nothing.? --- Sylvia Plath ?She was ready to deny the existence of space and time rather than admit that love might not be eternal.? --- Simone de Beauvoir

5/25/2015 9:05:43 AM
?And in the end, we were all just humans.. drunk on the idea that love, only love, could heal our brokenness.? --- F. Scott Fitzgerald

5/19/2015 4:27:22 AM
"I don't want to go to heaven. None of my friends are there.?

5/18/2015 5:17:40 AM
?The truth is rarely pure and never simple.? --- Oscar Wilde "You will always be fond of me. I represent to you all the sins you never had the courage to commit.? --- Oscar Wilde

5/7/2015 9:09:31 AM
? Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future.? --- Oscar Wilde

1/11/2015 10:07:10 AM
?Everyone has talent. What's rare is the courage to follow it to the dark places where it leads.? --- Erica Jong

12/19/2014 5:37:16 AM
I'm quoting myself today, as my belief in monogamy gets me constantly questioned and insulted. This was my recent response to one such recent interaction telling me that it's a "shame" I'm monogamous: "Monogamy isn't a shame, it's a virtue."

12/17/2014 10:49:11 PM
After talking to my friend I'm a bit nostalgic. There are so many disappointments and unpleasant surprises. I was thinking of my ex and how he would play with my hair while he sat reading Hemingway to me. I am afraid I'll never capture that calm, comfort or security again. It was far from an ideal relationship but certain things just put you at peace.

12/4/2014 4:45:40 AM
Chemistry is a funny thing.. We can't rely singularly on physical attraction, though as much as we all love pretend it doesn't matter there needs to be some degree of it for a physical/sexual/romantic connection. I've also met people who are good looking that I'm not physically attracted to, and haven't been able to put my finger on why. I know for me an intellectual attraction and connection is essential, it's even made people become more attractive as whole to me. In life, not just in relationships I look for and try to surround myself with people who I can learn from. I find this is especially true as far as what I want in a dominant partner. I am looking for someone who can lead so experience, knowledge and the ability to lead are all important factors. As shallow or silly as it may sound I couldn't submit to someone who wasn't at least my intellectual equal. I find this point particularly confirmed when I receive the plethora of inarticulate and grammatically horrific messages. I do consider myself sapiosexual so when someone approaches me to start dialogue with the equivalent of a lazy teenage girl's texting doesn't do it for me. My final point is my need for some tradition in my life. I've had people try to correct me when I've referred to prior Doms as boyfriends, but the truth is they have been also my boyfriend. I do not believe that because I am submissive I have to give up having aspects of a more "traditional" relationship. I still want and expect fidelity, honesty, affection and kindness from my partner. On the other hand I don't see what is more traditional than a male lead relationship, it worked for thousands of years. The problem now being: can I find all of this in one person? I've come very close, and I've thought that I had in prior relationships. I personally do not have a kink "must have" check list, which I think makes me a bit more flexible. I certainly have things I do enjoy quite a bit but nothing I would be miserable without if everything else worked. I think for me it's more my limits that are, well limiting.

11/27/2014 7:44:48 AM
Since I've received this question/email already fifty times today, I've been cooking since six am and did some things yesterday... Predation and structure is key. Bourbon pecan pie , homemade cranberry sauce , and caramel apple pie crisp pie (made yesterday) The turkey is in the oven rubbed with a herbed compound butter and stuffed with rosemary , garlic cloves and lemons. Stuffing is made. I cook some in a big casserole and then some in muffin tins for later use (the top is super crispy and inside soft). So next: hors d'oeuvres (stuffed mushrooms with cheddar and bacon, bacon wrapped goat cheese stuffed dates, goat cheese stuffed zucchini rolls, deviled eggs, prosciutto wrapped melon balls)... Then some prep for the sides (prosciutto wrapped asparagus, maple cinnamon cider delicata squash, bacon Pecorino Romano roasted Brussels sprouts, garlic herb mashed potatoes, and buttermilk biscuits and gravy.)

11/26/2014 4:25:50 AM
Let the thanksgiving prep cooking commence! Two days of cooking, and if couldn't be happier.

11/24/2014 6:39:58 PM
"I could make the bad guys good for a weekend.."

11/23/2014 5:44:26 PM
I lose my respect for the man who can make the mystery of sex the subject of a coarse jest, yet when you speak earnestly and seriously on the subject, is silent.

9/23/2014 8:29:19 PM
"One must choose in life between boredom and suffering." --- Madame de Stael

8/21/2014 4:40:37 AM
"If you expect nothing from anybody, you?re never disappointed." --- Sylvia Plath

8/16/2014 6:43:34 AM
Does starting off with a message insulting someone ever work out for you people? Approaching someone or opening your message with rude vile comments is not an effective method of communication with when you're dealing with anyone with even an ounce of self worth.

8/12/2014 5:50:37 AM
?If they substituted the word 'Lust' for 'Love' in the popular songs it would come nearer the truth.? --- Sylvia Plath

8/6/2014 7:38:11 AM
Disappointment, heart ache and being lied to hurts just as much the hundredth time as it does the first time. Being lied to is more painful that an undesirable admission of the truth. That's it I am adopting another cat and calling it a day.

This does not mean I am looking. This doesn't mean it's open season to send me crude or pushy messages. I am not looking.

7/29/2014 6:14:39 AM
"'ll fall in love with me all over again." "Hell," I said, "I love you enough now. What do you want to do? Ruin me?" "Yes. I want to ruin you." "Good," I said. "That's what I want too." Ernest Hemingway -- A Farewell to Arms

7/28/2014 1:58:10 PM
" I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz, or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off. I love you as certain dark things are to be loved, in secret, between the shadow and the soul. I love you as the plant that never blooms but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers; thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance, risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body. I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way than this: where I does not exist, nor you, so close that your hand on my chest is my hand, so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep. " --- Pablo Neruda

7/24/2014 5:50:55 AM
"Being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure.." --- Bob Marley

7/17/2014 6:49:04 AM
“When we can't dream any longer we die." --- Emma Goldman

7/10/2014 7:19:34 AM
?Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.? --- Oscar Wilde

6/12/2014 7:26:46 AM
My first attempt at paleo coconut pancakes this morning and they came out perfect! I served them with organic peaches I cut up mixed with honey and cinnamon and grilled on my grill pan. Grain free and gluten free healthy and yummy! Recipe: 4 eggs 1 cup coconut milk 2 teaspoons vanilla extract 1 tablespoon raw local honey 1 teaspoon cinnamon 1/2 cup coconut flour 1 teaspoon baking soda 1/2 teaspoon Mediterranean sea salt coconut oil for frying Heat up your pan melt coconut oil. Mix together ingredients, and then ladle batter on to pan. Cook for a few minutes flip and then enjoy! I topped mine with a little honey and the peaches!

6/2/2014 4:54:32 AM
Gorgeous day at the beach and out on the water/on the boat.. Got a great tan, but managed to burn more sensitive parts on the boat sans bathing suit.

5/20/2014 7:21:26 AM
Last nights chili was ridiculous and spicy.. This morning I br? a grapefruit with stevia... So fucking amazing. I wish I could post a photo in my journal :(

5/19/2014 12:49:30 PM
Trying out a new recipe tonight: Bison and spicy chorizo chili (paleo friendly) This is a recipe I just came up with so far it smells and tastes amazing.. I am happy to share the recipe :) we shall see how it tastes tonight.

5/18/2014 5:04:45 AM
I love my Sundays because they're ritualistic, they are my domestic day: Wake up Start laundry Begin cleaning Change laundry Finish cleaning Meal Planning for the week Grocery list Shower Grocery shopping Put away finish laundry Big Sunday dinner Relax with wine

5/16/2014 5:13:29 AM
" I wish more men would post graphic photos of their dicks and message me with cock shots! " --- Said no girl ever! Really guys....

5/14/2014 7:12:06 AM
I feel that I'm at a crossroad in my life. I can't have everything I feel I need. It seems to be one of two major components that seem so necessary I need to decide between. I can either have the sense of normalcy in my life that makes me happy. Someone who can interact with my friends and family, that I can realistically be with and share vanilla interests with everyday. With that I let go of my needs as a submissive.. Or I can fill that void for a dominant partner as a submissive and miss out on so much that I love about my life and the great things that make me so happy. " In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing. " --- Theodore Roosevelt

5/13/2014 11:53:46 AM
The more people I interact with, the more I love animals.

5/11/2014 7:44:06 AM
Happy Mother's Day to all of the amazing Moms out there! I'm certainly blessed to have the best Momma I know!

5/2/2014 6:46:52 PM
" How can I be useful, of what service can I be? There is something inside me, what can it be? " --- Vincent Van Gogh

5/2/2014 11:14:56 AM
" I desire the things that will destroy me in the end. " --- Sylvia Plath

5/1/2014 7:14:37 AM
Maybe we got lost in translation, maybe I asked for too much, And maybe this thing was a masterpiece 'til you tore it all up. Running scared, I was there, I remember it all too well. Hey, you call me up again just to break me like a promise. So casually cruel in the name of being honest.

4/30/2014 8:18:23 AM
" His was a great sin who first invented consciousness. Let us lose it for a few hours. " --- F. Scott Fitzgerald

4/29/2014 4:04:29 PM
" Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives. " --- C. S. Lewis

4/28/2014 6:46:12 AM
" Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease only at death. " --- Albert Einstein

4/27/2014 6:23:28 AM
"Honestly, I don't need someone who sees the good in me. I need someone who sees the bad in me and still wants me."

4/26/2014 5:57:14 AM
"Sex pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken. " --- Simone de Beauvoir

4/24/2014 6:04:27 AM
"I tore myself away from the safe comfort of certainties through my love for truth - and truth rewarded me." --- Simone de Beauvoir

4/23/2014 4:37:35 PM
"Yes, I was infatuated with you: I am still. No one has ever heightened such a keen capacity of physical sensation in me. I cut you out because I couldn't stand being a passing fancy. Before I give my body, I must give my thoughts, my mind, my dreams. And you weren't having any of those.? --- Sylvia Plath

4/22/2014 5:31:24 PM
?I'll be anything you want, just tell me what you want and I'll be that.?

4/21/2014 10:46:05 AM
" Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." --- Leo Tolstoy

4/7/2014 5:46:23 PM
Trying to watch Game of Thrones, I'm way behind on episode 3 of the first season. Soooo not okay. Too many people, very confusing.

4/7/2014 5:24:18 AM
Have you seen the video of Jon Hamm from a 90's dating show? Not so great at 25, but extremely sexy at 43 now. Some things get better with age, this is why I like older men.

4/6/2014 5:35:22 AM
?The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman without the intention of loving her.? --- Bob Marley

4/5/2014 6:06:05 PM
"I ain't sayin' you treated me unkind, you could have done better but I don't mind. You just kinda wasted my precious time but don't think twice, it's all right" --- Dylan

4/4/2014 9:05:40 AM
"The cruelest thing of all is false hope."

3/31/2014 2:15:20 PM
"Don?t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.? --- Rumi

3/31/2014 8:29:01 AM
Feeling crappy, and bad weather after a rough weekend.. Spending my Monday tying up loose ends and watching my favorite movie on the couch with a heating pad.

3/29/2014 8:51:44 AM
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. " ---Ralph Waldo Emerson

3/29/2014 5:22:43 AM
So I'm not officially 30 until tonight at 8pm. I'm claiming 29 until then! I don't want to grow up.

3/28/2014 11:11:21 AM
Got a new toy for my birthday, (tomorrow is the big 30), and it doesn't fit! It's too big. Talk about epic sex toy failure.

3/23/2014 6:18:43 AM
?Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.? --- Dr Seuss

3/21/2014 6:24:53 AM
"The true man wants two things: danger and play. For that reason he wants woman, as the most dangerous plaything." --- Friedrich Nietzsche

3/19/2014 10:09:15 AM
Red flags or being too cautious?: If you're talking to someone of interest who is out of state and he wants to be in a committed Ds relationship within two weeks. He also wants this prior to meeting and even at that prior to planning a meeting. He wants to begin training you from a distance. Then when uneasy about it but considering you google said person and his name returns nothing. No professional listing or anything in the state he claims to live and work. You give him the benefit of the doubt and ask him.. Which leads to him flipping out and calling you sneaky and a stalker.

3/18/2014 9:41:38 AM

"Kisses are a better fate than wisdom. " E.E. Cummings

3/14/2014 5:36:30 AM
From my favorite film ever.. "I think we'll just have to be secretly in love and leave it at that"

3/11/2014 2:54:41 PM
?I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.? Since I'm behind how about two quotes today

3/11/2014 7:01:21 AM
Today's Quote: ?You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.? ---Friedrich Nietzsche

3/10/2014 3:07:25 PM
Possibly cooked the best roast of my life tonight! So good!

3/9/2014 6:03:34 AM
Work event success yesterday! But I can't feel my feet today! Soooo tired...

3/7/2014 6:25:13 AM
Back to posting daily quotes: "Let infatuation pass you by. Let passion ignite your efforts. And let love slash you wide open so that you can be made new. "

3/7/2014 6:03:01 AM
Happy Friday, it's been quite the week.. It's crazy how much can happen and change in such a short amount of time. Working from home today, was able to get in an extended gym session this morning. Starting my weekend off happy, optimistic and on the right foot!

3/5/2014 5:29:51 AM
More snow really? I'm ready to expand my annual winter Caribbean vacations to spending winters in the Caribbean...

3/4/2014 2:58:40 PM
Long bad day, happy Fat Tuesday... I am getting some cocktails in me!

12/24/2013 4:56:38 AM

Happy Xmas Eve. Cooking all day, it's the Sicilian tradition of seven fish (types of seafood).

12/21/2013 7:13:00 AM

Every time that I tear a wall down and let someone in I end up having to build up higher walls. I give up.

12/13/2013 6:06:49 AM

" You write such pretty words

But life's no story book
Love's an excuse to get hurt
And to hurt
Do you like to hurt? "

12/10/2013 4:24:10 AM

When did monogamy become such a bad word? My choice to be with one person in a monogamous relationship apparently makes me a prude. Being attractive, smart, genuine, cultured,  nice and domestic mean nothing apparently. And I guess expecting my partner to not fuck anyone else makes me not submissive and topping from the bottom. 

12/1/2013 6:10:08 AM
" None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free. " --- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

11/30/2013 8:40:41 AM

Lyric perfection!

The dress is Chanel, The shoes YSL
The bag is Dior, Agent Provocateur
My address today, LA by the way
Above Sunset Strip, the hills all the way

My rings are by Webster, it makes their heads twirl
They all say, "Darling, what did you do for those pearls?"
What? I am a good girl


11/19/2013 3:59:22 PM

You may be an emotional masochist if:

you look at your ex's Facebook just to see

you notice a new girl in his profile photo so you click it

then you notice she's wearing a present (a collar ) he once gave you 


emo mode. :(

11/12/2013 2:50:02 PM

Bad news: Acute pancreatitis. Yuck.

11/12/2013 6:37:31 AM

Fire and Ice

Some say the world will end in fire,
Some say in ice.
From what I've tasted of desire
I hold with those who favor fire.
But if it had to perish twice,
I think I know enough of hate
To say that for destruction ice
Is also great
And would suffice. 

Robert Frost

11/12/2013 5:35:01 AM

No matter how old I get, whenever I'm ill I want my mom 😩. It turns me into such a little girl. I feel terrible. 

11/11/2013 5:39:55 AM

Abdominal pain, back pain and the chills. It looks like I will be going to the doctor's after work.

11/10/2013 8:23:31 AM

Holy stomach pains :( 

11/9/2013 5:08:46 AM

I love Kate Spade. Dresses and skirts all day every day!

11/6/2013 5:41:30 AM
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”  --- Bob Marley

11/6/2013 4:42:28 AM

I've started adding baby spinach to my morning smoothie it doesn't effect the taste and adds a little extra nutrition!

11/4/2013 4:32:10 AM

After 3 - like 20 hour days I'm exhausted beyond words. Yesterday I slept in, made a big sauce with meatballs, hot Italian sausage, boneless pork ribs and braciole. Took a nap, caught up on American horror story on my dvr ate dinner and then ended my night early. Even though I'm off today I still got up for my early morning training session and I'm now relaxing with a whey protein smoothie with half a banana, a drizzle of honey, almond butter and ice. 

11/1/2013 4:01:38 AM

One 18 hour day completed, starting my second work event today another 18 hour day and then just one more Saturday.. Then Sunday I'm not getting dressed and being lazy all day.

10/31/2013 12:59:44 PM

I was told I was too confident by one person and my photos were slutty by another Just today.. Welcome back to CM!

10/31/2013 8:09:05 AM

pomegranate seeds and a giant bottle of water. Power snacks. The next couple days will be insanely busy. 

Amazing game last night, possibly the best I've seen! Happy Halloween and Red Sox won the World Series day folks!

10/30/2013 5:38:28 PM

She's back! Single and a bit disheartened but back nonetheless. 

8/31/2013 5:20:08 AM
?What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.? --- Ralph Waldo Emerson

8/8/2013 6:56:33 PM
Every person I let close or trust fucks me over. I'm done I wish I didn't have to live through this.

8/8/2013 7:32:27 AM
Feeling terrible.

7/15/2013 5:18:22 AM
"Please, please, please, let me, let me, let me, let me get what I want this time." --- The Smiths

7/2/2013 4:16:11 AM
"We accept the love we a think we deserve." Why do I accept such bullshit then? I know that I bring a lot to the table yet when it comes to men and my relationships I allow myself to fall for the wrong ones. A bottle of wine and a lot of personal reflection last night has left me very sad (and with quite the headache). We all just want to be loved, appreciated, cared for and needed maybe those basic desires are too much? Maybe it just doesn't exist. I just can't keep this up any longer.

6/24/2013 6:02:02 PM
I just want to give up. I feel like an injured bird.

6/20/2013 8:29:11 AM
I attract all of the winners, sigh...

6/18/2013 6:11:10 PM
This all makes me so sad? I hate this scene and having to fake it for someone who doesn't meet my needs

6/11/2013 9:01:55 AM
Turkey chili with dark red kidney beans and black beans already cooking for dinner! I want some now not later :( First world problems haha

6/10/2013 5:00:19 PM
Mahi mahi with lime and cayenne pepper, asparagus and quinoa for dinner.

6/9/2013 2:36:49 PM
New photo, another new dress!

6/9/2013 8:11:25 AM
At the beach bright and early, got here at 8am and will likely stay until 3.. Not a bad way to spend my Sunday!

6/2/2013 12:34:16 PM
Family emergency this weekend my stress is at a 100

6/2/2013 9:54:03 AM
?Maybe all one can do is hope to end up with the right regrets.? --- Arthur Miller

5/29/2013 8:46:40 AM
Such abdominal pain out of no where but I have obligations this afternoon and evening I have to tough it out.

5/27/2013 3:37:49 PM
If you like quinoa I tried a fantastic new recipe tonight: 2 teaspoon oil, olive, extra-virgin 3 medium scallions thinly sliced 2 clove(s) garlic slivered 1 cup(s) quinoa, dry rinsed and drained 1 medium lime's zest and juice 3/4 teaspoon salt 2 cup(s) edamame, shelled, frozen 4 cup(s) spinach, baby 1/2 cup(s) parsley, fresh 1/4 cup(s) mint, fresh chopped *In a large saucepan, heat the oil over medium heat. Add the scallions and garlic and cook until the scallions wilt, about 1 minute. *Add the quinoa, lime zest, salt, and 1 1/2 cups water. Bring to a boil. Reduce the heat to a simmer, cover, and cook for 7 minutes. *Add the edamame, cover, and cook for about 5 minutes longer, until the quinoa has absorbed the liquid and the edamame are tender. *Add the spinach, parsley, mint, and stir to combine. Serve warm.

5/27/2013 11:35:34 AM
Thank you to all of those have and are serving our country.. Memorial cooking with friends and a bit indulging..

5/26/2013 6:20:17 AM
This weather is terrible and depressing! Doing laundry, cleaning and preparing linguine alle vongole (linguine in clam sauce) for dinner.

5/17/2013 8:17:37 AM
Edit! New photo now my profile photo after battling with my profile to let me change it! I love sundress season! The funny thing is I actually had to pin that dress in the back because it was way more low cut than that haha and it is still rather boob-centric. Cute spring/summer dresses make me happy!

5/11/2013 5:30:12 AM
" The only thing worse than a man you can't control, is a man you can."

5/8/2013 6:46:56 AM
"The submission of her body without love or desire is degrading to the woman's finer sensibility, all the marriage certificates on earth to the contrary notwithstanding." ---Margaret Sanger

5/7/2013 6:04:31 AM
?Sometimes it is harder to accede to a thing than it is to see its truth.? --- Friedrich Nietzche

5/5/2013 12:27:53 PM
My habanero infused tequila is ready!! Spicy Grapefruit Margaritas!

5/4/2013 8:43:52 AM
Starting May 1st I'm doing a sugar and grain free month with a few of my friends. The sugar has been much easier than the grains (I'm an Italian girl) but when I weighed myself this morning I'm down 5lbs since Wednesday! So worth the sacrifice!

5/1/2013 7:53:01 PM
Three hour marathon workout tonight: Core Pilates, spinning and then an hour with my personal trainer. My body is going to hate me tomorrow.

4/19/2013 6:00:22 AM
I've always loved my city, and have been rather against leaving it. This makes me question maybe I should look elsewhere. This week has sucked, we live in a great city. I'm so sickened, scared and saddened by all of this. We are in lockdown stuck inside while a mass murderer and terrorist is on the run.

4/18/2013 4:40:44 PM
"Don't let anyone break your heart for more than a couple of hours" --- Chelsea Handler

4/16/2013 6:32:01 AM
?There is a saying in Tibetan, 'Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength.' No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful experience is, if we lose our hope, that's our real disaster.? --- Dalai Lama XIV

4/9/2013 5:49:14 AM
Just a note to men: Think about what you out out there photograph wise and what type of women you're trying to attract or draw with them. I know it may not bother you or you may even like it to see a woman post graphic sexual photos on here but most women aren't as visual as men. Likely a close up of your cock isn't going to make her decide to talk to you. There's a line between sexy and crude. The other thing is we don't want to see photos of you banging other women. Whether it is your former sub, girlfriend , friend or what have you that's great for you but for most of us that is a major turn off. That also sets up a red flag that either maybe it isn't over or makes you think if "we" breakup down the road do I have to worry about him posting personal photos of me to attract the next girl? Maybe I'm an anomily but I am more apt to answer an email from someone who has a nice profile without photos and articulates a decent email to me than someone with hot photos and a lack of content.

4/4/2013 1:54:27 PM
Moroccan chicken ( with ginger, cinnamon, cumin, curry, pepper, garlic and cilantro) with baby carrots and couscous with sliced almonds garlic and olive oil for dinner tonight...

4/3/2013 8:57:18 AM
Back in the states! Tanned, and a year older.. It was a great trip but I'm glad to be home ... Especially because I've caught a cold traveling home and have no voice :( It was well worth it though. I love the Caribbean beaches so much, the music and people are awesome as well. I also like being able to justify having something to drink on the beach at 10 am because it's fruity and frozen ;)

3/26/2013 9:34:52 AM
Headed to the Caribbean to celebrate my birthday! Try not to miss my food blogging while I'm gone! I will be 29 on the 29th, sitting on the beach in the sun and sipping something alcoholic and fruity!

3/24/2013 12:45:12 PM
" we accept the love we think we deserve"

3/24/2013 6:56:27 AM
?You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.? --- Friedrich Nietzche

3/22/2013 2:08:02 PM
Sangria and homemade pizza! Yup, a good evening in...

3/22/2013 6:42:06 AM
"You don't have a Soul. You are a Soul. You have a body." - C.S. Lewis

3/21/2013 11:56:47 AM
?I can resist anything except temptation.? --- Oscar Wilde

3/19/2013 4:09:38 PM
Turkey chili with red kidney beans and black beans...

3/13/2013 10:31:31 AM
" I'll be the grapes fermented Bottled and served with the table set In my finest suit, like a perfect gentleman I'll be the fire escape That's bolted to the ancient brick Where you will sit and contemplate your day I'll be the waterwings That save you if you start drowning In an open tab when your judgement's on the brink I'll be the phonograph That plays your favorite albums back As you're lying there, drifting off to sleep I'll be the platform shoes And undo what heredity's done to you You won't have to strain to look into my eyes I'll be your winter coat Buttoned and zipped straight to the throat With the collar up so you won't catch cold I want to take you far From the cynics in this town And kiss you on the mouth We'll cut our bodies free From the tethers of this scene Start a brand new colony Where everything will change We'll give ourselves new names (Identities erased) The sun will heat the ground Under our bare feet In this brand new colony Everything will change "

3/12/2013 7:20:32 AM
I had a very "lovely" old man message me that " I was fat, that I need to diet and exercise because my body is disgusting".. This is someone like twice my age, who is single and obvious bitter. Then the kicker is he blocked me haha.. Really mature, this is the exact type of person who shouldn't be a Dom. Fortunately I am confident, I love my body and curves, I'm athletic, active and very healthy. I'm a sexy feminine girl who is bright and doesn't get my confidence/validation through random people online.

3/11/2013 2:48:43 PM
"The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman without the intention of loving her? ~Bob Marley

3/5/2013 1:52:49 PM
Tonight's dinner : Frutti di mare... One of my favorites. If you don't know or aren't Italian that's all the best seafood -- clams, mussels, scallops, calamari etc over linguine in a white wine, garlic and tomatoe based sauce.

3/4/2013 5:26:44 PM
Hot apple cider and bourbon, great end to a stressful day

3/3/2013 12:42:26 PM
Making a beautiful Sunday dinner: an Italian style beef roast, roasted baby red potatoes and roasted acorn squash with maple,clove and ginger.

3/2/2013 5:51:08 AM
?The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.? --- Bob Marley Truer words have never been spoken.

3/1/2013 4:04:59 PM
" My blood alone remains: take it, but do not make me suffer long." Marie Antoinette

2/27/2013 1:58:52 PM
Do you think it's possible to be more infatuated with the way someone makes you feel and what they represent than the actual person?

2/18/2013 10:42:23 AM
Since I'm stuck home mending, new recipes this week... Tonight pomegranate glazed chicken breasts with couscous and roasted asparagus.

2/17/2013 5:53:13 AM
"The man who acquires the ability to take full possession of his own mind may take possession of anything else to which he is justly entitled." -- Andrew Carnegie

2/15/2013 7:44:19 PM
Short stories with tragic endings...

1/28/2013 11:14:15 AM
I am actually not currently looking, thank you for being respectful of that.

1/27/2013 4:25:17 PM
Is excited.

1/25/2013 3:54:35 PM
Terrible week. I cleared my plans, my evening will now consist of homemade pizza, drinks and snuggling my cat on the couch.

1/25/2013 5:43:15 AM
This week cannot end soon enough! I'm mentally fried at this point. All I want to do tonight is curl up on my couch with wine, homemade pizza and my cat to watch a film.

1/17/2013 6:34:29 AM
I feel like people forget that there is so much beyond "I'm submissive, you're dominant an we are both kinky too" that makes two people compatible. I constantly have messages coming in from men who I would have nothing in common with outside of kink if even that. When I politely decline or sometimes when I am overloaded with messages I don't respond I receive such negative angry messages. At twenty eight I do not want to give up my comfortable life in Boston and lucrative career to go move to say Arkansas and be locked in some 65 year old man's basement. (This is just a random example) At that I don't want to be locked in anyone's basement or dungeon or cage etc. a quick read of my profile should make that apparent. I want to be with someone who understands we live in the real world, we have families and friends that one shouldn't have to give up for a relationship. I want to be with someone who enjoys a similar lifestyle Ds aside. A person who enjoys an active lifestyle, loves to travel, is intelligent, can appreciate a great film and who wants me as a person not just as a toy or submissive.

1/16/2013 7:38:19 PM
Added two new photos! I got a really pretty new slip... I love lingerie.

1/14/2013 9:05:46 AM
?We are all a little weird and life?s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.? --- Dr. Seuss One of my favorite quotes

1/13/2013 8:44:48 AM
Having an all day football party for both games.. Yes, I'm rooting for the home team in our game but I am just using football as an excuse to entertain and cook. I have a whole menu of snacks planned, and have already started on some things. Company is coming at 12:30! I love being domestic! I may make my roommate take a photo of me in my new custom apron that was a Christmas present to post. Yay!

1/9/2013 11:09:52 AM
" Your dresses should be tight enough to show you're a woman and loose enough to show you're a lady. " --- Edith Head

1/7/2013 9:43:15 AM
Rue La La is having a Lilly Pulitzer sale! I just stocked up on some super cute dresses and tops for the warmer temperatures! Yay preppie girly clothing!

1/1/2013 1:20:21 PM
Happy new year! Posted another new photo.. I'm home fighting possibly the flu and bored :). I did read a whole book on my kindle in like 12 hours though so...

12/29/2012 8:11:07 AM
New self portrait, a little artistic, a little raw.. I like it though. No makeup, hair not done, plain tank top.. Just bare.

12/27/2012 1:55:13 PM
Bad weather makes me sad, but mmmm I do love sangria! I make a killer red wine sangria.

12/26/2012 6:05:59 AM
After a feast of seven different types of seafood on Christmas Eve, homemade ravioli and sauce with meatballs, braciole, pork and hot sausages Christmas and lots of wine and champagne (maybe a little bourbon too) I am back to being good today.. Or at least back to eating healthy and working my ass off at the gym.

11/25/2012 11:48:33 AM
Ass more than sufficiently kicked during my workout, its going to be an early night... Short rib ragu over creamy polenta for dinner tonight yum!

11/25/2012 7:02:17 AM
Gearing up for a two hour high intensity bootcamp workout, last week I was sore for the following two days.. I can't say I'm excited haha Then I'm back home to finish cleaning and cook, happy Sunday..

11/16/2012 7:30:51 AM
I tried to go vanilla... That wasn't my most brilliant idea.

10/21/2012 6:36:06 AM
I would like to just say for any other submissive out there who may experience what I went through: * if it seems too good to be true, it likely is be careful * if the dominant in question rushes you to commit, or demands it before you really even know each other bad sign. * if the person in question pushes you to play before any sort of talk or limits discussion happens once again watch out. * if said person tries to cut you off from certain friends or support system this isn't healthy. I missed some major red flags that I was blindly optimistic and didn't allow myself to see. Please be careful. any "Dom" who won't allow you to speak to another sub to relate and have an outlet is a bit.. Some people do use Ds as as a way to abuse, hurt, use and exploit.. Unless that is what you've signed up for it isn't right.

10/18/2012 12:56:23 PM
Holy emotional roller coaster... I am sad, a bit lost, confused and feel terrible. I am giving serious thought to whether or not this is something I can handle. Maybe being bored and vanilla is better than being emotionally fucked with and treated like shit.

10/14/2012 5:40:44 AM
I love Sundays! Cleaning, laundry, listening to music and cooking... Tonight's meal beef stew with pumpkin ale. Happy fall! Oh I forgot to add I'm making pumpkin ale herbed dumplings to go in the stew! Yum!

10/8/2012 2:33:14 PM
Tonight's meal: Chicken in a Boursin cheese, shallot, white wine, mushroom and herb sauce with jasmine rice and asparagus. It's a keeper.

10/2/2012 6:36:57 AM
May I add to the list: * I have NO interest in anyone younger than me, at all. * Please do not email under the cover of " I want to set you up with this Dom I know". I am not stupid, I can meet men very easily on my own and you're likely working an angle. Thank you.

9/20/2012 6:00:55 AM
Good things are happening... Good girls do deserve good things.

9/11/2012 6:17:48 AM
"I'm sick of just liking people. I wish to God I could meet somebody I could respect." -- JD Salinger. ( I couldn't agree with this anymore, people ask me why I am still looking.. Well here is your answer)

9/9/2012 5:05:17 PM
It's getting cool in Boston, so I get to break out comforting rustic recipes yum! Tonight's dinner: Kale soup with chorizo, chickpeas, baby red potatoes and onion.. It is amazing and declicious also low calorie! It's super flavorful from the red pepper flakes, chorizo, cumin, garlic, and oregano...

9/4/2012 8:07:21 AM
I am monogamous. I state that plainly in my profile and journal. I do not shove my monogamy and values down people's throats.. So why does every poly person feel the need to try to convert me to their way of being. I have zero interest. I was refered to as having a puritanical way because I won't be poly or serve as one of many submissives. I'm on a D/s website and involved in kink I hardly think that makes me puritanical. I am not sure what people hope to accomplish by being so openly hostile and pushy with this topic.. Do they think eventually I will crack and say " you win, I don't need monogamy you opened my mind to polyamory after badgering me over and over..."

9/2/2012 3:03:20 PM

Tonight's meal was phenomenal! Campanelle pasta with bacon, goat cheese and red onions.. Oh my god!



9/2/2012 8:43:16 AM
Sunday's are made for: Cooking, and cleaning while listening to mo-town and dancing//singing. I may have actually been born in the wrong decade..

9/2/2012 5:21:47 AM
It isn't even 830am and I have already: Washed two loads of laundry Ran two miles Cleaned Planned my dinner for this evening what's wrong with me? Haha

8/18/2012 7:58:09 AM
"One is not born a woman, but becomes one." -- Simone de Beauvoir ( one of my top three women/ role models)

8/17/2012 7:45:17 AM
"Anything worth doing is worth doing slowly..." Mae West <3

8/16/2012 7:16:35 AM
So the other night I had friends for dinner and this stuck out amongst the hors d'oeuvres I served: Crostinis with prosciutto, ricotta and peaches with just a little bit of black pepper and honey. Amazing.

8/9/2012 4:50:28 PM
So this morning I go to take my car to an appointment and it's gone! Stolen! And I live in a super nice area ah! Stresssss!

8/7/2012 10:58:36 AM
Honestly, I will say it again to save everyone time... If you are married and cheating I DO NOT do that. I am not looking to play with someone especially not someone married who is looking for a sub on the side. I may be kinky and submissive but I am still a good girl and somewhat moral.

7/24/2012 6:43:12 AM
Posted a new photo, I am a bit crazy about keeping track of my body and progress.. So I take a photo every few weeks before the gym in workout gear. I have been told I need more body photos so I added the one I took this morning.

7/18/2012 9:36:11 AM
On the menu for tonight: boneless chicken breasts stuffed with smoked mozzarella, fresh basil and wrapped in prosciutto (the prosciutto gets crispy and the cheese melts inside yum) served with fresh penne and asparagus.

7/8/2012 3:22:22 PM
I have a new favorite summer recipe that I tried tonight.. It was epic! Fresh angel hair with shrimp, prosciutto and asparagus in a lemon cream sauce.

6/22/2012 5:47:34 PM
May I add to the list: no I don't want to be your unicorn or play with you and your sub. If you read my profile you will see, I'm just not that girl.

6/19/2012 9:26:54 AM
I have been receiving more and more emails from submissive/slave males asking me about being a Domme for them...Though I find it very flattering, I am not interested being dominant to anyone. As my profile clearly states, I am wholly and naturally very submissive and I embrace that. Thank you.

6/3/2012 6:30:22 AM
Yucky weather calls for a favorite recipe.. Peppered beef shanks in a red wine sauce yum :)

4/19/2012 3:38:22 PM
Car accident this morning, broke my arm... My ulna has several breaks, so I'm getting surgery Monday :( No bondage for me in the near future... Or anything!

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