this was a real life play scene/weekend that i had with a very good Friend of mine at a time when i was lost and unsure of myself and whether i was worthy of being Anyone's slave/submissive. He asked me to write about my experience that weekend. Thank You, Sir. You helped me to remember me and that very special feeling that one can only know when that look of pride is bestowed upon them. this is a repost. i originally posted it on alt.com

I saw You walk into the club that night. My mind immediately replayed that last time I had seen You there. I remember watching You scening with another submissive and Your girl was like an extension of You, anticipating Your every need and movement. I could not take my eyes off the three of You for even a moment. There were moments that I wished I was that girl fastened to the rope frame. Little did I know that one day I would get that wish.

We had talked many many times on the computer. There was always this little something? about You that caught my attention. We had gotten to meet in person that one other time We Both happened to be at the club. There was even something that clicked more firmly into place when I met You and Your submissive in person. To this day I still cannot quite put my finger on it, but I am not one to argue with what is meant to be. We chatted briefly that first occasion and then parted company. But I know with all certainty that the three of Us somehow know where the others were all evening. Well, I may have watched You a little more intently than You watched me. After all, You were a little distracted there a few times. Smiles

A day or so after We met at the club, You and I talked a bit about having finally gotten the chance to meet. And We talked a bit about the scening that I had observed. We even briefly touched upon a mutual attraction between the three of Us. We talked about how it would be nice to be able to talk more face-to-face. Over the next month or so We chatted off and on.

And then suddenly ?.

I saw You walk into the club that night. My mind immediately replayed that last time I had seen You there.

Our paths had crossed again. We took advantage of that opportunity to talk. We walked through the dungeons talking about this and that, discussing what We were seeing and what We liked. Your girl on one side of You and me on the other, We wandered through the place that subtle bond growing stronger.

Before I knew it, the one thing that I had been daydreaming of for over a month was being offered to me. ?sandi would you like to have a scene with Me later?? my heart skipped a beat. I was barely able to utter the words ?yes, please, Sir.? You were the only Dominant that I had ever watched play that truly caught my interest enough to make me WANT to ?play? with Them. Yes, I have watched many scenes and thought, ?now that would be nice to try.? But never had I actually thought to myself, ?I want to feel HIS floggers dancing on my flesh.? But then again, None had sparked my attention as You had.

We stood off to the side quietly discussing what piece of equipment I wanted to be fastened to. You spoke gently, as is Your manner to start with, putting me more at ease. When You knew that I was ready You lead me to the St. Andrews cross, where I stripped down to a black lace thong and stood silently before You.

With feet parted slightly, hands crossed behind my back, I awaited Your instructions. When commanded, I held my hands out to You as You fastened cuffs to them. You turned me toward the cross and lifted each hand in turn to fasten the clip to a waiting eye bolt. You leaned in close, talking softly to me in a voice so soft and confident that I had to give You my full attention. Your words pulled me into a world where only You and I existed, as Your warm hands caressed my chilled skin. Your voice quietly called me to You. You were ready to begin. I silently stood there, my nerve endings alive in anticipation of the wonderful sensations that my entire being was craving.

My wait was not long. I felt the tails of Your flogger caressing my skin, my mind?s eye came fully awake. The voice inside me cried out, ?please, Sir, use Your flogger on me. I need to feel that sting again. It has been far too long since I have embraced pain and pleasure as one.?

THAT sting, pain and pleasure never came. For a brief while I stood there fastened to that cross in utter frustration. I wanted so badly to beg You to swing with more force, let me feel that sweet pain that I had been denied for so long. But my training and experience, held my tongue. I knew better than to show disrespect and dishonor a Dominant, especially in such a public fashion. I would talk to You about it later. After all We had not really discussed what I like and do not like as far as pain and pleasure go.

Soon something else was happening within me, Your flogger was beginning to feel like a gentle sensual lover. You were awakening something in me that I had never experienced before at the hands of a Dominant in a session. You were teaching me that a lashing could be as sensual as a lover. I soon forgot about my desire to ride the waves of pain AND pleasure. My entire being was lost in Your soft gentle words as You came closer speaking in my ear, keeping me tied to You, Your strong voice calling to my very core. My entire existence at that moment in time revolved around You and me. There was nothing else.

You step in close, pressed Your body against me and place a hand on my stomach; suddenly I was aware of a burning deep inside me. Your slid Your hand up to cup one of my breasts and played with a tiny hard nipple. Pinching and twisting it caused the fire in my loins to grow hotter. How did You know that would happen???!!! I never told of this. HOW DID YOU KNOW???? (tell me!!!!!)

?that?s it sandi! There are hundreds of little cocks fucking you! Let them. Enjoy them!?

?ohhhhh, Sir! May I please cum? May I PLEASE cum, Sir??

?Yes, sandi, cum for Me.?

I did. Over and over again, I came as the flogger danced sensually over my skin for a few more moments. I came over and over again as You pressed Your body close and unfastened the cuffs from the St. Andrews Cross and wrapped me in a blanket. I came again as You just held me. finally my body calmed and You walked me to the sofa to rest. You held me close and just talked to me as I started to float back to the here and now. Suddenly without warning, I started cumming again and again. I could not stop cumming. And You were doing nothing more than holding me close and talking to me. Every time I thought that my body had calmed down, it betrayed me and I started cumming all over again.

Finally, I lifted my head and pleaded with You, ?what...are...you...doing...to...me???? Why was my body reacting like this?

You never once touched me in some improper manner. Yet here I was a submissive cumming like a slut from a flogging! I had never in my life experienced anything like this.

One day when talking to another submissive, my Heart sister, she helped me to realize something very important. It does not have to be about the pain that is given to a submissive in a session. It does not have to be about the strength of the lash that is delivered.

BUT ??

It does have to be about the amount of trust and control that a submissive gives to the Dominant. If THAT bond is there, the Dominant will make the submissive fly like never before thought possible.

Thank You, Sir. You gave me a wonderful gift that night. Thank You for not allowing it to stop there. I am forever grateful to all You taught me and me that weekend. And yes, I do know that I gave You as much as You gave me. I have begun to grow even stronger and more confident in myself for it. Thank You, Sir.

I will never forget the look in Your eyes when I looked up from my knees and asked, ?Sir, may I please ............??

I know my place. And one day He WILL find me. I know that with all my heart and soul.

You Need to be a fetlife.com member and be vetted for this workshop. Write for more details:

Flogging - Basics and Beyond with RaymondWise

(Same workshop as Flogging 101 but it's always been more than

just a beginners class.)

FetLife Event: https://fetlife.com/events/511976


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Location.

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Saturday, January 21, 2017 · 4:00 PM – 7:00 PM
Location:
Ladys Wicked Playground

Cost: $25 per person black card member discount applies. Cash/credit/debit at door.
Dress code: Casual
Deion:
When you think of most impact play, pain could be the first thing

that comes to mind. While we'll cover that, you'll learn some
non-pain ways to sub-space, as well as approaches to getting
erotic, sexual responses, even orgasm, from flogging.

Motivation and understanding from top to bottom.

Connection: That’s the real secret. Connection can engender
profound reactions and increase the chance of getting your bottom

to sub-space. When to use it, when it gets in the way.

Safety Third! (Only because it’s the third thing we’ll be
covering.)

Boredom and The Art of Flogging: Rhythym and timing. When it
looks really boring, it might be sublime. REALLY understanding
what’s going on.

How to Hit You: Probably thought this was the most important
part. Here’s enough to get to effective, fluid flogging. Also,
tips on timing and rhythm for spacey scenes, sensual scenes, or
sadistic flogging.

What’s Spinach Got to Do With It? Double flogging and what I
learned from a total green newbie to BDSM.There’s more than just
how to double flog. Learning from others. I'll teach an exercise
that can make double flogging easier to learn. (Double flogging
however, is covered in another workshop, Flogging 201)

While this workshop is perfect for beginners, if you already
flog, you'll walk away with some new insights and abilities!

Here's some testimonials from previous workshops:

https://fetlife.com/users/27447/posts/4073318

tothineownself https://fetlife.com/users/4319286


will be my demo bottom. We'll include a complete scene. You'll

find her absolutely lovely and often I get soulful and emotional

responses from her.

Also, the workshop is hands on, bring one or two floggers (

moderatel length, 14" - 20" is ideal. I'll have some floggers

available.

Flogging - More That Just The Basics Sat. Oct. 29th 1PM - 4PM William Way LGBT Community Center

Tickets: http://floggingbasicsandbeyond.brownpapertickets.com/


$30 tickets until just before midnight Fri. Oct 28th
$35 at the door - cash or credit card

William Way LGBT Community Center
1315 Spruce Street, Philadelphia, PA 19107

Sat. Oct. 29th
Get there EARLY! (Remember, you're driving and parking in Philly!)

My demo bottom will be ScorpianaRB
https://fetlife.com/users/1746545


Her reactions are profound. Seeing her play is worth the price of
admission.

Topics include:
- Motivation and understanding - from top to bottom
- Connection: That's the real secret.
Getting a bottom to sub-space and intensifying the emotions and reactions can have a lot to do with how you connect at the beginning and during a scene. When to connect and when maybe it gets in the way!
- Safety Third! (Only because it's the thing we'll be covering.)
- Where and how to hit.
- Timing. Whether a rhythmic, trance like space, or Sado/Masochistic and more, some ideas on timing and technique to achieve your goals.
- Boredom and the art of flogging: When it looks really boring, it might be sublime. REALLY understanding what's going on.
- Effective flogging. You can be effective, RIGHT AWAY
- What's Spinach Got to Do With It? Double flogging and what I learned from a total green newbie in BDSM. There's more than just how to double flog. Learning from others.
This 3 hour workshop includes a demonstration of a flogging scene and hands on training (bring a flogger or two, medium length 14 18 would be best). Floggers will also be provided for practice.
Many have found the demo portion useful to getting an idea of what a scene looks like from start to finish. The demo will be broken into a sensual, warm-up, get them into a good head space (often that's all that's needed for a great scene, and then the Sado/Masochistic and cathartic flogging.
(Demonstration contains nudity)

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*Starting in the late 70s before the interweb, before knowing anybody actually does this sort of thing, Wise had to seduce girlfriends into BDSM. The cornerstone of that seduction is knowing what each other really needs, and fulfilling that need. "All I do is lead people where they want to go." That's the focus of most of his workshops: find out what you both really need and how you need to get it. Then lead them there.

Carter Steven's Pocono Fall Fetish Fling (in 1998) was his first foray into the public scene where Joe and candi taught him what they know about flogging. After learning from lots of people, he became a profession top and he's given workshops at the York Play Group, Brimstone, The first NDDS bootcamp and The Warehouse, Sexploratorium, The Kink Shoppe and more.

He also participates in the BDSM module of SAR at Widener University, for the Graduate Class in Human Sexuality, exposing future therapists to some aspects of BDSM.

Only 4 tickets left! (as of Friday, September 30th 7:30AM)
Friday, September 30, 2016 · 7:00 PM –10:00 PM
Location:
Old Pine Community Center
401 Lombard Street 
Cost: $20-$35

Purchase Tickets Here
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/caning-101-extended-workshop-demo-hands-on-training-with-raymond-wise-tickets-19699311170

FetLife event: https://fetlife.com/events/481491

Harsh and punishing is what generally comes to mind with Canes. It doesn’t have to be that way (but we’ll cover that as well in the workshop, but, hard, is easy.) Arousal, altered state (sub-space), orgasms are all possible with canes. The range of sensations is large and subtle.

We’ll cover:
1) Trust and Patience and Desire. Getting someone to the point where they WANT you to cane them is something you need to know about.
2) Types of canes besides rattan, there’s all sorts of materials. Sting, Thud, Arousing and other sensations are attainable with the right cane and technique.
3) Connection – You get that in most of my hands on workshops. It’s one approach to altered states, arousal, and in general, better relationships!
4) Technique – Using more of the cane for varied sensation. Thud – anchoring caning to arousal – rhythm – Altered States – double caning.
5) Sado-masochism. First thing you think of, right? Of course it’s included.
6) QUIET caning. Apartment dwellers will especially like this.
If you have canes bring a few. Canes are available for experiencing the less painful techniques. They are the ones I think you’ll find the most interesting. The workshop is 3 hours and includes a full scene, an example of how a scene can look and work. And there will be times for hands on experiences if you have a partner with you.
Demo may contain partial nudity

Flogging 101 Tickets Required for admission:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/flogging-101-extended-workshop-demo-hands-on-training-with-raymond-wise-tickets-26912300415

Friday, August 26, 2016 · 7:00 PM –10:00 PM

Pleasure Garden Club http://thepleasuregardenclub.net

317 South Street
Cost: $40-$60

Your ticket includes admission to Pleasure Garden Club's event afterwards (9pm-2am).

Learn the basics of flogging! Topics include:
- Motivation and understanding from top to bottom
- Connection: That's the real secret.
Getting a bottom to sub-space and just intensifying the emotions and reactions can have a lot to do with how you connect at the beginning and during a scene. When to connect and when maybe it gets in the way!
- Safety Third! (Only because it's the thing we'll be covering.)
- Where and how to hit.
- Timing. Whether a rhythmic, trance like space, or Sado/Masochistic, some ideas on timing to achieve your goals.
- Boredom and the art of flogging: When it looks really boring, it might be sublime. REALLY understanding what's going on.
- Effective flogging
- What's Spinach Got to Do With It? Double flogging and what I learned from a total green newbie in BDSM. There's more than just how to double flog. Learning from others.
This 3 hour workshop includes a demonstration of a flogging scene and hands on training (bring a flogger or two, medium length 14” – 18” would be best). Floggers will also be provided for practice. This 3 hour workshop includes a demonstration of a flogging scene and hands on training (bring a flogger or two, medium length 14” – 18” would be best). Some floggers will also be provided for practice.

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Aug. 27th, 3PM - Connections: Putting Emotion Into Play w/ Raymond Wise @The KinkeShoppe - Philadelphia

Tickets: http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/2559966

FetLife Event - RSVP doesn't guarantee a seat, just a way of letting other's knwo you're going. And it does help to promote the event! https://fetlife.com/events/455724

https://www.facebook.com/events/1574838156142453/

If getting the bottom spacey, happy, and experiencing a good connection is the focus of play, this workshop may be for you. Getting a partner feeling that way, has way more to do with communication, emotion, and what's going on inside our minds than physical technique. There's all sorts of ways to get to sub-space. This workshop focuses on the idea of connecting with your partner, mentally, emotionally as well as physically. These ideas apply to first time play partners, as well as intensifying what you already have naturally with a long term, loving partner. You'll get a chance to try some of the ideas and you can find out what fits for you.

First Things First - Where do you want to take them?
Two Easy Things - Do this to establish rapport and make it easy for them to follow your lead. Also useful for social situations, business, even seduction.
The Physical - Your physicality and theirs. Deepening connections.
Do More Than Just Walk In Their Moccasins. This may seem kind of New Age (woo woo!) Is it possible to feel what they feel?
Ask Not What You Can Do For Your Audience - Public Play and how the 'audience' can enhance connection.

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Presenter Bio:
Starting in the late 70's before the interweb, before knowing anybody actually does this sort of thing, Raymond Wise had to seduce girlfriends into BDSM. The cornerstone of that seduction, is knowing what each other really needs, and fulfilling that need. This approach has been called, "clever," "psychological", "somehow unfair," and even, "dangerously persuasive," but Wise explains,
"All I do is lead people where they want to go, because why work so hard?, and because it works"
That's the focus of most of his workshops, find out what you both really need and how you need to get it. Then lead them there. That's how he gets pretty much whatever he wants.

Carter Steven's Pocono Fall Fetish Fling ( in 1998? ) was his first foray into the public scene where Joe and candi taught him what they know about flogging. After learning from lots of people, he's given workshops at the York Play Group, Brimstone, The first NDDS bootcamp and The Warehouse. He also presents for the SAR (Sexual Attitude Reassessment) module at The Widener Graduate Class in Human Sexuality, to help acclimate future therapists to BDSM practices and culture.

Wise is married to (not surprisingly) MrsWise, where they live in a surprisingly bucolic suburb North of Philadelphia. He hosts the nearby BDSM of SEPA Social in Bensalem, PA. The First Saturday of Each Month at Michael's Cafe and Night Club - 3640 Street Rd Bensalem, PA 19020 8 PM

Raymond finds it moderately disturbing to write about himself in the third person.

-Why Do I Flog Thee?
... and why am I nekkid in front of all these people?
Motivation and understanding from top to bottom.

-Connection
That's the real secret.

-Safety Third!
(only because it's the third thing we'll be covering)

-Boredom and The Art of Flogging
When it looks really boring, it might be sublime.
REALLY understanding what's going on.

-How to Hit
You probably thought this was the most important part.
Here's enough to get to effective flogging.

-What's Spinach Got to Do With It?
Double flogging and what I learned from a total green newbie to BDSM
There's more than just how to double flog. Learning from others.

J

an. 31st Caning 101  and then Connections - Putting Emotions Into Play

Caning tickets: http://www.eventbrite.com/e/caning-101-with-raymond-wise-tickets-19699310167?ref=ebtnebtckt

SOLD OUT
Caning - Sensuous - Arousing - Orgasmic - Altered State - Sadomasochistic - Even Quiet Caning Workshop @ Sexploratorium

Tickets here, This usually sells out:

 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/caning-101-with-wise-protector-tickets-19219887200

Sunday, November 22nd, 2PM - 5PM
Passiaonal's Sexplaratorium
317 South St
Philadelphia, PA 19147

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"No, I don't do anything harsh. A cane isn't for me."

I was at the BDSM club in New York, Paddles, and they had

a cane vendor there. He was trying to sell me a cane.

He demonstrated some techniques on his forearm showing how

a cane could be used rhythmically ( he had seen me flog

earlier, a good salesman ) and suggested I borrow it and

give it a try.

I put my then slave face down on the rack, chained her

down.

I tried the various ideas he had show me.

She was spaced out pretty quick so I was getting

interested in the cane.

It was thick, a little over a half inch. While it was a

somewhat painful rhythmic beating near the end, it wasn't

terribly harsh. Just increased the intensity of the

rhythm and hit harder and faster...

She began to tense up, curling her spine, like she often

does before orgasms...

And then she came and came.

Loudly.

She's loud.

Like she's being murdered.

Everyone saw a woman come from just a caning.

I turned to the vendor and said,

"I'll take it."

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Harsh and punishing is what generally comes to mind with Canes. It doesn't have to be that way (but we'll cover that as well in the workshop, but, hard, is easy.) Arousal, altered state (sub-space), orgasms are all possible with canes. The range of sensations is large and subtle.
We'll cover:
1) Trust and Patience and Desire. Getting someone to the point where they WANT you to cane them is something you need to know about.
2) Types of canes besides rattan, there's all sorts of materials. Sting, Thud, Arousing and other sensations are attainable with the right cane and technique.
3) Connection - You get that in most of my hands on workshops. It's one approach to altered states, arousal, and in general, better relationships!
4) Technique - Using more of the cane for varied sensation. Thud - anchoring caning to arousal - rhythm – Altered States - double caning.
5) Sado-masochism. First thing you think of, right? Of course it's included.
6) QUIET caning. Apartment dwellers will especially like this.
If you have canes bring a few. Canes are available for experiencing the less painful techniques. They are the ones I think you'll find the most interesting.
The workshop is 3 hours and includes a full scene, an example of how a scene can look and work.
And there will be times for hands on experiences if you have a partner with you.

===========================
Starting in the late 70s before the interweb, before knowing anybody actually does this sort of thing, Wise had to seduce girlfriends into BDSM. The cornerstone of that seduction is knowing what each other really needs, and fulfilling that need. "All I do is lead people where they want to go." That's the focus of most of his workshops: find out what you both really need and how you need to get it. Then lead them there.
Carter Steven's Pocono Fall Fetish Fling (in 1998) was his first foray into the public scene where Joe and candi taught him what they know about flogging. After learning from lots of people, he's given workshops at the York Play Group, Brimstone, The first NDDS bootcamp and The Warehouse, Sexploratorium and The Kink Shoppe.
He also participates in the BDSM module of SAR at Widener University, for the Graduate Class in Human Sexuality, exposing future therapists to some aspects of BDSM.

Flogging 201 Clinic - Figure 8  and Double (Florentine) and Fluid, Expressive, Effective Flogging Hands On Workshop
Tickets: http://flogging201.brownpaperticket.com

 

Aug 23rd
Connections - Putting Emotions Into Play

Tickets http://www.eventbrite.com/e/connections-rituals-with-wise-tickets-18004588208?ref=ebtnebtckt

Intimate Rituals Workshop 
6PM - 8PM

Tickets https://www.eventbrite.com/e/intimate-rituals-with-wise-tickets-18007853976

FetLife Event link https://fetlife.com/events/364321

 
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Connections - Putting Emotions Into Play

Tickets http://www.eventbrite.com/e/connections-rituals-with-wise-tickets-18004588208?ref=ebtnebtckt

For some bringing the bottom into spacey, happy place and experiencing a good connection is a focus of play. Building that to the point of euphoria has way more to do with communication, emotion, and what's going on inside our minds than physical technique. There's all sorts of ways to get to "sub-space" and to empathetically enjoy the high of a partner. This workshop focuses on the idea of connecting with your partner, mentally, emotionally as well as physically. There are ways to connect in any situation, from first time play partners, to intensifying what you already have naturally with a long term, loving partner. You'll get a chance to try some of the ideas and you can pick what fits for you.

And we’ll also cover, how, when you get you bottom into that frame of mind, you can get into an amazing frame of mind as well.
And an outline of the workshop:

• First Things First - Where do you want to take them, where to they want to go?
• Two Easy Things - Do this to establish rapport and make it easy for them to follow your lead. Also useful for social situations, business, even seduction.
• The Physical - Your physicality and theirs. Deepening connections.
• Breathing, together. Adapted from Tantra. If you practice this one in the class, you’ll need to be very intimately acquainted with your partner.
• Do More Than Just Walk In Their Moccasins. This may seem kind of New Age (woo woo!) Is it possible to feel what they feel?
• Ask Not What You Can Do For Your Audience - Public Play and how the 'audience' can enhance connection.
• When NOT to connect. Sometimes it gets in the way of a great experience. Knowing the difference.

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Intimate Rituals Workshop
6PM - 8PM

Tickets https://www.eventbrite.com/e/intimate-rituals-with-wise-tickets-18007853976

FetLife Event link https://fetlife.com/events/364321

Do you have any BDSM Rituals? If you've taken the time to develop one, it already means something.
Think about the ritual you're involved in, and what kind of feelings come from that. Would you like that feeling to be stronger? Even more profound?
What if the ritual included the values you share with your partner? Not just from words that you speak. But the actions of the ritual, put you both on the same page in a way that both of you can feel.
When I first developed my BDSM rituals, the main purpose was to slow down, focus, and make a transition from whatever we were doing before.
I started the ritual as a way to allow both myself and my submissive to get into the right frame of mind, to make the transition from the world out there, to our private world of Dominance and submission.
She might have had a day where the project is delayed because of staff incompetence, then as she leaves work there’s a parking ticket on her car and construction makes her late getting home.
Then she’s supposed to sweetly surrender to me with grace and poise.

The ritual gives us a moment to breathe, and connect. Out ritual makes our roles clear and gets us into the right frame of mind to perform those roles.

As it evolved, it became a way to amplify emotions, and let those emotions evolve. It’s added meaning beyond what I first intended.

In our lives, we have many roles. Worker, lover, parent, employee/employer. Were you in the military? You have been a killer and a destroyer of worlds. Literally. Then you fly home and have trouble getting your kids to brush their teeth.

Roles aren’t fake. They are real. Rituals can help you get to where you need to be, to take on that role to the fullest and become even more meaningful.

Whether you have a ritual now or not, you'll practice this approach and feel the results.
This is a wonderful complement to 'Connections - Putting Emotions Into Play'

"Rituals are so powerful because they are experiential. They speak to your being through all of your senses. Rituals cause you to feel, and be present in the physical world. Rituals communicate directly with the living, breathing, feeling, wise, intelligent, intuitive part of you; and in doing so, accelerate the change; even for, and especially for modern day people like you and me. The rituals work because they center you in your intention, in your body, and in your power." --Emily Temper "The Ritualist: Why Ritual is Better than Resolution"

The workshop outline:
• Where are you now? We’ll take some time to find what rituals participants are already using.
• Intent.Emotion.Meaning.
• How does the ritual make you feel? And then a exploration of where else you might want or need to go.
• Anchoring. An approach that amplifies emotions and meaning. When you’ve found a ritual that means something to both of you, and gives you these incredible feelings, anchoring can get you there, sometimes in an instant.
• Operant conditioning. When to use it. There's an ethics component to this part of the class
• Beyond the ritual. How a ritual can, “work it’s magic,” even when you’re not doing it.

Flogging 101 Extended with Demo, a hands on workshop May 31st 1:30PM - 4:30PM
@William Way Center
1315 Spruce St. Philadelphia, PA 19107
Tickets http://flogextended.brownpapertickets.com/
Early Bird Discount $25 (plus service fee) When There Gone, They're Gone! Then a limited number at $30 (plus service fee), after that, $35. $40 day of event.

You'll get a good start to flogging and what many experienced floggers have said is a unique perspective, especially getting your bottom (and even the top!) to a good, trance like sub-space.

Time has been extended to include a scene because many have asked to see what a full scene looks like.

There will be time for some hands on experience as well. Bring one or two floggers. Floggers will be available to try.

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16 tickets will be available for $25 each (plus service charge). When they're gone, a few  will be available for $30 (plus service charge) each. When those are gone, price will go up to $35 each (plus service charge).
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When you think of most impact play, pain could be the first thing that comes to mind. While we'll cover that, you'll learn some non-pain ways to sub-space, as well as approaches to getting erotic, sexual responses.

Topics include:

Why Do I Flog Thee? Motivation and understanding from top to bottom.

Connection: That's the real secret, especially to a sub-space experience.

Arousal: With or without direct clitoral stimulation!

Safety Third! (Only because it's the third thing we'll be covering.)

 
Boredom and The Art of Flogging: When it looks really boring, it might be sublime. REALLY understanding what's going on.

How to Hit: You probably thought this was the most important part.Here's what you need to get to effective flogging, and exercises that will give you the tools to refine your style of flogging.

What's Spinach Got to Do With It?

Double flogging and what I learned from a total green newbie to BDSM.There's more than just how to double flog. Learning from others. Flogging 201 teaches hands on Florentine flogging, but you'll get an exercise that will prepare you for that.

You may or may not Florentine Flog at the end of the workshop, but you'll take away what you need to get there.

This is a hands on workshop and there's more time to learn the mechanics of flogging than previous workshops. Bring one or two floggers, but if you don't have any, floggers will be available for practice.

Starting in the late 70s before the interweb, before knowing anybody actually does this sort of thing, Wise had to seduce girlfriends into BDSM. The cornerstone of that seduction is knowing what each other really needs, and fulfilling that need. This approach has been called, "clever," "psychological," "somehow unfair," and even, "dangerously persuasive," but Wise explains,"All I do is lead people where they want to go." That's the focus of most of his workshops: find out what you both really need and how you need to get it. Then lead them there.

Carter Steven's Pocono Fall Fetish Fling (in 1998?) was his first foray into the public scene where Joe and candi taught him what they know about flogging. After learning from lots of people, he's given workshops at the York Play Group, Brimstone, The first NDDS bootcamp and The Warehouse, Sexploratorium and The Kink Shoppe.

Wise also participates in the BDSM module of SAR at Widener University, for the Graduate Class in Human Sexuality. The focus is acclimating future therapists to BDSM, and exploring their feelings, triggers and reactions to it.

“ We Want To.... What Do We Do to Get Started?”

Tickets: https://whattosay.brownpapertickets.com


Also that day  - part of my Relationship Series - Socializing - The Approach - Meeting New People-   1PM - 2:45PM)

https://wisesocial.brownpapertickets.com

What to Say After Hello w/ WiseProtector
Sure Fire Conversation for the Terminally Shy

Sunday March 29th
3PM - 4:45PM  Spirit of the Leopard Room

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Have you ever had someone you're attracted to right in front of you? What did you say?

Maybe you've felt all flushed and nervous. You both were checking each other out. No
doubt, there's an interest. And THEN...Nothing.

Even if one of you screwed up the courage to say, "Hi," what should be brilliant
conversation was just withering
small talk, and a lot of quiet. Happens to a lot of us, doesn't it?

I have a suggestion. Let's get together and practice an approach to connecting with a person in a social setting.
It's a way of finding out about a person. Find out if they're right for you. More
importantly, you both get to see if you're right for each other. There's more to it, but it all starts with knowing how to ask, and find out. "What's important to you?" And, you're not just finding out about that person. The more you do this, the more you find out about YOURSELF.

This isn't just for singles, if you want to improve your social conversational skills, What To Say After You Say Hello is for you.

I promise, the worse that happens, is you can become an amazing conversationalist.

This approach to conversation isn't just for a love interest. The beauty of this is you
can practice over and over with acquaintances and friends. So when you in front of that
once in a lifetime, "yeah, I've got to really get to know this person," opportunity,
you're ready.
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  Starts on time so get into Philly early.
There is a paid lot across the street but I can't find a website for it.
Sometimes parkwhiz offers a discounted space, Patriot Parking is a few blocks away. Usually the discount just shows the first time you use [THIS LINK][http://www.parkwhiz.com/william-way-community-center-parking/?pwa=91568640]  For Instance, I chose the 1315 Spruce St.
Philadelphia, PA 19107 lot and the advanced price is $8 but you might only get one shot at that. It changes all the time. Make sure you're selecting the right day and time range and you have directions from the lot to The William Way Center!
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Presenter Bio:
Starting in the late 70s before the interweb, before knowing anybody actually does this sort of thing, Wise had to seduce girlfriends into BDSM. The cornerstone of that seduction is knowing what each other really needs, and fulfilling that need. This approach has been called, "clever," "psychological," "somehow unfair," and even, "dangerously persuasive," but Wise explains,"All I do is lead people where they want to go." That's the focus of most of his workshops: find out what you both really need and how you need to get it. Then lead them there.

Carter Steven's Pocono Fall Fetish Fling (in 1998?) was his first foray into the public scene where Joe and candi taught him what they know about flogging. After learning from lots of people, he's given workshops at the York Play Group, Brimstone, The first NDDS bootcamp and The Warehouse, Sexploratorium and The Kink Shoppe.

He also participates in the BDSM module of SAR at Widener University, for the Graduate Class in Human Sexuality.

Wise finds it moderately disturbing to write about himself in the third person.

Feb. 28th Flogging 101 with WiseProtector - The William Way LGBT Community Center http://wiseflogging.brownpapertickets.com

Caning Workshop - Sensuous - Arousing - Orgasmic - Altered State - Sadomasochistic - Even Quiet Caning Workshop with WiseProtector @The William Way LGBT Community Center

http://wisecaning.brownpapertickets.com

(January's workshops sold out! buy tickets early.)

Caning and Flogging 201 Workshops - Jan. 31st - Sexploratorium Philadelphia

Here's the tickets link:

https://passion101.wordpress.com/2014/12/20/kink-up-your-new-year/

Saturday, January 31st at 2:00 pm

Caning – Sensuous – Arousing – Orgasmic – Altered State – Sadomasochistic – even Quiet Caning with WiseProtector

“No, I don’t do anything harsh.

A cane isn’t for me,” 
I explained to the cane vendor.

I was at the BDSM club in New York, Paddles, and they had a cane vendor there. He was trying to sell me a cane.

He demonstrated some techniques on his forearm showing how a cane could be used rhythmically (he had seen me flog earlier, a observant instructor) and suggested I borrow it and give it a try (a good salesman).

I put my slave face down on the rack, chained her down.

Before starting I admired her little apple shaped alluring ass. The focus of everyone’s attention I’m sure.

I tried the various ideas he had shown me.

She was spaced out pretty quick, mouth agape, somewhat erratic and then rhythmic breathing, bits and pieces of ohhhhh’s and staccato Ah’s as I worked rhythmically on her, so I was getting interested in the cane.

It was thick, a little over a half inch. While it was a somewhat stiff, powerful, rhythmic beating near the end, it wasn’t terribly harsh. Only some redness on her ass. Just increased the intensity of the rhythm and hit harder and faster…

She began to tense up, the chains of the restraints straightened, she became stiff, curling her spine, like she often does before orgasms…

And then she came.

And came.

Loud.

She’s loud.

For quite some time.

Like she was being murdered.

Everyone saw a woman come from just a caning.

Not a very harsh one.

Other than music from speakers and her panting as she came down from her orgasms, Paddles was quiet.

I turned to the vendor and said, “I’ll take it.”

Harsh and punishing is what generally comes to mind with Canes. It doesn’t have to be that way (but we’ll cover that as well in the workshop, but, hard, is easy.)
Arousal, altered state (sub-space), orgasms are all possible with canes. The range of sensations is large and subtle.

We’ll cover:

1) Trust and Patience and Desire. Getting someone to the point where they WANT you to cane them is something you need to know about.

2) Types of canes besides rattan there’s all sorts of materials.

Sting, Thud, Arousing and other sensations are attainable with the right cane and technique.

3) Connection – You get that in most of my hands on workshops. It’s one approach to altered states, arousal, and in general, better relationships!

4) Technique – Using more of the cane for varied sensation. Thud – anchoring caning to arousal – rhythm – Altered States – double caning.

5) Sado-masochism. First thing you think of, right? Of course it’s included.

6) QUIET caning. Apartment dwellers will especially like this.

If you have canes bring a few. Canes are available for experiencing the less painful techniques. They are the ones I think you’ll find the most interesting.

Tell a Friend: RSVP for this class on Fetlife or Facebook (RSVPs are not tickets; tickets required for entry).

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Saturday January 31st at 5:00 pm

Flogging 201: Hands on Flogging Clinic with WiseProtector 


What do you want to work on?

SadoMasochistic? Sub-Space? Erotic, including orgasm? At the start we’ll find out what each person needs, and tailor training and practice. Even if you’re only focusing on one aspect, I ask you to try all the possibilities offered. But then you can focus on the prescribed exercises as it were.

Exercises and tips for:

Figure 8

Double Flogging (Florentine)

The Slapping Punch I’ll show you how to start this as a kind of tease. The bottom who’s into harder floggings often reacts, “Oh, yeah, I see where this is going. More please.” This emphasizes ‘thud.’ How to create anticipation and ramp it up.

Fluid Flogging One approach to sub-space and this is an important part Wise’s signature, get them into sub-space, Florentine flogging scene. Learn smooth, rhythmic, fluid contact with your bottom.

Body Mechanics and position. Often if the floggers are being applied in an inconsistent way, body position and stance and distance from you bottom can make everything better.

Bring a few floggers if you have them. Floggers will also be provided for practice.

Tell a Friend: RSVP for this class on Fetlife or Facebook (RSVPs are not tickets; tickets required for entry).

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Starting in the late 70s before the interweb, before knowing anybody actually does this sort of thing, Wise had to seduce girlfriends into BDSM. The cornerstone of that seduction is knowing what each other really needs, and fulfilling that need. All I do is lead people where they want to go.” That’s the focus of most of his workshops: find out what you both really need and how you need to get it. Then lead them there.

Carter Steven’s Pocono Fall Fetish Fling (in 1998?) was his first foray into the public scene where Joe and candi taught him what they know about flogging. After learning from lots of people, he’s given workshops at the York Play Group, Brimstone, The first NDDS bootcamp and The Warehouse, Sexploratorium and The Kink Shoppe.

He also participates in the BDSM module of SAR at Widener University, for the Graduate Class in Human Sexuality, exposing future therapists to some aspects of BDSM.

Note the time change:

BDSM Social, The First Saturday of Each Month, 8PM -  10PM Next One Jan. 3rd. 

Michael's Cafe and Nite Club 

3640 Street Rd Bensalem, PA 19020

I want an atmosphere where we can focus on socializing, and not so much on BDSM.
Maybe we can have  less of, "What are you into?" "Are you dom or sub?" and more of getting to know the real, full person in front of you.
There will be vanilla folks nearby, maybe even amongst us. While it isn't just meant for singles or people looking for a relationship, I think we often put up roadblocks to connecting, when we focus so much on BDSM and sex.
There are already a lot of terrific munches in private or semi-private rooms where we can let our hair down and not worry about what we're going to say. At this social, I ask that you please get to know the full person. Give it a try.
Better friendships and relationships are sure to follow.
The club only allows people age 21 and over.
We meet alllllllllllllllllllll the way in back, past the dance floor,  to the left of the bar.

I'll have  roses at one of our tables. Ask for Raymond, and I'll introduce you to folks. 

The small talbes encourage mingling, and you'll find many of the regulars will introduce themselves, and others to you, a few at a time, giving you a chance to meet people and find good conversation.

Michaels has a  $5.00 cover charge.

No fetish wear, no toys, it's a 'nilla social for BDSM type folks.
(note Michael's dress code at the end of this.)

Michael's Cafe and Night Club [Not Michael's Diner nearby, They're not to creative about names in Bensalem.]

**3640 Street Rd**
**Bensalem, PA 19020**

It's essentially in the same parking lot as Quality Inn.

* Michael's dress code:

* No sneakers or sneaker like shoes.

* No work boots or Timberlands. No ripped, torn, baggy jeans or pants.

* No rubber flip flops

* No oversized shirts.

* No shirts with lettering.

* No sports wear.

* No baseball caps.

* No sunglasses.

* No shorts

      (tickets go up after Aug. 10th from $20 to $25. http://flogging101.brownpapertickets.com/ )

Aug. 16th
Flogging 101 Extended with WiseProtector - Sat. Aug. 16th The William Way GLBT Community Center
 Tickets here: http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/711539 

 When you think of most impact play, pain could be the first thing that comes to mind. While we'll cover that, you'll learn some non-pain ways to sub-space, as well as approaches to getting erotic, sexual responses.

 Topics include:

 Why Do I Flog Thee?and why am I nekkid in front of all these people? Motivation and understanding from top to bottom.

 Connection: That's the real secret, especially to a sub-space experience.

 Safety Third! (Only because it's the third thing we'll be covering.)

 Boredom and The Art of Flogging: When it looks really boring, it might be sublime. REALLY understanding what's going on.

 How to Hit: You probably thought this was the most important part.Here's what you need to get to effective flogging, and exercises that will give you the tools to refine your style of flogging.

What's Spinach Got to Do With It?

Double flogging and what I learned from a total green newbie to BDSM.There's more than just how to double flog. Learning from others.

You may or may not Florentine Flog at the end of the workshop, but you'll take away what you need to get there.

This is a hands on workshop and there's more time to learn the mechanics of flogging than previous workshops. Bring one or two floggers, but if you don't have any, floggers will be available for practice. The last hour will be a flogging clinic.

Starting in the late 70s before the interweb, before knowing anybody actually does this sort of thing, Wise had to seduce girlfriends into BDSM. The cornerstone of that seduction is knowing what each other really needs, and fulfilling that need. This approach has been called, "clever," "psychological," "somehow unfair," and even, "dangerously persuasive," but Wise explains,"All I do is lead people where they want to go." That's the focus of most of his workshops: find out what you both really need and how you need to get it. Then lead them there.

Carter Steven's Pocono Fall Fetish Fling (in 1998?) was his first foray into the public scene where Joe and candi taught him what they know about flogging. After learning from lots of people, he's given workshops at the York Play Group, Brimstone, The first NDDS bootcamp and The Warehouse, Sexploratorium and The Kink Shoppe.

He also participates in the BDSM module of SAR at Widener University, for the Graduate Class in Human Sexuality.
Wise finds it moderately disturbing to write about himself in the third person.

BDSM Social, The First Saturday of Each Month, 7:30PM Next One August 2nd. 

Michael's Cafe and Nite Club 

3640 Street Rd Bensalem, PA 19020

Also we're having a New and Nervous Coffee for new people before. Write if you'd like to know more. Meet us at a Starbucks and find out if the social is something you'll be comfortable going to.

Michael's is fairly quiet at 7:30 when the social starts so it's great for mingling and talking.  Many stay to dance or just hang out when the music starts around 9Pm

I want an atmosphere where we can focus on socializing, and not so much on BDSM.
Maybe we can have  less of, "What are you into?" "Are you dom or sub?" and more of getting to know the real, full person in front of you.
There will be vanilla folks nearby, maybe even amongst us. While it isn't just meant for singles or people looking for a relationship, I think we often put up roadblocks to connecting, when we focus so much on BDSM and sex.
There are already a lot of terrific munches in private or semi-private rooms where we can let our hair down and not worry about what we're going to say. At this social, I ask that you please get to know the full person. Give it a try.
Better friendships and relationships are sure to follow.
The club only allows people age 21 and over.
We meet alllllllllllllllllllll the way in back, past the dance floor,  to the left of the bar.

I'll have  roses at one of our tables. Ask for Raymond, and I'll introduce you to folks. 

The small talbes encourage mingling, and you'll find many of the regulars will introduce themselves, and others to you, a few at a time, giving you a chance to meet people and find good conversation.

They start charging a $5.00 cover charge at 8 PM

No fetish wear, no toys, it's a 'nilla social for BDSM type folks.
(note Michael's dress code at the end of this.)

Michael's Cafe and Night Club [Not Michael's Diner nearby, They're not to creative about names in Bensalem.]

**3640 Street Rd**
**Bensalem, PA 19020**

It's essentially in the same parking lot as Quality Inn.

* Michael's dress code:

* No sneakers or sneaker like shoes.

* No work boots or Timberlands. No ripped, torn, baggy jeans or pants.

* No rubber flip flops

* No oversized shirts.

* No shirts with lettering.

* No sports wear.

* No baseball caps.

* No sunglasses.

* No shorts

BDSM Social, The First Saturday of Each Month, 7:30PM Next One Sept. 6th.

Michael's Cafe and Nite Club

3640 Street Rd Bensalem, PA 19020

Michael's is fairly quiet at 7:30 when the social starts so it's great for mingling and talking.  Many stay to dance or just hang out when the music starts around 9PM

I want an atmosphere where we can focus on socializing, and not so much on BDSM.

Maybe we can have  less of, "What are you into?" "Are you dom or sub?" and more of getting to know the real, full person in front of you.

There will be vanilla folks nearby, maybe even amongst us. While it isn't just meant for singles or people looking for a relationship, I think we often put up roadblocks to connecting, when we focus so much on BDSM and sex.

There are already a lot of terrific munches in private or semi-private rooms where we can let our hair down and not worry about what we're going to say. At this social, I ask that you please get to know the full person. Give it a try.
Better friendships and relationships are sure to follow.

The club only allows people age 21 and over.
We meet alllllllllllllllllllll the way in back, past the dance floor,  to the left of the bar.

I'll have 3 paper roses at my table. Ask for Raymond, and I'll introduce you to folks.

They start charging a $5.00 cover charge at 8 PM

No fetish wear, no toys, it's a 'nilla social for BDSM type folks.
(note Michael's dress code at the end of this.)

Michael's Cafe and Night Club [Not Michael's Diner nearby, They're not to creative about names in Bensalem.]

**3640 Street Rd**
**Bensalem, PA 19020**

It's essentially in the same parking lot as Quality Inn.

* Michael's dress code:

* No sneakers or sneaker like shoes.

* No work boots or Timberlands. No ripped, torn, baggy jeans or pants.

* No rubber flip flops

* No oversized shirts.

* No shirts with lettering.

* No sports wear.

* No baseball caps.

* No sunglasses.

* No shorts

BDSM Social, The First Saturday of Each Month, 7:30PM Next One Dec. 7th

Michael's Cafe and Nite Club

3640 Street Rd Bensalem, PA 19020

Michael's is fairly quiet at 7:30 when the social starts so it's great for mingling and talking.  Many stay to dance or just hang out when the music starts around 9PM

I want an atmosphere where we can focus on socializing, and not so much on BDSM.

Maybe we can have  less of, "What are you into?" "Are you dom or sub?" and more of getting to know the real, full person in front of you.

There will be vanilla folks nearby, maybe even amongst us. While it isn't just meant for singles or people looking for a relationship, I think we often put up roadblocks to connecting, when we focus so much on BDSM and sex.

There are already a lot of terrific munches in private or semi-private rooms where we can let our hair down and not worry about what we're going to say. At this social, I ask that you please get to know the full person. Give it a try.
Better friendships and relationships are sure to follow.

The club only allows people age 21 and over.
We meet alllllllllllllllllllll the way in back, past the dance floor,  to the left of the bar.

I'll have 3 paper roses at my table. Ask for Raymond, and I'll introduce you to folks.

They start charging a $5.00 cover charge at 8 PM

No fetish wear, no toys, it's a 'nilla social for BDSM type folks.
(note Michael's dress code at the end of this.)

Michael's Cafe and Night Club [Not Michael's Diner nearby, They're not to creative about names in Bensalem.]

**3640 Street Rd**
**Bensalem, PA 19020**


RSVP's are not required. Coming last minute is fine and encouraged.Probably the biggest advantage to FerLife RSVP is if someone's interested in you and they see you are coming, they'll come too!


It's essentially in the same parking lot as Quality Inn.

* Michael's dress code:

* No sneakers or sneaker like shoes.

* No work boots or Timberlands. No ripped, torn, baggy jeans or pants.

* No rubber flip flops

* No oversized shirts.

* No shirts with lettering.

* No sports wear.

* No baseball caps.

* No sunglasses.

* No shorts

BDSM Social, The First Saturday of Each Month, 7:30PM Next One Nov. 2nd

Michael's Cafe and Nite Club

3640 Street Rd Bensalem, PA 19020

Michael's is fairly quiet at 7:30 when the social starts so it's great for mingling and talking.  Many stay to dance or just hang out when the music starts around 9PM

I want an atmosphere where we can focus on socializing, and not so much on BDSM.

Maybe we can have  less of, "What are you into?" "Are you dom or sub?" and more of getting to know the real, full person in front of you.

There will be vanilla folks nearby, maybe even amongst us. While it isn't just meant for singles or people looking for a relationship, I think we often put up roadblocks to connecting, when we focus so much on BDSM and sex.

There are already a lot of terrific munches in private or semi-private rooms where we can let our hair down and not worry about what we're going to say. At this social, I ask that you please get to know the full person. Give it a try.
Better friendships and relationships are sure to follow.

The club only allows people age 21 and over.
We meet alllllllllllllllllllll the way in back, past the dance floor,  to the left of the bar.

I'll have 3 paper roses at my table. Ask for Raymond, and I'll introduce you to folks.

They start charging a $5.00 cover charge at 8 PM

No fetish wear, no toys, it's a 'nilla social for BDSM type folks.
(note Michael's dress code at the end of this.)

Michael's Cafe and Night Club [Not Michael's Diner nearby, They're not to creative about names in Bensalem.]

**3640 Street Rd**
**Bensalem, PA 19020**


RSVP's are not required. Coming last minute is fine and encouraged.Probably the biggest advantage to FerLife RSVP is if someone's interested in you and they see you are coming, they'll come too!


It's essentially in the same parking lot as Quality Inn.

* Michael's dress code:

* No sneakers or sneaker like shoes.

* No work boots or Timberlands. No ripped, torn, baggy jeans or pants.

* No rubber flip flops

* No oversized shirts.

* No shirts with lettering.

* No sports wear.

* No baseball caps.

* No sunglasses.

* No shorts

 Connections: Putting Emotion Into Play with Wise Protector http://www.eventbrite.com/event/7203175893

Saturday July 6th

  We have a Social the first Saturday of each month, 7:30 PM - 9:30 PM

  Get in before 8PM to avoid the $5.00 cover.

  (Michael's site might say they open at 8, but they open a half hour early for the social.

 Many stay later

  This is the only way we meet new people and it's a great way to meet a bunch of folks in one place.

 No fetish wear, no toys, it's a 'nilla social for BDSM type folks.

 ( note Michael's dress code at the end of this. )

 
 Michael's Cafe and Night Club [Not Michael's Diner nearby]

  3640 Street Rd

 Bensalem, PA 

 Michael's is fairly quiet at 7:30 when the social starts so it's great for mingling and talking.  Many stay to dance or just hang out when the music starts around 9PM

 The club only allows people age 21 and over.

 We meet alllllllllllllllllllll the way in back, past the dance floor,  to the left of the bar.

  I'll have 3 paper roses at my table.I Ask for Raymond, and I'll introduce you to folks.

  I want an atmosphere where we can focus on socializing, and not so much on BDSM.

  Maybe we do can less of, "What are you into?" "Are you dom or sub?" and more of getting to know the real, full person in front of you.

  There will be vanilla folks nearby, maybe even amongst us. While it isn't just meant for singles or people looking for a relationship, I think we often put up roadblocks to connecting, when we focus so much on BDSM and sex.

  There are already a lot of terrific munches in private or semi-private rooms where we can let our hair down and not worry about what we're going to say. At this social, I ask that you please get to know the full person. Give it a try.

 Better friendships and relationships are sure to follow.

  It's essentially in the same parking lot as Quality Inn.

  *Michael's dress code:

  * No sneakers or sneaker like shoes.

  * No work boots or Timberlands. No ripped, torn, baggy jeans or pants.

  * No rubber flip flops

  * No oversized shirts.

  * No shirts with lettering.

  * No sports wear.

  * No baseball caps.

  * No sunglasses.

  * No shorts

Here's a internet radio interview I did on the "Ask Me Anything Love and Sex Show"

She titled it "On Being a Male Dominant w/ Wise Protector"

It gives some insight on how I approach BDSM

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/askmeanythingloveandsexshow/2013/05/17/on-being-a-male-dominant-w-wise-protector

Saturday June 1st

 We have a Social the first Saturday of each month, 7:30 PM - 9:30 PM

 Get in before 8PM to avoid the $5.00 cover.

 (Michael's site might say they open at 8, but they open a half hour early for the social.

Many stay later

 This is the only way we meet new people and it's a great way to meet a bunch of folks in one place.

No fetish wear, no toys, it's a 'nilla social for BDSM type folks.

( note Michael's dress code at the end of this. )

Michael's Cafe and Night Club [Not Michael's Diner nearby]

3640 Street Rd

Bensalem, PA 

Michael's is fairly quiet at 7:30 when the social starts so it's great for mingling and talking.  Many stay to dance or just hang out when the music starts around 9PM

The club only allows people age 21 and over.

We meet alllllllllllllllllllll the way in back, past the dance floor,  to the left of the bar.

 I'll have 3 paper roses at my table.I Ask for Raymond, and I'll introduce you to folks.

 I want an atmosphere where we can focus on socializing, and not so much on BDSM.

 Maybe we do can less of, "What are you into?" "Are you dom or sub?" and more of getting to know the real, full person in front of you.

 There will be vanilla folks nearby, maybe even amongst us. While it isn't just meant for singles or people looking for a relationship, I think we often put up roadblocks to connecting, when we focus so much on BDSM and sex.

 There are already a lot of terrific munches in private or semi-private rooms where we can let our hair down and not worry about what we're going to say. At this social, I ask that you please get to know the full person. Give it a try.

Better friendships and relationships are sure to follow.

 It's essentially in the same parking lot as Quality Inn.

 * Michael's dress code:

 * No sneakers or sneaker like shoes.

 * No work boots or Timberlands. No ripped, torn, baggy jeans or pants.

 * No rubber flip flops

 * No oversized shirts.

 * No shirts with lettering.

 * No sports wear.

 * No baseball caps.

 * No sunglasses.

 * No shorts

Flogging 101  and What to Say After You Say "Hello" workshops  May 5th

Free Parking - Philadelphia

Aphrodite Gallery at Sexploratorium
620 S. 5th St. Philadelphia
Cost: $20 advance, $30 day of class ($5 discount for students and affiliate members)
Tickets are required ( The last Flogging 101 sold out. )

Flogging 101 2:00 PM - 4:00 PM  (Flogging 101 sold out - still space for What to Say After You Say "Hello")

Details and tickets for the flogging workshop:

http://beginnerflogging.eventbrite.com/#

Then What To Say After You Say "Hello"

Sunday, May 05, 2013 · 5:00 PM – 7:00 PM
Sure Fire Conversation for the Terminally Shy

tickets and details:

http://whattosay.eventbrite.com/#

Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

 (Note new time, Michael's new hours, opens a half hour later than it use to)

Saturday May 4th  7:30PM- 9:30PM

 
 (We do this the first Saturday of every month.)

    Michael's Cafe and Night Club [Not Michael's Diner nearby, They're not to creative about names in Bensalem.]

**3640 Street Rd** **Bensalem, PA 19020**

Michael's is fairly quiet at 7:30 when the social starts so it's great for mingling and talking.  Many stay to dance or just hang out when the music starts around 9PM The club only allows people age 21 and over. We meet alllllllllllllllllllll the way in back, past the dance floor,  to the left of the bar.

 I'll have 3 paper roses at my table.I Ask for Raymond, and I'll introduce you to folks.

They started charging a $5.00 cover charge at 8:00 PM

 Other nights they charge the cover at 6PM. So we've been lucky so far.

 No fetish wear, no toys, it's a 'nilla social for BDSM type folks. ( note Michael's dress code at the end of this. )

Michael's Cafe and Night Club [Not Michael's Diner nearby, They're not to creative about names in Bensalem.]

 **3640 Street Rd** **Bensalem, PA 19020**

 I want an atmosphere where we can focus on socializing, and not so much on BDSM.

 Maybe we can less of, "What are you into?" "Are you dom or sub?" and more of getting to know the real, full person in front of you.

There will be vanilla folks nearby, maybe even amongst us. While it isn't just meant for singles or people looking for a relationship, I think we often put up roadblocks to connecting, when we focus so much on BDSM and sex.

There are already a lot of terrific munches in private or semi-private rooms where we can let our hair down and not worry about what we're going to say. At this social, I ask that you please get to know the full person. Give it a try. Better friendships and relationships are sure to follow.

 It's essentially in the same parking lots as Quality Inn.

* Michael's dress code:

* No sneakers or sneaker like shoes.

* No work boots or Timberlands. No ripped, torn, baggy jeans or pants.

* No rubber flip flops

* No oversized shirts.

 * No shirts with lettering.

* No sports wear.

 * No baseball caps.

 * No sunglasses.

* No shorts

Workshop at Sexploratorium, Just off South Street in Philadelphia.
Connections - Putting Emotions Into Play

Saturday, April 27, 2013 · 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM   
Aphrodite Gallery at Sexploratorium
620 S. 5th St. Philadelphia
$20 advance, $30 day of class ($5 discount for students and affiliate members)

Tickets are required for entry. Tickets are available at:
http://puttingemotionintoplay.eventbrite.com/

The Flogging 101 Workshop filled to capacity, so you may want to buy ticket early.

If getting the bottom spacey, happy, and experiencing a good connection is something you enjoy exploring, this workshop may be for you. Getting a partner feeling that way, has way more to do with communication,
emotion, and what's going on inside our minds than physical technique.
 
There's all sorts of ways to get to sub-space. This workshop focuses on the idea of
connecting with your partner, mentally, emotionally as well as physically. There are ways
to connect in any situation, from first time play partners, to intensifying what you
already have naturally with a long term, loving partner.

You'll get a chance to try some of the ideas and you can pick what fits for you.

Presenter Bio:

Starting in the late 70's before the interweb, before knowing anybody actually does this
sort of thing, Wise had to seduce girlfriends into BDSM. The cornerstone of that seduction,
is knowing what each other really needs, and fulfilling that need. This approach has been
alled, "clever," "psychological", "somehow unfair," and even, "dangerously persuasive,"
but Wise explains,
"All I do is lead people where they want to go, because I'm lazy, and because it works"

That's the focus of most of his workshops, find out what you both really need and how you
need to get it. Then lead them there. That's how he gets pretty much whatever he wants.

Carter Steven's Pocono Fall Fetish Fling ( in 1998? ) was his first foray into the
public scene where Joe and candi taught him what they know about flogging.

 After learning from lots of people, he's given workshops at the York Play Group,
Brimstone, The first NDDS bootcamp and The Warehouse and has been a guest speaker at
the Windener University Graduate School of Human Sexuality.

 Wise is married to (not surprisingly) MrsWise, where they live in a surprisingly
bucolic suburb North of Philadelphia. He hosts the nearby BDSM of SEPA Social in
Bensalem, PA.

Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

 (Note new time, Michael's new hours, opens a half hour later than it use to)

Saturday April 6th  7:30PM- 9:30PM

(We do this the first Saturday of every month.)

Michael's Cafe and Night Club [Not Michael's Diner nearby, They're not to creative about names in Bensalem.]

**3640 Street Rd** **Bensalem, PA 19020**

Michael's is fairly quiet at 7:30 when the social starts so it's great for mingling and talking.  Many stay to dance or just hang out when the music starts around 9PM The club only allows people age 21 and over. We meet alllllllllllllllllllll the way in back, past the dance floor,  to the left of the bar.

 I'll have 3 paper roses at my table.I Ask for Raymond, and I'll introduce you to folks.

They started charging a $5.00 cover charge at 8:00 PM

 Other nights they charge the cover at 6PM. So we've been lucky so far.

 No fetish wear, no toys, it's a 'nilla social for BDSM type folks. ( note Michael's dress code at the end of this. )

Michael's Cafe and Night Club [Not Michael's Diner nearby, They're not to creative about names in Bensalem.]

 **3640 Street Rd** **Bensalem, PA 19020**

 I want an atmosphere where we can focus on socializing, and not so much on BDSM.

 Maybe we can less of, "What are you into?" "Are you dom or sub?" and more of getting to know the real, full person in front of you.

There will be vanilla folks nearby, maybe even amongst us. While it isn't just meant for singles or people looking for a relationship, I think we often put up roadblocks to connecting, when we focus so much on BDSM and sex.

There are already a lot of terrific munches in private or semi-private rooms where we can let our hair down and not worry about what we're going to say. At this social, I ask that you please get to know the full person. Give it a try. Better friendships and relationships are sure to follow.

It's essentially in the same parking lots as Quality Inn.

* Michael's dress code:

* No sneakers or sneaker like shoes.

* No work boots or Timberlands. No ripped, torn, baggy jeans or pants.

* No rubber flip flops

* No oversized shirts.

* No shirts with lettering.

* No sports wear.

 * No baseball caps.

* No sunglasses.

* No shorts

I'm spreading the news about my Flogging workshop at the Sexploratorium in Philly.

While some sample floggers will be availalbe, bring the ones you use if you have them.

http://flogging101.eventbrite.com/

https://www.facebook.com/events/520421627996412/20421627996412/

Learn the basics of flogging! Topics include:

-Why Do I Flog Thee?
... and why am I nekkid in front of all these people?
Motivation and understanding from top to bottom.

-Connection
That's the real secret.

-Safety Third!
(only because it's the third thing we'll be covering)

-Boredom and The Art of Flogging
When it looks really boring, it might be sublime.
REALLY understanding what's going on.

-How to Hit
You probably thought this was the most important part.
Here's enough to get to effective flogging.

-What's Spinach Got to Do With It?
Double flogging and what I learned from a total green newbie to BDSM
There's more than just how to double flog. Learning from others.


After we'll be going to The Aviary to play:

https://.com/events/155170

regular link: http://www.theaviaryphilly.com/
The Arts Garage
1533 Ridge Ave Philadelphia PA   
Cost:     $20 at the door, $10 with certain discounts.

The address for parking is 832 N 15th st.
If you go down 15th st, after you pass Parrish st.,
you'll see a grass lot on the right with a wooden fence.
There's a giant mural against the far wall.
Turn right through the big gap in the wooden fence,
and park politely, so that there's room for everyone!

   Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

Saturday March 2nd  7PM

(We do this the first Saturday of every month.)

Michael's Cafe and Night Club [Not Michael's Diner nearby, They're not to creative about names in Bensalem.]

**3640 Street Rd** **Bensalem, PA 19020**

Michael's is fairly quiet at 7 when the social starts so it's great for mingling and talking.  Many stay to dance or just hang out when the music starts around 9PM The club only allows people age 21 and over. We meet alllllllllllllllllllll the way in back, past the dance floor,  to the left of the bar.

I'll have 3 paper roses at my table.I Ask for Raymond, and I'll introduce you to folks.

They started charging a $5.00 cover charge at 7:30

Other nights they charge the cover at 6PM. So we've been lucky so far.

No fetish wear, no toys, it's a 'nilla social for BDSM type folks. ( note Michael's dress code at the end of this. )

Michael's Cafe and Night Club [Not Michael's Diner nearby, They're not to creative about names in Bensalem.]

**3640 Street Rd** **Bensalem, PA 19020**

I want an atmosphere where we can focus on socializing, and not so much on BDSM.

Maybe we can less of, "What are you into?" "Are you dom or sub?" and more of getting to know the real, full person in front of you.

There will be vanilla folks nearby, maybe even amongst us. While it isn't just meant for singles or people looking for a relationship, I think we often put up roadblocks to connecting, when we focus so much on BDSM and sex.

There are already a lot of terrific munches in private or semi-private rooms where we can let our hair down and not worry about what we're going to say. At this social, I ask that you please get to know the full person. Give it a try. Better friendships and relationships are sure to follow.

It's essentially in the same parking lot as Quality Inn.

* Michael's dress code:

* No sneakers or sneaker like shoes.

* No work boots or Timberlands. No ripped, torn, baggy jeans or pants.

* No rubber flip flops

* No oversized shirts.

* No shirts with lettering.

* No sports wear.

* No baseball caps.

* No sunglasses.

* No shorts

Saturday Feb 2nd, 7PM - 9 PM. Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA
  Three paper roses at one of our tables.
   Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

We get new people at each social. 6 new people including 4 single men came to December's. ( I don't know why we get more single women than men...)

This is a chance to get together face-to-face with folks, make new friends, and maybe more.

Saturday Jan 5th, 7PM - 9 PM. Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA
  Three paper roses at one of our tables.
   Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

We get new people at each social. 6 new people including 4 single men came to December's. ( I don't know why we get more single women than men...)

This is a chance to get together face-to-face with folks, make new friends, and maybe more.

Feel free to write if you'd like more information.

Saturday Dec 1st, 7PM - 9 PM. Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA
  Three paper roses at one of our tables.
   Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

Feel free to write if you'd like more information.

Michael's is open Sat the 3rd. No storm damage and they have power.

Saturday November 3rd, 7PM - 9 PM. Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA
  Three paper roses at one of our tables.
   Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA
Saturday October 6th 7PM  Three paper roses at one of our tables.
   Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA
Saturday September 1st 7PM  Three paper roses at one of our tables.
   Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA
Saturday August 4th 7PM  Three paper roses at one of our tables.
   Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA
Saturday July 7th 7PM  Three paper roses at one of our tables.
   Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

After the Connections workshop we'll be going to The Purgatory Rope Class/Play Party/Social    Rope starts at 7PM no extra charge. Play and social start at 9PM. Please write if you have any questions.

Connections: Putting Emotion Into Play with Wise Protector June 30th 5PM

(also that night at La Stanza Restaurant Rope Class at 7PM with Shirbari Warrior

and 9PM at La Stanza, Purgatory Social and Play Party. We'll be able to go to the party and those who are planning on playing, can apply what they learn at the Connections class.)

Date & Time:    Saturday, June 30, 2012 · 5:00 PM – 7:00 PM  
Location:    
Aphrodite Gallery at Sexploratorium
620 S. 5th St. Philadelphia   
Cost:    $20 advance, $30 day of class ($5 discount for students and affiliate members)
Dress code:    Casual
Description:    

For most Tops, getting the bottom spacey, happy, and experiencing a good connection is the focus of play. Getting a partner feeling that way, has way more to do with communication, emotion, and what's going on inside our minds than physical technique.

There's all sorts of ways to get to sub-space. This workshop focuses on the idea of connecting with your partner, mentally, emotionally as well as physically. There are ways to connect in any situation, from first time play partners, to intensifying what you already have naturally with a long term, loving partner. You'll get a chance to try some of the ideas and you can pick what fits for you.

Tell a friend, RSVP on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/events/408435809187773/

 
RSVPs are not tickets- tickets are required for entry. Tickets are available at: http://www.eventbrite.com/event/3573100239

Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA
Saturday July 7th 7PM  Three paper roses at one of our tables.
   Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA
Saturday May. 5th 7PM  Three paper roses at one of our tables.
   Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA
Saturday Arpil. 7th 7PM  Three paper roses at one of our tables.
   Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

And before the social we'll have a New and Nervous Meet and Greet at the Starbucks near the Neshaminy Mall, across from WallMart. Next to the elegant Chick-Fil-A

5:30PM - 6:45

3619 Horizon Blvd.
Trevose, PA 19053-4913
215-354-0617

Three paper roses, I'm Raymond. A chance to meet and if you decide to go to the social, follow us to Michael's. If you have it on your phone I'll be monitoring my yahoo IM wiseprotector@yahoo.com

Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA

 
 Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks
 

Saturday March. 3rd 7PM  Three paper roses at one of our tables.

We have it the first Saturday of each month.

Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA

Saturday Feb. 4th 7 PM  Three paper roses at one of our tables

 Just a 'nilla social for BDSM folks

We're there the first Sat. of each month

Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby ) Bensalem, PA

Saturday Jan. 7th7PM  Three paper roses at one of our tables.

We have it the first Saturday of each month.

Feel free to write if you'd like to know more.

Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby )

Bensalem. Dec, 3rd 7PM  Three paper roses at one of our tables.

Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby )

Bensalem. Nov. 5th 7PM  Three paper roses at one of our tables.

Play Party Social
date    Saturday, Oct 8th, 2011
time:    09:00 PM to 02:00 AM
where:    The Loft (2d Floor) @ La Stanza Restaurant
address: 2001 Oregon Ave,
Philadelphia, PA


cost:    $10.00/person
dress code:    Street Legal to walk in, changing room upstairs. Minimum for the ladies is covered nipples and thong, for the men jock straps, thongs, chasity devices. No one can have visible ass crack.

Cupid match ups as there was quite a few successes from the last one.  

We'll have badges for those who identify as:

 

• Top/Dominant & looking,
 

• bottom/submissive & looking.
 

• Switches & looking
 

• Couples looking for a Third
 

• Queer/Transgendered
 

They will be color coded and we'll have an additional symbol if you want on it to indicate - "Please approach me and say hi."

The restaurant is located in the first floor of the building, opening at 5 pm with the main restaurant closing at 10:30. Food can be served upstairs in the designated areas from the main restaurant (again until 10:30), with the kitchen still serving upstairs noshing food stuff like Fries, chicken fingers and other items listed on the menu until 1 am. Cash bar is located on both floors. After 1 am and open 24/7 is Checkers directly across the street.
 

Play Space is located on the second floor, (sorry, no elevator) and will open at 9 pm until 2 am.
 

The venue is open to everyone, regardless if you're single or in a relationship.

Social at Michael's Cafe and Nite Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby )

Bensalem. Oct. 1 7PM  Three paper roses at one of our tables.

Black Phoenix Purgatory - Oct 8th
    Sat, Oct 08, '11
    Black Phoenix Purgatory - Oct 20th
    Sat, Oct 22, '11
    Black Phoenix Purgatory - November 12th
    Sat, Nov 12, '11

Social the first Sat. of Each month at Michael's Cafe and Night Club ( not Michael's Diner nearby )  next one Oct. 1st, 7PM

Aug 6th, 7PM Social in Bensalem. Michael's Cafe and Nite Club

July 2nd, 7PM Social in Bensalem. Michael's Cafe and Nite Club

June 4th, 7PM Social in Bensalem.  Michael's Cafe and Nite Club 

5/7/2011 Social in Bensalem. 7PM Michael's Cafe and Nite Club

5/7/2011 Social in Bensalem. 7PM Michael's Cafe and Nite Club

Playing at Adobe, March 26th Sat. 8PM play party / social.

Bensalem social Sat. April 2nd at 7PM Michael's Cafe and Night Club.

The Bensalem social will be Sat. March 5th 7PM

Sat. Jan 29th

I'll give my flogging workshop Jan 29th and then we'll be going to the Adobe Cafe play party/social. Please send an email if you'd like more information.

Going to Adobe social/play party Sat. Jan 15th.

The Bensalem social will be Sat. Feb. 5th 7PM

Next Social in Bensalem, PA

Sat. December 4th 7PM